Hopefully this is ok to post here as it’s not technically my mother, but my mother’s sister.
My mother and I have been NC for well over 6 years and her sister, my aunt, had stepped in to more of a mother role for me… and as soon as I got pregnant she went off the deep end.
For my entire pregnancy she would call and rant for up to 2 hours a day about how awful her ex-husband and kids were, how she was the victim in every aspect of her life, and how her new boyfriend was just soooooooo amazing. She would also go on tangents about how my mother and brother were awful to her during her pregnancies… I should’ve seen the warning signs but I was in a high risk pregnancy and I didn’t want to see it.
Long story short, I asked her to come down for the birth and to be here for two weeks afterwards. Thankfully I ended up being induced before she arrived because I actually think there would have been a murder in the delivery room. She was awful the entire time she was here. She was in alcohol withdrawal (and possibly other substances), spent hours wandering around with my son while on the phone to her boyfriend while I cooked and cleaned, screamed at me about how all my window sills were dirty, called me disgusting (again, couldn’t deep clean the house because high risk pregnancy) and threatened to punch me while I held my 8 day old son, stayed up all night talking to her boyfriend and then complained she was tired after I spent 7 hours sitting silently trying to breastfeed so she could sleep (no TV because she said it was too loud and she couldn’t sleep), and told several of my friends and neighbours she was calling child protection on me because I was an unfit mother.
The stress eventually caused my milk to dry up and my son and I were re-hospitalised for his feeding issues. It took me 6 months to bond with my son, I had PPR and PPD as a result of her antics.
And then when I went to visit family interstate she had the audacity to turn up and call my son “her baby”. It took everything in me not to punch her in the throat.
I’m sure there’s more but I’m running out of phone battery so that’s as much of the story as you can have right now.
BTW kiddo is thriving now.
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I’m just not sure why she’s in your life? Are you legally obligated to stay in touch with her?