Homes that are a little messy have more personality, I want to see a random pair of shoes in your living room.. homes that are too clean scream insecurity or that person his hiding something
Homes that are a little messy have more personality, I want to see a random pair of shoes in your living room.. homes that are too clean scream insecurity or that person his hiding something
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I agree. The Great Decluttering has gone too far
I would legit be kind of offended if some wanker thought I was insecure or suspicious just because my place is “overly clean”.
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Is that because your house is dirty and you want to feel better about your house stinking and being dirty?
I feel like the modernist minimalist look is absolutely disgusting. There has to be some clutter for a home to be actually FUNCTIONAL.
I personally see the whole overly clean home thing as just trying too hard. I find it genuinely uncomfortable.
Agreed. I feel awkward when I visit a super clean house, like I’ll mess something up if I sit down or eat something.
I get what you mean, but for me it’s mostly about decorations. I like seeing kids’ artwork on the fridge, mismatched mugs, novelty throw pillows, and random trinkets. Houses that have all matching decorations, “live laugh love” paintings, and stuff that’s all part of one set lack personality.
Why would I have random shoes in my living room??
Patrick Bateman makes up for his humble origins by keeping a fastidiously sterile apartment.
I just don’t have the energy to keep my home in pristine condition.
I mean I get what you’re saying, but I also get a sense of satisfaction out of “everything has a place, everything in its place” at the end of the day. It’s my house, after all, I should be comfortable in it.
To each their own
My grandmother had a perfect home. She just liked it that way, everything had a place and she just put things back in their place. She never worked so her house was her pride. It was also a single wide trailer. She was the sweetest little lady in the world and once I asked her about her clean house and she said it’s funny how her friends would always give her grief over her perfectly clean home. She said “I never said anything about their messy houses!”
So the lesson from her – people like things the way they like them, why criticize other people for something like that? She taught me to be a lot less judgmental.
Judging by the comments, looks like this is actually an unpopular opinion. So why is it being downvoted in a sub for unpopular opinions?
Of course an actual unpopular opinion on this sub gets everyone’s panties in a knot but no upvotes. You did great, OP.
Yes and no: sterile is not a good condition for anyone. Function is important. Color and personality are important. Clutter is fine-ish. (Doom piles are very different from hoarder stacks.) being clean is absolutely necessary.
I had a friend refuse to come over after seeing my home in 7th or 8th grade because my house “looked like a museum.” My mom had us clean the house top to bottom every week, and she’s big on antiques. Turns out my friend’s family barely cleaned and her home was a mess. I feel like there’s a middle ground there for comfort
messy isn’t the same as cleanliness though, someone can be disorganised and cluttered but still hygienic
I put up stuff after I use it and I make an effort to not own things that I dont use. My idea of cluttered and dirty is probably most people’s idea of clean. I own pets too so this just exacerbates how often I clean because I own robot vacuums, lots of lint rollers, manual vacuums. I basically make picking up and tidying up as easy as possible so that its just a quick 2-3 minutes job to clean an area of my house. If I dont this…the whole place turns into a mess within a day (live with 2 cats and 2 dogs and you’ll know this).
If however youre referring to people’s homes that look like they dont even live there then yes that’s weird.
Ppffft no dishes in the sink? Wonder how many people they’ve cheated on…
In that case, I have too much personality in my house.
Or, we’re normal, and you’re the weird one.
Really this just sounds like someone’s who insecure about their messy home projecting those feelings on people who keep their houses clean.
Idk. I tend to feel more welcome if the place actually looks lived in.
I’m kinda on the fence.
Like… if your house is SUPER clean then I feel like you did wayyyy too much work before I came over. And that feels like a performance. Makes me wonder what it looked like before.
On the other hand.
If it’s nasty af?
Oh I’m leaving right away.
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House should be clean but if there’s some laundry on the couch and some dog hair in your rug. Open magazines on the side table and some coffee stains on your coffee table?
We’re probably gonna be best friends.
A lot of people obsessively panic clean before someone comes over. They want to provide a nice environment and don’t want to be judged. What you’re seeing probably isn’t how they live day to day in most cases
Your home is a reflection of your inner self. A messy house creates a messy mind, and vice versa. I want my home to be a relaxing and beautiful place. Keeping it perfectly clean is an important part of that.
Growing up, Dad always said, never trust anyone that has a spotless home.
No I understand what you’re saying, my parents have had arguments over whether the coffeemaker should be on the countertops or hidden away. Luckily they’ve gotten better, but I feel more comfortable in a home where I can look around and be able to pinpoint a hobby or two rather than the house attempting to look sterile.
For instance, looking at my brother’s house, I’d be able to tell that he and his wife are into records, board games, and have some pets. Before my parents decided to put color back into their home with art, I would not be able to tell you one thing about them from the house (it was also hard to invite people over because they would lose their minds and decide that every crevice of the house needed to be deep cleaned).
