Hi everyone. I just need to get my thoughts written down honestly.
To make a long story short, my father in law was diagnosed with cancer last year. It was originally a cancer that should be easily treated, but it quickly progressed into the worst. The cancer has now spread all over his body, he has very limited time left.
My husband and I went no/low contact in June of 2022 with all of his family. They have beliefs that directly harm me, and have said unrepeatable things to both of us. It was what was best for both of us, and my husband is the one who ultimately made the decision. Now I am left in this situation where I don’t know what to do. I don’t know what to feel, how to react, how to be there for my husband, or anything. I am truly stuck between a rock and a hard place.
No contact came from him. While I fully support and also agree we should be no contact, I can see the torment his mind is putting him through. There are so many thoughts rushing through his brain at this moment, and to be honest mine as well.
There are so many things my husband should be able to do with his father, but because of circumstances and actions, this will never be the case. I am just heartbroken for my husband. I wish I could use a fairy wand and just fix everything. But life isn’t a fairy tale, and we just have to roll with the punches.
Thanks for listening to me.
Comments
Whilst the family dynamics have changed, and low contact was a good response to that, you are aware that your husband has a much greater history with his father and family. Quite literally a life forming journey.
Give your husband all of the strength he shared with you when the low contact situations arose. Give him permission to do what he feels is necessary, without any recrimination, and that you’ve got your “big girls underpants” on.
It sounds like your husband is a good person who has your back, but might need a little bit of a confidence boost to get through the next year.
Good luck and may your joint life be warm, loving and long.