I’m so tired of men not talking about sex before trying things with you. I always have to be the one to put a stop to things and ask about STIs, birth control, etc. I feel like my safety and wellbeing is never thought of (or pleasure but that’s a whole other tangent).
It’s unfortunate because I think so many women want to feel safe in a relationship, emotionally and physically. And personally once I feel safe I can be a lot more freaky in bed! Guys are shortchanging themselves because they don’t want to have a possibly awkward conversation or they just want their needs met right then and there.
But honestly if we can’t talk about this stuff we shouldn’t be having sex!
I just had an incident that’s bringing this complaint to the surface. I think I might actually break it off with him and tell him that going forward he needs to ask about these things. I got to do it for the next girl, right?
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Women experience the majority of consequences of unsafe sex. That’s why.
It is a very easy barometer for ending a relationship though. If a man doesn’t step up and be an active participant in safe sex, he isn’t worth sleeping with.
Please do it for the next girl. Me personally…I’m 17, and maybe it’s because I read too much romance novels, but I dream of a guy who asks these questions. Someone who’s considerate basically. But I’ve come to realize through conversation that a lot of guys don’t think its necessary nor do they care enough to do so. And that….sucks :/
It’s insane tbh. If I were a man I wouldn’t be able to imagine just getting someone pregnant.
If a man isn’t asking these questions, that should be your red flag that he’s just trying to get in and get out (spoken as a man who was a POS in his younger days)
This is so crazy to me. As a man, the last thing I want is to potentially have an unwanted/unprepared pregnancy/child. Just as a practical selfish thing, that is so much cost, stress and impact on my life.
If you’re sleeping with guys that don’t care about your health, safety, or pleasure, your standards are way too low.