Did your ex ever tried to reach you and wanted to reconsider the thing, how did you respond?
Did your ex ever tried to reach you and wanted to reconsider the thing, how did you respond?
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Did your ex ever tried to reach you and wanted to reconsider the thing, how did you respond?
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She hit me up for rent money about a year after we broke up. I said no and blocked her.
Yeah. I told them no and to never contact me again.
No, but (aside from my first girlfriend) I always made it very clear splitting up was a one way street.
She sent me a friend request after 10 years. Then retracted it after I left it for 3 days.
It felt reeeeaaaaal good.
Yes. I told her to never contact me again, and that our relationship ended because of her actions, not mine, and she knows that. She read the message and never replied. Good.
She asked me to house sit with her and I thought this meant we could restart the relationship. Turned out I would be house sitting all by myself while she’s out banging god knows who somewhere else. I got the money for the house sitting but in retrospect I should have told her to fuck off
I said not a chance.
Ex-wife, but we were going through a divorce when the reach it happened. The guy she had the affair with left. She invited me for dinner to talk about our “situation and how to fix it.” Told her the only way to fix it was to unscrew the guy. She said she couldn’t do that. Told her I wasn’t hungry.
She was actually my first girlfriend. I dated her in high school. I think it was like 4-5 years after high school she sent me a friend request on Facebook. I asked her through messenger why?
She said something on the line of well you’re apart of my past.
To which I replied “Yeah I heard what you said about me after you broke up with me… not really interested in dealing with someone who really wasn’t a pleasant memory or a blast from the past.”
She has completely gone way down hill… she was smart pretty and cute… but man if you looked at her now from then… she completely got into something. I don’t know what, but felt I dodged a bullet.
At least three ex-girlfriends have done this, but were more subtle. “How are you? It’s been so long! We should catch-up sometime.”
In all three cases, I no longer lived anywhere near them, and in the final instance, I was also married by this time. The conversations promptly faded away.
Short version:
With my ex almost 3 years. We bought a house together, split the 20% down payment. She left me two months later (but also left the down payment) for another man, a friend of hers with more considerable financial resources she had a history with. They got married not long after. Sent me a letter 3 months after saying among other things that she’d made a mistake. 3 or 4 months after that she was physically back in the same city as me. Was a long couple of months trying to tell her it would cost me too much personally to ever get back together with her.
No. Our relationship ended because she wanted to be polyamorous after 10 years together. Tried be friends with her after a couple of months and i drove away with tears in my eyes. Haven’t heard from her since and that was 2 years ago. I still and will always love her. It destroyed me like nothing has done before. I wished her merry christmas and happy birthday but never got an answer or thank you.
Yes, though not initially to reconsider a relationship, just renewing the friendship. Eventually we married though.
We dated for 3 weeks, we broke up every Sunday, and by Wednesday, she’d called, and my dick was in her mouth.
But on the third time, she wanted me to call, but I didn’t know the game she was playing, so a few weeks later, she called again, and my dick was in her mouth. Later that day, she texted wanting this thingto be a thing, and i had to let her down easy. It didn’t go well.
A few months later, but less than a year, she called up, but this time, I was engaged and getting married. My dick did not go in her mouth.
A few years later, she called me by accident, I had no idea who she was because I hadn’t saved her number. I hope she’s moved on, and got someone else’s dick in her mouth.
She reached out to try and guilt trip me for my cat. Despite her new boyfriend having a cat already. I told her that we both have partners that we don’t want to upset and we should just cut contact. Funny enough that relationship didn’t last either but I fully admit that one was on me, the other relationship ended because she cheated on me.
Yeah. I said no. We didn’t break up by accident.
I’ve never, ever got back with an ex, no matter how much I wanted it, it never happened. I had one girl talk about it but I dunno. When the relationship is done it’s always best to move on, imho
It’s a long story, but she did on two occasions:
The first was face to face, whining that I ”should‘ve talked to her“ instead of just “letting her go.” I shrugged and told her goodbye.
