Hi everybody!
I first of all just wanted to say thank you all for your overwhelming support over this past week or so. I haven’t been able to fully comprehend everything that’s gone on since I made that post until today, but I have been reading all your comments and messages and I’ve been incredibly grateful.
To get right into things, I stayed at my sister’s house for an entire day and night before receiving a text from my husband asking if I would come home so we could talk. I wasn’t sure if I was quite ready to forgive him- not just for our entire initial fight, but also for nearly 36 hours of radio silence to follow. But, I wanted to figure out a resolution, and I figured that waiting any longer would only be more harmful.
After nearly two days of no contact with one another I figured things were calm enough that both him and I could sit down and have a rational, adult conversation about what happened. To my surprise, when I first walked in the door I was greeted by my husband tearfully hugging me and apologizing profusely, presenting me with a bouquet of flowers and homemade pancakes from scratch. I was very appreciative of the gestures and I made sure to inform him that I was, but I reiterated that there was a lot of discussion that needed to take place before I was in a place to forgive him.
He agreed with me on that, and as the two of us sat down together I realized I didn’t want to start with the question of what specifically made him angry about that night, in case it just frustrated him again. We had a pretty long conversation afterwards about communication and such that I wont bore you with, until I finally felt comfortable enough asking why he specifically got so angry with me over something that the entire anal sex-having-world agrees is not only normal but expected.
I could tell he was sort of embarrassed/nervous to answer me, and at first he couldn’t really come up with anything to say other than “I just didn’t realize it would happen like that.” I continued trying to explain everything I read and have continued to read about how common of an occurrence bowel movements are after anal sex until he eventually he blurted out “It’s just not usually like that.”
I was pretty taken aback by that sentence, and the look on his face after he said it told me he realized he shouldn’t have, so I asked him what exactly he meant and reminded him this was supposedly a first time thing for both of us. He immediately backtracked and swore that it was, and he started rambling some admission that he’d been watching a lot of porn and his brain had just formed a specific idea of how anal sex usually went, and it was just a reaction out of embarrassment on his part for not expecting it.
It was so clear he was lying that it actually shocked me to the point of tears. He was all of a sudden so willing to tell me all about this secret habit of watching porn with anal sex, when before he’d apparently felt the need to hide it, and couldn’t even come to me to say he was watching it and wanted to try it in real life. I told him if he didn’t tell me what was really going on I was going back to my sister’s house, and he broke down in tears once again.
Eventually through his fits of sobbing I got out of him that for over a year now, he’s been having an affair with his 26 year old male coworker. Apparently a few months before that coworker started at the company my husband had been questioning whether or not he was bisexual, and after they met and he found out his coworker was gay the two of them hit it off and had a whole thing. So I guess that’s why he was asking about anal sex.
I genuinely think he was trying to use this all as some sort of twisted logic to his reaction seem justified and make sense, but it honestly made me feel a million times worse than if I just found out he was cheating in general. It had nothing to do with the coworker being a man, it was more the thought that my husband couldn’t even enjoy having sex with me as a person on my own, but instead had to make reality as close as it could get and then imagine it was with him instead of with me.
Obviously I was absolutely devastated and told him I was leaving again, and he continued begging me to stay and ask for us to work on fixing things together. I told him the time for that was back when he first started questioning his sexuality, and said I’d of course have supported him and helped him figure out what that meant for him and for our relationship, but at this point I was having no part of it.
Eventually his tears turned to anger once more and he accused me of being biphobic. I think he realized immediately once he said it that he’d fucked up- my sister is literally bisexual and married to a woman- but he didn’t say anything to contradict himself after that. I ignored him and gathered some basic essentials before leaving and heading back to my sister’s house a complete wreck.
