Most of the women on there are shopping for the top 1% men and the rest are either growing their Instagram following and other services they offer, or just looking for attention.
Men – just leave the fucking Apps. You are a complete and wonderful human being with dignity, not a product that can be summed up in 6 photos and a bio.
I’ve never used them and never will, since I think meeting people naturally is best. I do hate dating apps because they prevent women that could be great for me from going outside and actually meeting me.
Im not great at text communicating in the best of circumstances, nvm as a way to start getting to know someone. So essentially it just feels like wasted effort cause ill probably never actually meet the few matches i get.
The Apps themselves? Like how they will bait you? I set a specific filter, to like 50km around me and the shit shows me someone from Asia as a possible match… which is most likely a bot…
They just want you to stay on the app to make money with adds. The apps have no interest in helping you.
Most guys aren’t pretty to women. Most guys attract women with presence, you can’t convey that on the apps. We’re taught not to appeal to the superficial, that’s all the apps are.
You have a man that’s an 8 just tryna fuck so he’ll give attention to the 4s for a slam dunk, an easy lay, a nut. Of course a 4 will pick an 8 over a 5-6. An 8 won’t give time or day to a 2. So you got a guy, a 5-6 tryna find love. You got a girl, a 4 tryna find love. They gonna miss each other because she thinkin an 8 take her seriously when he’s not. So the 4 holdin out for an 8, a 5-6 only getting play from a 2. Ain’t nobody happy but the dude got his rocks off from a chick comming to see him as a booty call when the bars close.
I’m kinda done with apps, women don’t make the first move, they don’t send the first message, nor do they reply to messages all that often. It’s just gotten to the point of why do women get on the apps if they don’t converse. I get it, they must get many messages a day but come on. Men are tired of making the first move, that includes online and in real life. Grow up and grow a pair and make the first move people. I’m tired of doing it all the time and getting ignored or ghosted. It’s getting to the point of why even do it in the first place if all I get are empty words and actions.
Most guys would be incredibly lucky to get matches and dates. Even if you are thst lucky, you have to deal with the many women. That has an ever increasing list of unrealistic expectations. Which further narrows their dating prospects significantly.
I was working it out with a coworker, as she’s on dating apps. She wants a man who’s at least 6ft (shes 6ft herself), who is financially stable (earns and at least 80k a year she worked out), fit and healthy and drives. Her chances of finding that guy is less that 1% of the male population. But she doesnt want to compromise on any of her requirements.
I explain this because the most frustrating part of dating apps, are dating apps themselves for both parties involved. Most men would be lucky to receive a date. Then the women are getting dates with the men who know they are desirable, so they get what they want out of them and throw them away. It’s just a cesspool at this point.
Not getting matches, plus initiating contact through messages while NO ONE responds.
I’ve deleted all my dating apps about two years ago. Pains me to say I’m still single too, but I respect myself and my mental health too much to keep trying that way.
There’s a lot of talk here blaming the women on dating apps. I understand the position as a man on dating apps. They have the exact opposite problem that you do. There is a massive influx of men doing their best to convince her to spend time with them. That’s incredibly overwhelming. If your phone went off 100 times a day and every single time it was someone pestering you bc youre attractive enough to either love, fuck, or fling you’d spike your phone into oblivion too. Stop blaming the women who don’t have the time or energy to give 100 men a fair shake and come to terms with the fact that there is more than one way to meet someone but its easier to do from your toilet. If the apps bother you try in real life, its terrifying but your odds are drastically higher. That’s not to say the apps dont suck for us but thats a competition issue, like a pond with 100 fisherman. If I looked outside and saw 100 hooks in the air I sure as fuck wouldn’t go for a walk
It reminds me how shit my life really is. Like 20 yo girls with pictures of camping, fishing, travel and skiing but when i was 20 i had to block my dad so he’d stop asking me for money and all my friends were only into playing counter strike or sitting in a dark room drinking. I’ve been fishing and camping too but i have no pictures because i had to go alone.
I get jaded, bitter. Despite my best efforts. Its like we’re a different species.
2 parter for me: 1 is trying to find an opening line. Especially because most women’s pages that I come across leave very little to be discussed or start a conversation about. And 2 is knowing that I’ll most likely get bored or disinterested halfway through the conversation and have to bow out of it
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Being on the app and using it
The ghosting
I don’t have any frustrating parts; dating apps have been pretty decent to me once I had a woman help fix my profile
Sending thought out initial messages to 10s of women and no responses. Or, if one does respond, they’ll ghost you soon enough.
Can we all collectively just quit dating apps?
Most of the women on there are shopping for the top 1% men and the rest are either growing their Instagram following and other services they offer, or just looking for attention.
Men – just leave the fucking Apps. You are a complete and wonderful human being with dignity, not a product that can be summed up in 6 photos and a bio.