8-10 year later, she sent me a friend request and though she was now married, she had a history of cheating (which is why I got rid of her in the first place) so I just ignored her request.
I didn’t, but my wife did about 8 years ago. He actually took the time to write her a letter. I called the number he left. I did all of the talking. He did all of the listening. He never bothered her again. I’ve never had an ex who reached out after years apart, but I did have one stalk me and break into my apartment.
Many times
I have had my last two ex’s do this.
The one I ended it with start of the year hasn’t got the hint about why I ended it. I don’t want to be mean, but i just found her boring to talk to
The other one, who dumped me three years ago, tried to get in touch a couple of times and then made a drama last night because she saw me in a pub with a female friend (her girlfriend was at the bar getting g drinks) and thought it was a date.
“I got to block her on this platform too? Damn”
I have one that still hits me up every few months or so and it’s been like 3 years. For some reason I’d feel bad ghosting her so I just respond very blandly and hope she’ll eventually get the hint.
TL;DR: emotionally invested in someone for months before she turned coldhearted amd told me to fuck off. She comes back 4 years later trying to date me. I tell her itll never happen.
Yes this actually just happened over the course of the last month. We were (19W/23M) at the time. We met November 2020.
We never officially dated but we did hang out and i took her to dinners as well as to places to have fun like Top Golf etc. my intentions were laid out from the start so there was no confusion about what i wanted. We had sleep overs, would text/talk/facetime all day for months during the time which i grew more and more attached to her. She was really sweet and just my type.
Heres where i fucked up. I ate from the same place i took a shit. She was a coworker. I really wish i knew what happened and even now shes never told me what happened but out of nowhere she immediately stopped talking to me. She ignored my texts, she declined my calls, and she even wouldn’t even speak to me at work. She told me before that she deals with stress from her parents wanting her to go back to college so i tried to give her space. It really began hurting the most when i would see her laughing and playing around with everyone else at work but when i approached her for anything at all (personal or work-related) she would turn into this emoji “😒” and her whole mood would dry up and would barely respond. This felt so deflating especially coming from someone you had genuine interest in. In the end she ended up just telling me “leave me the fuck alone” which i did back in February 2021, 4 months after we started talking.
Fast forward to May 2025 and its my birthday. I got a message on FB from her wishing me a happy birthday and i responded thanking her and asking her how shes been. I never really hated her for how she responded so i didnt mind communicating with her. Anyhow, we ended up exchanging numbers and we start reminiscing about working at the grocery store back in NC. Laughing at all the scenarios etc shes telling me about the major falling outs shes had with the women we worked along side that were her closest friends etc. i tell her i actually moved all the way to the other side of the country and i notice it seems shes showing a bit of interest in me.
Now im ngl, all though i don’t have any interest in her anymore, i still did have the biggest crush on her so i told her if we ever met, we deff had to hang out and get a hotel bc i still want to sleep with her for the experience. To my surprise, shes completely open to catching a $500 flight to come see me out west.
Before that happened though, we started speaking about our ideas of relationships and marriages and how muxh of a broken system it all is and she tells me shes hurt by my take on them so i asked her if she had intentions of dating me. She sent a very long paragraph but ultimately she said yes. I couldnt do anything but stare at my phone bc obv shes clueless to how she made me feel back in NC. So finally after 4+ years of not speaking and the last thing being said to me was “leave me the fuck alone”, i finally told her how what she had done made me feel like complete shit. Its so emotionally deflating seeing someone you really like look excited to talk to everyone else but you.
After my long paragraph of explaining to her just how much emotional damage it all caused, i told her we could never be anything serious. Id be disrespecting myself allowing that to happen. We havent spoken since.
It felt extremely vindicating.
Had an ex contact me cause the guy she cheated on me with ended up cheating on her, I just responded with “Now you know how it feels” and just blocked her before she could respond
In a way, sure.
We broke up, I blocked her, but then i saw her walking in some booty shorts right outside my place at the time.
I could not help myself! We went to the staircase and reminisced on old times.