I dont really feel comfortable in “model homes” where you’d swear no one lives there and its just a facade. having said that, that’s definitely a “me” problem. some people like magazine ready homes, some like a clean but lived in home. to each their own
Whats perfectly clean to you? My house is always clean but also always a little messy.Those two things aren’t the same. Clean means the surfaces,curtains and most things are cleaned,maybe some of them disinfected,its free of crumbs and such. But it can still get messy,specially if you have a toddler who brings their toys from one room to another.
If you mean like instagram-clean and always tidied up to the tiniest bit,then that’s circumstantial.
pissing on my brand new carpet so u/SeymourScratch100 doesn’t think i’m insecure or a serial killer
Messy house = a messy mind. I require a clean and tidy house to function in a positive mindset. Silly I know but it is what it is.
My friend would say “It’s a home, not a museum!”
Yet, hers was like a museum to perfection. I didn’t like visiting her there because she spent every minute cleaning.
I personally don’t feel like I belong in houses that are perfect, but I don’t think those people are insecure. I think they just have a preference like I do.
Have an upvote; I rather think it’s utterly disrespectful to invite people to a filthy, untidy home.
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Every now and again exactly one room in my house gets the “perfect” treatment. It usually lasts less time than it took to get it that way. Fuck trying to keep a perfect house with two young kids – it’s not worth the stress of worrying about keeping it up. One day the kids will be grown and all the toys will be gone and then I might have the energy left to keep a spotless house.
If I lived alone in a studio apartment things might be a bit more tidy.
older people, OCD people, controlling people will all have this.
I need to be having outsiders visit to give a single fuck most of the time, which is when I whirlwind clean everything.
if I’m in a relationship, it actually is really beneficial because it motivates me to maintain the aesthetic.
Or maybe I just tidied up a bit before you came over. Is that weird to you?
I’m a mobile massage therapist so I see A LOT of homes – many like this. I call them Pottery Barn houses because they look like they’re straight out of a catalog with no personality
It’s all about timing. Some people have cleaning ladies. Some will have a perfectly clean home for a few days out of the month. It all depends when you come over.
I have a 3 year old son. I keep my home organized as I can. Because I don’t want him touching things he shouldn’t. Or tripping over shoes while playing.
With that said. If you come over randomly it might look like a tornado hit my house. Never dirty as unsanitary.
Just unorganized. Something that takes only a few minutes to get back to organized.
We keep certain drawers empty in case we have to put things away. Like bills, cash, firearms. If we have someone coming over quickly.
It’s easy to throw all the mess in there or guest room. An clean it up later when we have the time.
My mother wanted the house so clean that I used to joke about adding the velvet museum ropes outside my room.
What is your definition of perfectly clean? Homes that look overly pristine – like they are never actually used – can seem weird, but a tidy home is normal for a lot of people.
this applies to me. not that im hiding it but im def a control freak and that manifests in my obsession for a super neat and perfect, orderly home.
Or maybe they just keep things tidy??
I never associated it with insecurity or hiding something, but it definitely can feel uncannily sterile
Id say it’s an almost impossible task and a person who fixates on this I mean yes it must be fulfilling but when things are in disarray or it’s like there is no room to actually utilize the space as the main focus is to keep it clean and tidy
bassado.
I mean…my house is always messy. And given the amount of energy and time it takes me to make my home look just presentable, I always think: are they cleaning like non-stop all the time? Do they have someone helping with cleaning? What is the secret? (No offence to people who like to have their homes clean) I just wonder: what the hell? How do they succeed? It’s like we are living in a parallel world.
My house has so much personality haha! It’s not because I’ve been feeling like shit and slacking on putting away the laundry I just want my house to have character that’s why it’s messy
Grew up with a dad who was a hoarder, I’m the opposite and throw out anything that has no use to me anymore.
Y’all have to stop coping with your inadequacy issues by labeling other people negatively. Once upon a time we did some self reflection and changed. Now it’s like “oh they’re cleaner than me, they’re weird”.
My living room? Clean. But the bedroom? That’s chaotic. I personally like having a clean living space as it makes the house more enjoyable. The only reason it would be a mess during the day is because of my daughters toys.
I Knew a couple of people like that and they both had this weird sense of superiority about it
One of them would secretly take photos in other people’s homes to send to her friends and make fun of the messiness
Some people have OCD and it’s perfectly fine with me.
Yeah having your shit together like an adult is a huge insecurity for you clearly
Caring this much about whether or not someone keeps their home clean is way more insecure than the people you are calling insecure.