As things stand now I am of course planning for divorce, but that is obviously a long process and is going to take awhile. I have contacted a lawyer already and have been making sure to take precautions so I’m not just left in the dust when everything settles. Otherwise, I guess I’m not in quite as much shock right now but when I think about it for too long my brain starts to unravel a bit. I wanted to say thank you again to everyone who commented and left me advice on my initial post- I deeply appreciate all of you for your support and understanding. Without it, I don’t think I’d have gotten to a place where I questioned anything that happened, and I would still be in a relationship with a man who clearly does not care enough about me to be honest. If anything crazy happens in the future I will be sure to update you all again, but for now, this is the end to this insane story of needing to poop after sex.
EDIT
A quick edit because someone messaged me to ask about this and I realized I left it out of the story- our daughters are both doing okay and right now are staying with me at my sister’s house. They’re both teenagers so telling them wasn’t quite as hard as I imagine it is telling young children. I of course didn’t go into any details and I tried not to explicitly paint my husband in any negative light, as he is still their father and I don’t want what happened between him and I interfering with their relationship to him. That said, my oldest figured out pretty quickly that cheating was involved and asked me about it privately later. I again gave no details, but I did confirm her suspicions. I feel that if she is old enough to ask about it happening, she’s old enough for me to respect her by being as truthful as I can with her.
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Backup of the post’s body: Hi everybody!
I first of all just wanted to say thank you all for your overwhelming support over this past week or so. I haven’t been able to fully comprehend everything that’s gone on since I made that post until today, but I have been reading all your comments and messages and I’ve been incredibly grateful.
To get right into things, I stayed at my sister’s house for an entire day and night before receiving a text from my husband asking if I would come home so we could talk. I wasn’t sure if I was quite ready to forgive him not just for our entire initial fight but also for nearly 36 hours of radio silence to follow, but I wanted to figure out a resolution and I figured that waiting any longer would only be more harmful.
After nearly two days of no contact with one another I figured things were calm enough that both him and I could sit down and have a rational, adult conversation about what happened. To my surprise, when I first walked in the door I was greeted by my husband tearfully hugging me and apologizing profusely, presenting me with a bouquet of flowers and homemade pancakes from scratch. I was very appreciative of the gestures and I made sure to inform him that I was, but I reiterated that there was a lot of discussion that needed to take place before I was in a place to forgive him.
He agreed with me on that, and as the two of us sat down together I realized I didn’t want to start with the question of what specifically made him angry about that night, in case it just frustrated him again. We had a pretty long conversation afterwards about communication and such that I wont bore you with, until I finally felt comfortable enough asking why he specifically got so angry with me over something that the entire anal sex-having-world agrees is not only normal but expected.
I could tell he was sort of embarrassed/nervous to answer me, and at first he couldn’t really come up with anything to say other than “I just didn’t realize it would happen like that.” I continued trying to explain everything I read and have continued to read about how common of an occurrence bowel movements are after anal sex until he eventually he blurted out “It’s just not usually like that.”
I was pretty taken aback by that sentence, and the look on his face after he said it told me he realized he shouldn’t have, so I asked him what exactly he meant by that, and reminded him that this was supposedly a first time thing for both of us. He immediately backtracked and swore that it was, and he started rambling some admission that he’d been watching a lot of porn and his brain had just formed a specific idea of how anal sex usually went, and it was just a reaction out of embarrassment on his part for not expecting it.
It was so clear he was lying that it actually shocked me to the point of tears. He was all of a sudden so willing to tell me all about this secret habit of watching porn with anal sex, when before he’d apparently felt the need to hide it, and couldn’t even come to me to say he was watching it and wanted to try it in real life. I told him if he didn’t tell me what was really going on I was going back to my sister’s house, and he broke down in tears once again.
Eventually through his fits of sobbing I got out of him that for over a year now, he’s been having an affair with his 26 year old male coworker. Apparently a few months before that coworker started at the company my husband had been questioning whether or not he was bisexual, and after they met and he found out his coworker was gay the two of them hit it off and had a whole thing. So I guess that’s why he was asking about anal sex.
I genuinely think he was trying to use this all as some sort of twisted logic to his reaction seem justified and make sense, but it honestly made me feel a million times worse than if I just found out he was cheating in general. It had nothing to do with the coworker being a man, it was more the thought that my husband couldn’t even enjoy having sex with me as a person on my own, but instead had to make reality as close as it could get and then imagine it was with him instead of with me.
