So my friends and I were talking about our sex life. I’m seeing a guy and one night he couldn’t perform but we were still horny and he wanted to please me. I told him how I brung my vibrator and he used it on me. I told my friends this and they mentioned how it’s weird to let a partner use a toy on you instead of having intercourse 😭…I actually feel the opposite and that it’s kind of hot!
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No, that is 100% normal and your friends are missing out.
brought, no?
Obviously I don’t think anyone wants toys to take over their sex life, but using them occasionally is a great change of pace and great way to make each other feel good.
I always find it so confusing when people are so rigid in the rules of the bedroom. It isn’t court, you’re allowed to try out things. It’s supposed to be fun.
That’s just sharing a moment of intimacy with your partner. It’s actually pretty great that he’s more interested in giving pleasure to you than stressing over his predicament.
Also, toys are fun for both people. It might even relax him a little bit and help him enjoy the situation.
Definitely not weird. It’s a very normal part of sex.
The people saying this just aren’t comfortable with themselves. If you and your partner are into it, fuck what anyone else thinks. You aren’t forcing them to do it.
That’s not weird at all. My bestie and her husband use toys frequently. Lots of couples make them a natural part of their sex lives.
Your friends are missing out
Of course it’s hot! It’s FANTASTIC. Listen: “sex” does not equal “penis in vagina.” It’s whatever you and your partner enjoy.
Short answer: No.
Long answer: No, but I’m sure some people definitely find it weird. Not everything is for everyone and the fact that your partner didn’t want to give up is a good thing
Sounds very normal to me
To me, this is almost like asking if him using his hands is weird. Of course not. Five each other as Mich pleasure as you can in any way y’all take it.
I think it’s odd that your friends find it odd, and I think it’s sad how they limit things in the bedroom.
My wife and I use one about 90% of the time when we have sex. It’s one of my favorite things to do. 10/10 Highly recommend.
Absolutely not! I found it makes it much more fun anyway and in some cases makes it easier for me to finish and makes things less physically demanding on everything involved.
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Toys are teammates during sex, not opponents!!
Not weird at all imo
Sometimes I like walking, sometimes I like cruising in a convertible blasting music. Just because I enjoy the drive doesn’t mean I will forget how to walk or stop enjoying walking, just two different means of transportation for two different circumstances.
Your friends are the weird ones
If that’s weird you can call me Al Yankovic.
As long as you enjoyed it…who cares what these friends say?
Ahaaha. Toys are great for different vibes. What’s weird is limiting yourself for arbitrary reason of weird, go process that stuff. Sex is way more fun in explore mode
Using toys kicks ass, doesn’t matter who is using what on who, I always like to have toys as an option in the bedroom.
I would suggest your friends are the weird ones.
Oh boy. Your friends should do some reading. It’s totally not weird, and in fact, MANY women need stimulation assistance in order to come to orgasm.
“You got any toys?!”
Is my first question when things go to the “next level”.
They are missing out.
If by “weird”, you mean “amazing”
Nah its 100% normal. Using toys is fine and healthy. Lot of guys are also suuuuuper into using toys on you as either a warm up or the whole session. I recomend lovense if you find that you like getting toys controlled
It’s completely normal and the sign of a generous lover
God no. It actually means you have a healthy relationship and a caring partner.
It’s normal. Your friends are the odd ones.
First time my partner suggested toys, I was a little shocked; all my previous partners would’ve felt unmanned or undermined by a toy in the bedroom. It’s been such a fun exploration! It’s a treat to be with a dude who likes to play, and not just get his own nut and go.
They sound like the type of people who see blowjobs as normal but think cunnilingus is weird.
Ignore them.
Beyond normal and fun. They’re missing out. Also, never date a guy who’s weird about toys and shares their opinion lol.
lol of course not, it’s kind of amazing.
Your friends probably have sad boring sex lives.
If they think that’s weird, maybe good sex is weird for them, too.
Wow before I read the context I was shocked at the question in the title because I thought I was on a lawyer subreddit.
“Uh yeah, it’s really fucking weird for a partner at your firm to do that.”
To your real question though, nah it’s not weird. And even if it was weird (which it isn’t), as long as everyone on board is cool with it then you’re all good.
Not weird, but awesome!
Every time I read someone say the man refused to use toys I get a little mad for them. Toys belong in the bedroom.
It ain’t wierd for your partner to do all but just a few things to you that you want to happen. Not knocking those few things either but you know different floats for diffirent boats.
Nah, this is absolutely normal. What age range are you? This might just be chalked up to being young and inexperienced.
As an asexual, I don’t have a lot of certain experiences, but I have perused a catalog or two in my day and I remember a lot of different options for couples to use with/for each other. Seems pretty normal.
I’m going to guess that your friends group is fairly young and inexperienced. There’s absolutely nothing weird about using toys as part of sex
Your friends are just a bit vanilla. It’s awesome that he wanted to make you feel good instead of just giving up. That’s a major green flag! Anyway, sex is whatever you want it to be. It doesn’t matter if your friends do the same things or not. What matters is that you and the other person are doing things you both like and find pleasure with.
Nope. They are also called “marital aids” and they genuinely are. What a sad view to have of intimacy.
Not not at all. Your friend are the werird ones.
PS you can do toy and intercourse at the same time too you know!
It can make some “men” feel insecure about themselves. 🙄
Your friends were being mean
Next time they’re judgy towards you, use that same tactic right back. “Wow didn’t think my friends would be such vanilla prudes but hey, y’all do you”. 😂 I’m kidding, but yeah, that is NOT AT ALL WEIRD and your friends are wrong to judge.
If it’s weird, then I am so glad to be weird.
Not even a little bit. Anybody that cares about your pleasure would have no issue incorporating toys.
I don’t think it’s weird.
No. Mine does after we have sex just so I can have one more orgasm