I fully agree, one of the people i lived with growing up forbade me from decorating my bedroom because it wouldn’t match the sterile aesthetic of the rest of the house
As someone who grew up in a messy house, I really appreciate a clean home. I can clearly see the difference it makes to my mental health when things are clean and organized versus when they’re not. Cleaning itself can also be relaxing and even fun.
But of course, there are obsessive cleaners who are addicted to it, which can negatively affect their lives. I also understand people who can’t clean and organize their homes as often, whether because of a busy life or mental health issues.
Maybe we just got in a habit of putting our shit away where it goes. Maybe we don’t buy more shit than we need.
Maybe you’re the weird one.
You’d hate my house. I like it to feel like a hotel—minimal, spotless, and free of clutter. No signs of life, just calm and order. That kind of cleanliness brings me peace.
Hiding something? Weird.
I think what’s really being said here is that your house is probably a disaster zone and you’re just trying to make yourself feel better.
I feel so good when I have a clean house – absolutely spotless and almost empty. I get stressed and sad with clutter. Funny you say personality, so many artists are insanely clean and neat. Their workspace is a mess but their house? Spotless.
I feel much better when my house is spotless. But that will include things like mail on the counter or slippers on the floor.
I have adhd I NEED clean and minimal or my brain hates me.
I do not like being so clean but my brain does.
What the fuck? It sounds like you’re insecure if seeing a clean house bothers you.
Good job on an unpopular opinion.
I highly disagree.
Decor is what showcases my personality; not our clutter (shoes, toys, random counter collections).
Lol, people really do like to drag you down to their level. If you don’t have any pride in ownership, that’s fine and within your right, but that doesn’t mean others can’t. Who are you that you think you can tell others how to keep their own home? It’s not like they’re telling you not to be a slob??
My mom is like this. You feel like you can’t touch anything because it feels like being in a museum. This is one of the reasons I can’t live with her even though she keeps asking me to move home. That and our lifestyles are completely different and so are our religious beliefs.
My home is perfectly clean all the time and it’s not insecurity or hiding something. I’m just not lazy and never leave shoes lying around, or ignore messes. I actually enjoy the process of cleaning.
My parents were hoarders, so I try my hardest to not let my house get anywhere near that. It’s not “perfect,” but it’s clean and free of totally unnecessary crap.
I love having a clean house. I hate coming over to other people’s homes things being gross or stinky. My least favorite is sitting on someone’s sofa and it’s like oily from their dog not being groomed
I would quite enjoy you trying to justify the insecurity angle.
I definitely wouldn’t be comfortable in something like Kim Kardashian’s home, which is something like a mausoleum and perfectly clean and white
But I also wouldn’t be happy living with people who don’t clean up because they think it adds a bit of style or life to their living space
You can have tchotchkes and you can have shoe racks but having to step over multiple items just to get to a bathroom or to the kitchen or to a couch is unacceptable
I imagine it’s probably soothing for people struggling with OCD.
I’m with you that shit is weird
Some people don’t realize that germs can become resistant and it’s not good to have an environment that’s too clean
Also what’s with the glass chess piece thing and piano and whatnot
I had a friend that couldn’t have any friends inside her house, like it was just a bit much.
Completely agree.
I’m very uncomfortable in perfectly clean homes. Are they robots? Aliens?
Just give me a corner you forgot to sweep. A (live) houseplant that you overwatered just a bit and there’s still water in the tray. A book with a bookmark carelessly thrown on an unstable or bed. A random stray hair in the bathroom. SOMETHING.
I could follow your logic up until the “hiding something” bit. You sound incredibly anxious.
“There’s something wrong with people who think differently from me.”
I disagree. I like the way I keep my apartment: everything has a place and everything is clean most of the time. But I have a massive and visible book library, plants everywhere, photos and art on the walls, and a fridge covered in cards and photos from friends and family.
Not having a clean and tidy house when people visit is a red flag for me. Our home is usually clean and neat and spotless when we have company coming over. It’s like wearing your gardening clothes to town, it is simply not done.
I like things neat and tidy, I make it a habit to clean up before bed, but I’m not neurotic about it, neat and tidy is good enough for me.
Do not confuse clean with tidy. My house has kids’ toys scattered around, mail on the table, hairbrushes and hair ties on coffee tables but my hardwood floors are vacuumed and mopped, carpets vacuumed, bedding washed once a week, cabinets wiped down, stovetop cleaned, windows windexed, etc.
I’m a home inspector, I’ve been in 2200 homes. You are right.
I haven’t met 2200 homeowners, but I’ve met at least a thousand in their own homes. I’d say maybe 25% of the very cleanest houses (like top tier clean) have owners that I would like to know in my personal life. The rest of them are indeed… A little off. In some way or other.
