What’s worse? Blocking someone’s number and not knowing if they’re trying to reach you or not blocking it and knowing they’re not trying to reach out?
I tried blocking it, but then I got anxiety about the thought of him trying to reach out to me. So I unblocked it. But then I saw after a few hours that he wasn’t trying to contact me. So what should I do? I think both options make me anxious.
Blocking it gives me control. It makes me feel like I can move forward but it also makes me so anxious to think he might wanna talk. We wouldn’t get back together, but I just want to be there for him because he has a lot of issues. And then not blocking it makes me sad. And it makes me feel like I’m waiting for a message that will never come. It’s pathetic.
(He blocked me on snap and IG but didn’t block my phone number)
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I tried blocking it, but then I got anxiety about the thought of him trying to reach out to me. So I unblocked it. But then I saw after a few hours that he wasn’t trying to contact me. So what should I do? I think both options make me anxious.
Blocking it gives me control. It makes me feel like I can move forward but it also makes me so anxious to think he might wanna talk. We wouldn’t get back together, but I just want to be there for him because he has a lot of issues. And then not blocking it makes me sad. And it makes me feel like I’m waiting for a message that will never come. It’s pathetic.
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I’ve never blocked an ex
I just don’t contact unless need to, and same for them
Mute them. Do not contact unless it is actually life or death.
You broke up. You may WANT to talk to him but it isn’t good for you.
Block. Go no contact. Give yourself a chance to heal.
if he blocked u on snap and IG but left the number open, that’s not deep feelings, that’s ego bait. don’t fall for it. you’re not pathetic btw, you’re just human. but also… maybe stop trying to be his emotional support when he dipped first.
Question:
Will you be tempted to reached out? Perhaps in a moment of weakness?
If so, then block them. That extra step is like the safety on a pistol.
If you won’t be tempted to contact them leave them unblocked unless/until necessary
Ask yourself this: Are you keeping the door cracked open for him, or are you trying to keep yourself from slamming it shut too fast out of fear? Sometimes we confuse compassion for someone else with avoidance of our own healing.
If he blocked you on social media, he’s already drawing boundaries. You’re allowed to do the same
Block him. If there’s a true emergency trust me he’ll find a way to get hold of you. I recently blocked a friend who was unbelievably disrespectful. She hasn’t apologized.ed but we are still connected on socials, she knows where I live. If she wanted to reach out she could. But this way I won’t get any more upsetting texts nor will I butt dial.
Block. If you’re broken up the only reason he’d contact you would be to hurt you or try for a booty call
The relationship is OVER. Let it go. His problems are no longer any of your concern. Block him, stop dreaming about getting back together and move on with your life
I’m in the EXACT same boat. Just broke up with my ex yesterday after 9 years. He has a history of self harm. I immediately texted his mom and had a panic attack after leaving him. I drove back to be sure, ngl. I haven’t blocked him. If I were you, I would maybe contact with someone close to him if you’re really worried. At least that has some comfort knowing he’s okay. But I think moving on requires distance and time without contact. If the relationship is over then you two don’t need direct contact.
You’ve been posting like rapid fire on here do you not have people irl you can discuss all of these things with? This feels like those 2018 insta challenges where influencers would put every life decision in the day up to a poll
You broke up. You don’t need to keep in touch. Block the number and move on.
His issues are no longer your problem since you broke up. You should not be there for his issues when the crop up. I mean, they wer enever your problem in the first place, but extra not your problem now. If he comes to you with them that is a problem with his lack of boundaries and you shouldn’t entertain it. If the relationship ended badly or you think he would reach out and you want to avoid that, then block him.
I’m sure he has other people in his life he can lean on if he needs anything. It’s not your role to save him. Block.
Blocking is good to make a clean break and move on and focus on healing.
Since you don’t see yourselves ever getting back together, don’t leave yourself open to him thinking there’s a chance of reconciliation. Assuming he’s not just going to write you off completely as well. You don’t owe it to him to be his support system when the only reason you think you should is because you feel guilty about it.
Just block him everywhere. He is an ex for a reason…leave him there.
Take some time for yourself and friends before getting into another relationship
Jsut mute him then.
Don’t block his number, but block his bullshit. If he calls, answer. If he’s decent, talk. If he’s starting shit, just hang up. Move forward. Build with what you learned with him and find someone better.
Since he blocked you on social, block him on all your social and his number.
You need to move on. His issues are not yours anymore, and you need to make a clean, clear break to end the emotional attachment.
Protect your peace and get on to the next great adventure of your life and close the book on this one.
If you continue to have anxiety about this, look into a good therapist and work through this and other areas to build your self esteem and self confidence.
Good luck and take care of yourself!
If you broke up, his issues are now HIS ISSUES not yours. Let go and move on.