We are having our second child soon and I am going to have my first c section. Recovery was really hard the first time around and hosting people was horrific. This time around we decided to set boundaries and the only reasons my parents get to meet the baby sooner is that they are watching our toddler and my mom is going to actually help me heal and not expect me to host her.
My husband told me he told his family a month or two ago that there will not be hospital visitors. They all seemed to take it well and I was skeptical. Well I was right to be because now that we are close they are all trying to push him to give in on those boundaries.
MIL I expected, FIL I was surprised at. The worst part is I was starting to feel sympathy for MIL because it does suck that FIL will meet baby sooner, but that’s what happens when you live hours away and would need to be hosted. My sympathy is gone now with her pushing my husband and trying to guilt him.
DH also did so much cleaning yesterday while I took our toddler to hang out with my family. My mom had my toddler play with her cousins and they just had a great day all around.
This shiny spine development made me feel so much more confident going into postpartum. I’m sure this isn’t the first time they will push boundaries either. I’m just so proud of my husband right now and wanted to share at least one good story.
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