My vision sucks and it’s been that way a long time I keep things so I don’t have to look for things it’s the opposite of I have stuff to hide I need them easy to find just one of the habits I grew up with to save me time
I love clean houses
Shoes come off at the entryway. Why would there be shoes in my living room?
Ocpd does that to people. Not easy living with someone that blows their shit every time is not exactly perfect.
Life is too short for that shit
It makes sense when they don’t have kids but if you have kids and a perfect house. How do you do it. All we do is clean and it still seems messy
i get that fr. i felt as though my ex-roomie/friend was like this. i didn’t mind a messed up couch with blankets thrown and pillows out of place. she wanted everything very near as if no one was ever in the room. i wouldn’t say im messy but i do like my house to look lived in and not like a catalogue
My apartment is always spotless and perfectly organized, and yes, I am weird.
Fact. A home should look lived in and not like a porn house
I feel like people with perfectly clean homes might lead empty lives…
In your living room, why not a pair of shoes on your bed?
Hmm I don’t understand
Random pair of shoes sitting in the living room doesn’t seem like much till you trip over them and get hurt. I have kids, this has happened before lol.
I think it’s a problem if cleanliness sucks the joy out of living in the space. But, as a person who has almost-grown kids and almost-managed ADHD, I’m looking forward to one day having a weirdly-clean home.
I grew up in a very clean house and hated it. It felt like growing up in a museum.
Or rich. Since they can afford a maid.
My mom did nothing but clean the house the whole day as a stay at home mom.
The house literally looks as if no one lives there. Everything is always organized.
My mom is weird.
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My home is always clean. Things are put away, dishes are done, clothes put away. I can’t relax if I know my home is messy or cluttered. It’s just personal preference.
I whole-heartedly disagree, this sounds like a major cope for being lazy. Nobody’s home is ALWAYS perfect, and maintaining a clean home is consistent hard work. This is similar to suggesting someone who exercises often or works hard to become successful in their career is insecure 😆 doesn’t make sense.
Also what a great thing for children to be able to grow up in a clean environment, and an opportunity to learn about personal responsibility.
Grow up.
I don’t care if you want to see a pair of shoes in my living room.
I grew up in filth and squalor.
I despise even clutter now.
I have control of my home.
You might just be a slob. It’s ok but the first step is to admit it
I have two young kids and there are toys everywhere because we do everything in the main room so next to none of their toys are in their rooms. I always say “it looks like we have fun in this house.” Because we do! My sun room is filled with Duplos. There’s a toy kitchen in my regular kitchen. I constantly have stickers stuck to my feet. Even when it’s overwhelming I know that some day I’ll miss it
I’ve got a couple who have a perfectly clean home. Not a speck of dirt or dust anywhere. It was actually impressive, if not quite creepy.
They had a baby recently. I assume all the cleaning went out the window when that happened.
My home is perfectly clean. Just don’t
look in any of the closets.
look too closely at any of the shelves or frames on the walls.
And unless you want to help my cats reclaim their lost toys, don’t look under the sofa, fridge or stove.
fuck that. perfectly cleans my home
Yeah, take the upvote lol.
I’m similar, but kind of for swapped reasons? I’m not comfortable in a pristine house not because I think they are insecure but because it makes ME really anxious and insecure. I feel like I’m going to break something or stain something or whatever and then be embarrassed about that memory at 1am forever, haha.
Also, I guess it depends on your definition of “clean”… Like, my house is perfectly hygienic but it definitely has what some people would feel is clutter or imperfections. Funky looking rocks my kids found on side tables, odd mushroom shaped cat climbers, anime figures, etc etc. And that might make people feel claustrophobic or something at my place.
Then again, even with my love for knickknacks, I find my mom’s kitchen so cluttered with items (think of a Studio Ghibli background) that I get anxious getting a mug down because a fraction of a centimeter misjudgment will bring the whole thing down.
So… To each their own? Some people just like smooth, clean, open space. Some people like aesthetic clutter. I know a guy who turned his hallway landing in to The Millennium Falcon cockpit using wall wraps. Not my thing but I don’t live there!
Can you explain how cleanliness equals insecurity. Someone sounds upset they’re too lazy to maintain a clean home 🤷🏻♂️
I wouldn’t say they’re weird but I do prefer homes that are more on the messy side, just has more personality.
Then I wish I was weird.
There’s no such thing as too “clean” but many people do live in overly manicured spaces. This “beige” trend is an effort to project wealth, but it’s honestly just boring. I know a few people whose homes always look like they’re staying a walkthrough.
Cozy can still be classy
OP definitely has a messy home. Very “secure” with nothing to hide. Ya, right.
People that go online to post about people with perfectly clean homes are…weird.
Find me someone who’s thinks their house has to be meticulous who doesn’t also look down on others who don’t feel the same. That’s the biggest issue to me