Obviously I was absolutely devastated and told him I was leaving again, and he continued begging me to stay and ask for us to work on fixing things together. I told him the time for that was back when he first started questioning his sexuality, and said I’d of course have supported him and helped him figure out what that meant for him and for our relationship, but at this point I was having no part of it.
Eventually his tears turned to anger once more and he accused me of being biphobic. I think he realized immediately once he said it that he’d fucked up- my sister is literally bisexual and married to a woman- but he didn’t say anything to contradict himself after that. I ignored him and gathered some basic essentials before leaving and heading back to my sister’s house a complete wreck.
As things stand now I am of course planning for divorce, but that is obviously a long process and is going to take awhile. I have contacted a lawyer already and have been making sure to take precautions so I’m not just left in the dust when everything settles. Otherwise, I guess I’m not in quite as much shock right now but when I think about it for too long my brain starts to unravel a bit. I wanted to say thank you again to everyone who commented and left me advice on my initial post- I deeply appreciate all of you for your support and understanding. Without it, I don’t think I’d have gotten to a place where I questioned anything that happened, and I would still be in a relationship with a man who clearly does not care enough about me to be honest. If anything crazy happens in the future I will be sure to update you all again, but for now, this is the end to this insane story of needing to poop after sex.
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You are capable of much more than you give yourself credit on. It is also bravery to leave since the other has gaslit, cheated and manipulated them. I am so sorry that this happened but you handled it like a damn queen
I am so proud of you for being so level-headed and holding to your boundaries. You are a complete QUEEN! I wish you all the best moving forward. Namaste.
@updateme
Oh my. I was NOT expecting this. I’m so sorry that you’re dealing with this. This is so deeply fucked up. You seem to know you deserve better than this and I’m grateful for you that you have your sister to lean on. Take care of yourself, OP.
Holy fuck. That took an unexpected turn (imo). Good on you girl for getting to the truth. We are proud of you. I’m positive you were more shocked than us readers. Many hugs, good luck. Also PSA I’ve heard annulments are cheaper than divorces, so look into that too 🩶
I am sorry you are experiencing this. This is truly horrible and cruel. You don’t deserve being cheated on. Don’t let him excuse this with him being bi. That is no excuse.
Please tell people that he cheated. Don’t let him control the narrative. You don’t have to out him, but don’t let him twist the story.
I’m really sorry this happened to you. What a man-child.
I know things are hard right now, but please consider getting tested for STIs. Be safe.
OP. I am so sorry this happened. This goes beyond the pale of what I could have ever imagined. Please, and I mean this, please get yourself a therapist if you don’t have one already, and surround yourself with people who love you. I suggest muting your soon to be ex, and allowing yourself the time to grieve.
So sorry again.
Oh wow. A few people predicted this. I am so so sorry but so glad it all came out. Wishing you the best through all this.
Updateme
Wow! This is not at all what I was expecting. I was expecting your husband to be a regulars, run-of-the-mill AH. He went for the gold medal.
Hang in there, OP. Continue to be strong.
I read your original post and like every one else decided that your husband was a dickhead. It turns out that, that was even more true than we thought. I’m so sorry that this ‘man’ cheated an tried to hide it, then blamed shifted. Take time to heal an get as much support from friends and family. If asked, tell them. He cheated, with a man. Hold your head up high,you did absolutely nothing wrong.get what ever evidence you need and lawyer up an divorce asap. Sending you great big hugs, stay strong. Xx
woah that took a very unexpected turn
I am so sorry this is how this has all turned out, OP. Please take care of yourself! I cannot imagine what you’re going through. Stay strong and I’m so grateful you have your sister for support.
Omg. When I came looking for an update, I was very much expecting a groveling husband that had just watched too much porn.
