23F, never been in a relationship and it’s mostly because I have struggled with my mental health for a while but I’m in a better place now to explore and it’s been so exhausting going on dates with strangers from the internet. I use hinge I never get past like 3 dates with a guy, it either fizzles out, I see major red flags on the first date or they don’t seem that interested. Like I genuinely don’t think a man has ever truly been interested in me or getting to know me. I ask them questions and keep the conversation going but they straight up don’t care to ask me stuff it feels invalidating and one sided 🙁
I’m also not interested in hookup culture, I’ve tried it before and it makes me feel used, and it brings up a lot of past sexual trauma. I decided that I wasn’t going to sleep with anyone I didn’t have an emotional connection with and I made that decision almost 2 years ago… I haven’t had sex in almost 2 fucking years 😭 I don’t think I’m ever gonna find a life partner 🙁
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You have all the time in the world, truly.
It’s so much better to wait for the partner you want rather than settle for a partner that sucks. Truly.
You can keep doing Hinge if you want, but I suggest you join some clubs/groups that share your interest and focus on loving yourself. Someone who likes the same things as you is going to see you loving you and say “yeah, I wanna love her too.”