My fiancé and I are getting married soon and we’ve decided not to have a traditional wedding party—no bridesmaids, groomsmen, MOH, best man, or flower girl. This decision already caused tension with his family including sister and mom.
Now, we’re planning a wedding shower that his mom kindly offered to plan. However, I just saw the guest list after the event was already booked, and noticed his sister added her daughter. We’ve made it clear there won’t be any kids at the wedding or in the ceremony, including no flower girl.
Am I overreacting for feeling upset that she thinks it’s okay to include her daughter in the shower without talking to us? Is my MIL at fault for not keeping the boundary and being sneaky?
To add: I am cordial with his sister, for my fiancés sake. I do not start any issues nor do I like confrontation.
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