I don’t know if this is even right to post here but I don’t know where else to put this.
I’ve had some bad experiences in the past regarding sex and intimacy. Now I have a wonderful partner, i’m comfortable around him to some extend but somehow there is this big issue for me. And it’s not because i’ve had bad experiences with him, but i think its just generally about sex. I’m scared of the pain and i’m scared of not being good enough. I have no clue how to navigate these feelings, i know i should probably talk to him about it more. But he kind of knows, since we’re not having sex. He knows about my past and he is incredibly patient. But i do want to be intimate with him. I just literally can’t clear my head of these fears and I can’t seem to overcome them.
Is there maybe someone here who has had similar issues or someone who can give me a suggestion how i go about trying to make this work. I don’t want it to stay like this. I feel like we, but mainly he, is missing out on such an important part of the relationship, i don’t want this for him.
I’m grateful for any kind of input that might help 🙂