I’m so so sorry this happened especially because if he had just been honest this could have been a journey you undertook together. Instead it’s just really really … sad? Infuriating maybe? All of this could have been avoided and he KNOWS it which is why he’s been so quick to anger. You deserve better, you know it, I know it, HE knows it.
I truly hope you can find peace after this.
Wow, that is not the update I was imagining. Great job, sticking up for yourself and seeing through the bullshit. It now makes sense why he reacted that way. He shot himself in the foot for sure. Good for you, cheating is cheating and if he had feelings about his sexuality, he should have talked to you. I imagine as a guy or anyone for that matter, it would be a difficult conversation. However, the solution is not to cheat to figure it out.
Good luck in the future, please make sure your credit/bank accounts are shut off to him etc. I don’t know your financial situation but you don’t deserve to be taken advantage of financially as well.
I am so sorry this happened to you. I wish you healing and happiness moving forward. Updateme!
Well that took a turn. Fuck this dude. I was like maybe he just freaked out and had a dumb moment. This mf was cheating and then on top of it was not his first time playing in a mud hole. Should have known. Every time a dude does some weird shit it’s 90% cheating. The sad thing is OP sounds like she be down for some MMF fun getting plugged up or pegging him and all sorts of cool shit and all this ass hat had to do was communicate. What a tool.
Wishing you lots of healing from that idiotic ex husband of* yours, I’m glad to know you have your sister and her wife to lean on during this time, don’t forget to get tested we don’t know who the co worker was sleeping with and if it was only your husband better safe than sorry when cheating is involved.
He is going to regret this forever. You are the entire package for any man!
Get tested. Sorry he’s such a dick…
News flash: flowers and pancakes insufficient in mitigating years long gay affair. Details at 11.
From an actual bisexual- I’m so sorry you have been put through this. Your ex is a pathetic excuse for a human.
PLEASE GET A FULL STI PANEL!
It’s really easy for us to slip into thinking we could have done x or what if we had done y. Don’t do that. This was entirely his stupidity and selfishness at work.
There’s no kids, right? That’s usually the worst and hardest hit in divorce, so if there aren’t any, then the process may be long but at least it won’t be producing that kind of pain. Otherwise be prepared for him to find a way to blame you, especially to friends, coworkers, and family. Catch that stuff before he can blow up your reputation.
I wish you all the best, and I hope you can move on from him healthily and quickly.
Wow. This was definitely not the update I was expecting. So sorry OP…
My husband always says that if you play in poops home, you can’t be mad when poop shows up.
Holy shit I was not expecting this update
I’m so sorry you’re going through this OP
Him trying to turn the table as you being biphobic was a totally shitty move – cheating is cheating no matter the gender of the affair partner. All this bullshit about being understanding of someone finding their true selves and embracing their new found sexuality is just that BULLSHIT, he should’ve just left before starting an affair with a man.
Get yourself STD tested asap too
i feel like you need to stay in the house and kick him out. im worried this is giving him legal rights over the house and your stuff?
What a shitstorm.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this!
I’m so sorry that this happened to you.
I’m so sorry your husband didn’t have the courage to share with you. What he was feeling and instead decided that infidelity was the answer.
I don’t know how you could go back to him because you can love someone, but if you can’t trust them, you couldn’t have a relationship with them anyway. And regardless of how you feel about him, you could probably never trust him again, and who could blame you?
It may have been pointed out to some of the comments, but you should see a doctor immediately. You have no idea if your husband‘s been having unprotected sex or what risks might be involved here. He has no idea of this person he’s been screwing has been sleeping around with a bunch of other people. That’s the other inexcusable thing about infidelity he puts your health at risk instead of just having the courage to talk to you.
I wish you the very best of luck
I AM SO SORRY??? that must be so devastating. I don’t say this to add to your stress but please get an STD panel. If he didn’t respect you enough to be loyal we don’t know if he was respectful enough to be safe about it either. I admire your discernment and your willingness to trust yourself and press him for the truth after having been manipulated already. Take care, OP. Sending prayers and happy thoughts for your and your daughters.