Using the app at all. They’re complete trainwrecks and it’s an easy way to hate yourself and waste your time.
no matches
I’ve never used them and never will, since I think meeting people naturally is best. I do hate dating apps because they prevent women that could be great for me from going outside and actually meeting me.
Im not great at text communicating in the best of circumstances, nvm as a way to start getting to know someone. So essentially it just feels like wasted effort cause ill probably never actually meet the few matches i get.
The endless liking just to get almost nothing in return. It feels like I’m applying for a job
The Apps themselves? Like how they will bait you? I set a specific filter, to like 50km around me and the shit shows me someone from Asia as a possible match… which is most likely a bot…
They just want you to stay on the app to make money with adds. The apps have no interest in helping you.
They only work for certain kinds of people. The thing is that since it’s overflowed with too many of us, we are all competing for the same women.
You either end up with little to no matches that are few and far between
Or
When you do match, they might end up ghosting you or not respond to texts at all.
So it’s best to just not invest too much into and go outside into 3rd spaces
Most guys aren’t pretty to women. Most guys attract women with presence, you can’t convey that on the apps. We’re taught not to appeal to the superficial, that’s all the apps are.
You have a man that’s an 8 just tryna fuck so he’ll give attention to the 4s for a slam dunk, an easy lay, a nut. Of course a 4 will pick an 8 over a 5-6. An 8 won’t give time or day to a 2. So you got a guy, a 5-6 tryna find love. You got a girl, a 4 tryna find love. They gonna miss each other because she thinkin an 8 take her seriously when he’s not. So the 4 holdin out for an 8, a 5-6 only getting play from a 2. Ain’t nobody happy but the dude got his rocks off from a chick comming to see him as a booty call when the bars close.
Getting ghosted.
Is there any part of it that’s NOT the most frustrating?
The fact that most men are unattractive to women and that most of that is related to genetics.
I mean… I’m 5’2, so given the superficial nature of dating apps they’re basically useless for me.
I’m kinda done with apps, women don’t make the first move, they don’t send the first message, nor do they reply to messages all that often. It’s just gotten to the point of why do women get on the apps if they don’t converse. I get it, they must get many messages a day but come on. Men are tired of making the first move, that includes online and in real life. Grow up and grow a pair and make the first move people. I’m tired of doing it all the time and getting ignored or ghosted. It’s getting to the point of why even do it in the first place if all I get are empty words and actions.
Most guys would be incredibly lucky to get matches and dates. Even if you are thst lucky, you have to deal with the many women. That has an ever increasing list of unrealistic expectations. Which further narrows their dating prospects significantly.
I was working it out with a coworker, as she’s on dating apps. She wants a man who’s at least 6ft (shes 6ft herself), who is financially stable (earns and at least 80k a year she worked out), fit and healthy and drives. Her chances of finding that guy is less that 1% of the male population. But she doesnt want to compromise on any of her requirements.
I explain this because the most frustrating part of dating apps, are dating apps themselves for both parties involved. Most men would be lucky to receive a date. Then the women are getting dates with the men who know they are desirable, so they get what they want out of them and throw them away. It’s just a cesspool at this point.
Nothing. I no longer use any and deleted all of ’em.
Not getting matches, plus initiating contact through messages while NO ONE responds.
I’ve deleted all my dating apps about two years ago. Pains me to say I’m still single too, but I respect myself and my mental health too much to keep trying that way.
There’s a lot of talk here blaming the women on dating apps. I understand the position as a man on dating apps. They have the exact opposite problem that you do. There is a massive influx of men doing their best to convince her to spend time with them. That’s incredibly overwhelming. If your phone went off 100 times a day and every single time it was someone pestering you bc youre attractive enough to either love, fuck, or fling you’d spike your phone into oblivion too. Stop blaming the women who don’t have the time or energy to give 100 men a fair shake and come to terms with the fact that there is more than one way to meet someone but its easier to do from your toilet. If the apps bother you try in real life, its terrifying but your odds are drastically higher. That’s not to say the apps dont suck for us but thats a competition issue, like a pond with 100 fisherman. If I looked outside and saw 100 hooks in the air I sure as fuck wouldn’t go for a walk
It reminds me how shit my life really is. Like 20 yo girls with pictures of camping, fishing, travel and skiing but when i was 20 i had to block my dad so he’d stop asking me for money and all my friends were only into playing counter strike or sitting in a dark room drinking. I’ve been fishing and camping too but i have no pictures because i had to go alone.
I get jaded, bitter. Despite my best efforts. Its like we’re a different species.
2 parter for me: 1 is trying to find an opening line. Especially because most women’s pages that I come across leave very little to be discussed or start a conversation about. And 2 is knowing that I’ll most likely get bored or disinterested halfway through the conversation and have to bow out of it