Men, what things did your mother growing up to help build and foster a lifelong closeness? And for those who can’t relate – where did she go wrong?
Men, what things did your mother growing up to help build and foster a lifelong closeness? And for those who can’t relate – where did she go wrong?
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My mother was a severely emotionally abused stay at home mom who was, unfortunately, both very stifling and smothering and also emotionally distant, especially as time moved on. She tried to be close with family time and movie watching, but we didn’t share much in common and there was always the problem that she was messed up from the abuse and various vices, and because she was used to trying to make everything good so Dad would be happy, most conversation turned into “this is what you need to do” or “this is what you did wrong” or “you need to succeed in school” or “you need to lose weight to find someone and for your own help” – it just became criticism and demands, all for a man who abused her and that she both loved and feared and I despised. Not the recipe for a close relationship with her.