Wow. That was a twist I didn’t see coming. I’m sorry for that. I hope you and your kids make it through this ok. That’s tough.
The way my jaw DROPPED when I read the words “he’d been having an affair”.
I can’t even find words.
I’m so sorry! Oh, and please get yourself tested.
Others may have said already but please go get an STD test ASAP.
UpDateme
I can officially say I saw that one coming- not the man part but the cheating part oml
Omg… thank you for the update, queen 👑
Updateme
I’m glad (sad for you, since he convinced you to waste so much time on him, but that can’t be recovered, so the mention of it isn’t helpful) that he’s MAYBE on the track to realising who he is… but also furious at him for taking up so much of your life with his insecurities. 😤
Also – he should be made aware that all anal porn “actors” take aenemas before every shoot. Real life is VERY different.
This surprisingly was not a plot twist I was expecting at all
I’m so sorry OP. That’s the last thing I thought would happen. It’s violating the cheating, of course, but also the fact you were married to an idiot and never knew.
Guys have a tendency to ignore the fact girls poop. We poop just like them. No dainty bunny poops. We get blowouts too.
Anal can be amazing. It really can. So I hope you get over this traumatic ‘shitty’ situation and find a partner who values you in every way.
Much love.
Holy hell, what an update. OP I’m so sorry that your (ex)husband lied to you for a year, that is absolutely devastating. I can’t believe this is how it ended. I hope you & your children will heal from this and you can find some happiness, whether that be with a new someone (whenever you’re ready of course) or on your own! hugs
Girl I had not expected this at all! I’m floored. Good for you for leaving and not letting him bully or guilt you into staying
I’m so sorry. What a piece of crap to call you phobic just because he can’t remain faithful.
In a year you will be mostly beyond him. The only thing you are losing is an unfaithful partner who puts your health at risk.
Why does the problem always lead back to them cheating 😭😭
Updateme
Gurl this is the biggest plot twist ever! I’m so glad you took that shit! And I’m sorry about your cheating husband 🥺❤️. Hugs and love ❤️❤️❤️
Please make sure you get tested
Sorry you are going through this. Be sure you get tested if you haven’t already.
Get yourself tested ASAP!
Definitely get an attorney pronto and get tested for everything including HIV, Hepatitis, herpes, HPV, etc – the full kahuna. Be candid with your doctor about his affair being with a man. I’m so sorry that you’re going thru this but I’m so glad you got the truth finally and that although hard is a gift because he will no longer be your kryptonite. You can leave him knowing it was the best thing for you and your girls. I pray that he at least had the decency to use protection with his affair partner but considering his selfishness, I wouldn’t bank on it. Praying that all your tests come back clean and at least you don’t have to worry that he’s given you some horrible disease. Sending you strength as you move through a very difficult time. You deserve so much better than this. I hope one day you find it.
The first thing you should do is go to your gynecologist for a full check up. If the intercourse was unprotected, and your husband is having unprotected sex with others, you might have been exposed to a number of serious diseases, including AIDS.
Then, work with your lawyer to kick your husband out of the house. You and your children should not be out on the street. He should be the one to have to leave.
Edited to clarify the sexual activity
WOW not what I thought was going to end up happening! You’re doing amazingly well! I’m glad so many have mentioned getting tested for STD’s but anything you may want to look into is the relationship he was having with the co-worker. I know a lot of companies do not condone that, in case you want to really stick it to him.
Fiction. Parts 1 & 2. Complete fiction 😂
Updateme
Jesus – what a plot twist! If I have whiplash, I can only imagine how you’re going OP. I’m so sorry.
Wishing you peace as you navigate through this.
UpdateMe!
I’m so sorry to hear that! I honestly was expecting a secret anal porn fetish, but cheating is just the worst. You’ve done nothing wrong here, please keep your head held high. I’m glad you’re getting an sti panel, his selfishness risked your health.
Wow that is…wow.
Updateme
UpdateMe!
Good luck OP. Make sure to get sti check and take care of you
WOAH
I dont know what I expected, but it was not this!
Op, I just have to say, you are incredibly emotionally intelligent and a great communicator. I am so sorry this is how it all turned out.
Eta: I dont want to scare you, but you should get checked out by a doctor, just to make sure he didnt give you anything.
So I’m guessing his boyfriend explained it was normal too.
Updateme!
Please go get tested for STIs
If I had a nickel every time something like this has happened in my life to people very close to me, I’d have three nickels. Sorry this has happened to you. There are support groups out there for men who have affairs with other men and hide them and their sexuality from their partners.
You should stay at the house with the girls and he should stay with his boyfriend.
Holy shit I wasn’t expecting that. What a hell of a way to figure all this out. I can’t believe he actually thought you would co sided working things out after this. Good luck
UpdateMe
OP is he wanting to stay together? What’s his stance and excuses for all this? Does he want a divorce? I’d love to hear what his take on what’s happened is.
I totally agree on you leaving, cheating is cheating, and this was particularly icky, but I just wonder what the weasel was thinking would happen 😂
Is he planning on shacking up with the 26yr old, haha good luck to him.
He’s just analed his whole life 😂
Wow, that’s not how I thought this update would go. I’m so sorry, but I’m glad that you have your sister to lean on.
Glad you left. Please go get an STD screening.
What’s wild is as I was reading your first post, I said to myself “he’s either watching a lot of anal porn or he’s having anal sex with someone else” and I was surprised that he admitted to BOTH! Though perhaps the porn was mostly a cover, though I’m sure it’s in the mix. I’m so sorry this all happened, I’m happy you posted about it and got rational feedback, and I’m so glad you’re leaving. Sending you and your daughters strength and healing.
OP, you may have needed to use the bathroom after, but he was the one who sh@t the marital bed.
Best wishes for the bright cheater free future
Updateme
Had in the first half….what a twist!
I’m so sorry that this has happened to you, I really was not expecting this for an update after reading your original post.
Please please please go get STD checks.
If you need someone to speak to, please don’t hesitate to drop a DM.
Sending lots of care and love your way during such a difficult time
You need to get tested for STI’s and start separating your assets
I feel for you. Your husband obviously is going through an awakening, but cheating is not the answer in our society. I wish you luck. The guy is a fool.
Wow! I’m so happy to hear OP is free of this lying, cheating, ENRAGED man. I hope she enjoys her freedom.
@updateme
HOLY SHIT (pa da tsh)
NOT the SHIT (pa da tsh) i was expecting AT ALLLLLLLLLLLLLL 🤯
Hate to say it but don’t forget to get tested sometime. I’m sorry OP, this is awful.
Updateme!
Oh my gosh. That was heartbreaking to read. I’m so sorry that his insecurity led to him hurting you. Believing you have a solid relationship and working hard to achieve good communication then that belief being upended was one of the worst times of my life. I just want to say that he made the decisions. This outcome is fully his likely based on his own internalized homophobia. He’s targeting you because he knows he’s fucked something beautiful that he will likely never have again.
You did nothing wrong. Nothing wrong by trusting him or not knowing what he was doing behind your back. None of this is on you. Nothing is wrong with you. You’re not lacking anything. You sound amazing. I hope you know this and remember it.
Please go get tested who knows if he’s telling all of the truth most cheaters trickle the truth. Also, check his company for non-fraternization clause. Get a lawyer collect as much evidence as possible. Some states have alienation of affection clauses that will allow you to sue the other person.
The best part is documenting all of this online for your children to find and learn all the details
Wow, I am so sorry! I didn’t see this coming at all! Big hugs to you and your daughters!
Holy shit. literally. it was in front of us the whole time
100% needs to be on the next episode. Im so shocked on this update. Like??? What’s going on here?? Im dont even have advice OP. You are a very strong person. Wow. What the fuck.
I’d be extremely concerned about STD’s.
What. The. Fuck.
Paragraph 8. PARAGRAPH 8!
wow the bar was in hell and he still managed to limbo under it
Ohmygod???? I heard this on the podcast the other day at work and remembered only bits and pieces… was not expecting this!!! I just know Im gonna be shocked all over again when I hear it on the podcast wow.
Edit: this just came to mind, PLEASE get tested!!!
Wow. I’m very sorry about all of this and I wish you all the best.
updateme
You might want to find a way to tell your daughters some of the truth before he spins it to make you the bad guy to them. He already tried calling you biphobic to your face when he didn’t get his way, what’s to stop him from trying to manipulate your daughters the same way?
You don’t have to go into specifics about how this all started, but explaining that you two had a serious argument and he ended up admitting to cheating on you. You are not lying or slandering him, just telling the basic truth of why you’re divorcing him. If his actions make them think less of him then that’s the consequences of his own actions.
But absolutely be honest with them and get ahead of this before he tries to paint you as a bigot and hide his affair, because he absolutely will do so with everyone if he hasn’t already started.
Updateme
Make an appointment with your GYN and tell him you need to be tested for any and all STI because your husband admitted sexual infidelity. Make sure you are tested for HIV and ask if prophylactic treatment is available for you. Good luck.
My first impressions “Jesus, what a dumb fucker”
Holy shit
Going through a similar experience I guess I had a little panic attack reading this…I feel so bad for you…I’m glad you can stay at your sisters until you can unravel this disaster.
You can come up with a better fiction story than this, I believe in you.
wow, what a story! so sorry for what you have been through!
Boy, that escalated quickly
Damn, I was NOT expecting THAT!!
I am so sorry this happened to you and I hope you are able to heal from this.
Girrlllll this update…. Holy shit…
Jesus I am so sorry. I have no words. I am so glad you have a supportive family to help you out during this process.
I was not expecting this admission! I’m so sorry OP. Please make sure to get to the dr for a test.
Just… wow. Glad to see you taking care of yourself and the kids. Sounds like he has some thinking to do and some learning to do. And looks like he’ll have plenty of alone time to do it.
Wow I’m really sorry that this is happening to you. I can only imagine how you’re feeling right now, but I’m really angry on your behalf.
Hugs OP.
I’m so sorry this has ended like this.
OMFG! You need to be tested for EVERY STI under the sun ASAP! Did he bother using protection while he was having this affair? Did you ask? Did he tell you one way or another?
Nah what the fuck did i just read im so sorry youre going through this rn. 🫂🫂😭💗💗💗
As others have said GET TESTED WHO KNOWS WHAT YOU HAVE BEEN EXPOSED TO
UPDATEME
He called you Biphobic ??!😭 He was literally your husband! like wtf. what does biphobia have to do with anything when you’re supposed to be in a monogamous marriage. Bro was literally caught having an affair and STILL had the audacity. Prioritize yourself, take it day by day OP, youre extremely brave and you know your worth. I commend you.
You’re not biphobic, you’re cheating-scum-phobic, a vastly different thing!
A cheater is a cheater. I’m glad you filled your daughters in already, because I think you know your husband is going to try and use bigotry as a deflection for his fuck up. Was he using protection with his coworker? If not, you should get tested.
You need to get tested for HIV, syphilis and gonorrhoea.
Girl. I hug you. He’s so painfully deceitful.
Yikes. Your husband was porking and/or getting porked by another dude.
That’s rough. I’d go get tested immediately if you didnt already. When someone steps out you cant trust that they used condoms or that the condoms were effective.
Omg sweetheart, I did not expect this at all! Please get your self tested! If he can lie to you and have a whole other relationship, you can’t trust him to have been protected, and you may be exposed. Please get some counselling to deal with this deep betrayal. My heart breaks for you. Sending hugs
I hope you’ve also got tested. He’s trickle truthing this
Im so flabbergasted 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯 like fr. Did not know this would be the update. You can’t compete with a man…yes girl let tht shit go.
Omg I am so sorry!!!!!
Wow please get tested as well. Make sure you’re not sick on top of all this. Sorry you’re going through this.
Uh huh
Where i can read the original post?