How do you cold approach a woman?

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Let’s say you see that’s she’s giving you that look that she’s interested, what should you do?
And after you get the number what’s your goal to so you can set up a date?

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  1. Kentucky_Supreme Avatar

    Very carefully lol.

  2. AuthenticTruther Avatar

    I don’t. They need to make it clear and stop playing.

  3. DeepFuckingKoopa Avatar

    I’m not into being dressed down so I don’t

  4. xXxPizza8492xXx Avatar

    Step 1: be handsome

    Step 2: ????

    Step3: profit

  5. igetwrecked Avatar

    The male loneliness epidemic on display in real time 😂

  6. andronicus_14 Avatar

    I don’t. I have never approached a woman in my life. I just assumed they weren’t interested.

    Happily married now.

  7. whiteladt Avatar

    Compliment something that is specific but non-intensive like her style, or the vibe that she is giving out. Do not pursue appearances head first, that is what makes the difference

  8. redditguylulz Avatar

    You see that’s the neat part… I don’t

  9. maverick1ba Avatar

    Best Cold approach is just be friendly and flirtatious. Initiate subtle touch like a brief extended hand hold after introducing yourself. Keep your body language open and give her plenty of space so she does not feel trapped. Small talk to her for as long as you possibly can. If she turns her body towards you, keep going and up the flirting. If she turns her body or eyes away, she’s not interested, say nice to meet you and move on.

    If you get her number, text her when you get home right before bed and ask if she wants to meet up sometime.

  10. Gold_Telephone_7192 Avatar

    I say hey how’s it going and introduce myself. Ask her some questions depending on where we are and what makes sense. Try to have a normal conversation and see if there’s a vibe there. If I think there is, I tell her I want to take her out sometime and ask for her number. Then I text that number later and ask her on a date.

  11. CelticSith Avatar

    Go stand in a walk-in freezer for a few minutes, then go talk to her

  12. Maximum-Village2859 Avatar

    Say “hi I’m __.” Usually goes over somewhat well. Just be confident. 

    Order her a backup on her drink and oftentimes they’ll either come over and say hi or wave you over to them. 

    Just be blatantly ridiculous and say stupid shit that’s funny. That works well.

    “Hi, I’m Tabitha… what’s your name?” and just keep a straight face, get her name and then say “what are you laughing about? Why the fuck does everyone always laugh when I tell them my name is Tabitha (Her Name) (Your Last Name)?!” And just keep it going getting somewhat pissed. 

  13. Gordo_Majima Avatar

    Do cold approaches ever work?

  14. Avenging_Ghost Avatar

    I stopped after realizing that cold approaching is probably the lowest form of building connection. Just to wind up taking a girl out that you have no desire for because you didn’t take the time to vet her out, and all she did was look at you. I think being able to strike up conversations with a stranger is a good skill, though. If you happen to want to communicate later, it should be a mutual and natural transaction. Take your time getting to know them. Some of them are crazy out here.

  15. CorrectStaple Avatar

    I’d Introduce myself and make conversation.  Multiple relationships throughout my life have started this way. 

    It’s not hard but practice helps make it easier and more fluid. Being good at small talk is largely a learned skill. 

  16. angel3201 Avatar

    i always give a girl MY number if im interested, that way its up to her and she won’t feel pressured. if she reaches out, i know she’s interested so then i can just be straight up and ask.

  17. king_rootin_tootin Avatar

    I don’t know, ask Bobby from the X-Men

  18. HookerHenry Avatar

    Be good looking. Otherwise, you’re getting hit with an SA charge.

  19. UltraShadowArbiter Avatar

    You don’t.
    They don’t want us to approach them at all.

  20. Greco_King Avatar

    I walked up to her after sharing a smile. Asked how she was doing what her name is, told her mine, and then asked if she’d like to go on a date sometime. Easy as that. We were out in a social setting. Of course, that wouldn’t work on every woman I was interested in. But sometimes you just gotta go for it. If she says no, move on to the next one.

  21. RickyRacer2020 Avatar

    You say, “C’mere Baby” then get her #

  22. Turbulent_Swimmer900 Avatar

    It’s definitely harder on your own. Best with a friend.

    On your own: if you’re attracted and she keeps looking at you, shoot your shot and open with anything you observe. Easy to break into standing groups, because once one friend accepts you, you become interesting. Or, go sit at a bar and talk to the bartender, patrons and anyone responsive.

    With a buddy: invite them to do something with you. Or walk up to a small group and shoot the shit.

    Not a master, but once you get the social juices flowing, it’s just about enjoying yourself and enjoying learning other people. If they’re not flowing, take your desperate shot or come back after you’ve gotten them flowing with a good convo. The bit about talking to everyone around you is as much for your sake as passing the sniff test.

  23. TRDF3RG Avatar

    How can you tell if she’s “giving you that look like she’s interested”? Eye contact?

  24. Green_Dragon_Soars Avatar

    Dunk yourself in ice water then go talk to a woman.

  25. TheZapper45 Avatar

    You dont, 99% of the time you should leave women alone unless theres a reason to initiate convo.

    Use dating apps. If you aren’t having success on those, believe me you wont have success doing cold approaches which rely on appearance

  26. intuitivelogic Avatar

    Wait if she gave you a look shes interested then that’s not a cold approach

  27. rvrndgonzo Avatar

    I generally suck at small talk with attractive women who are strangers. I get tongue tied and my brain freezes. So unless I can map out a possible conversation with her (usually based off of something she’s wearing, carrying or doing/involved with, or some super topical event) I usually don’t engage. 

  28. Prettychilledoutguy Avatar

    Can someone please explain that look to me where she is interested.

    I am at the stage where I notice ladies turning their heads when they walk past me. I hold eye contact but they often quickly look away as if embarassed that I noticed.

  29. RayPineocco Avatar

    Talk to them in a fun way. You can talk about anything.

    It’s not what you say. It’s how you say it.

    People who are saying you shouldn’t are out of their damn minds. As long as you’re respectful and open (but not expecting) to take a rejection, I see no harm.

  30. BobbyThrowaway6969 Avatar

    Be a 10 or go after 2s

  31. KINGJACQUEZ2323 Avatar

    In today day in age u don’t

  32. Matt_Advice Avatar

    You talk to them to see if you even like them. You should be qualifying them as they are qualifying you.

    If you approach women with mindset of “getting her number” you will create anxiety.

    Your goal is not to get their number. It’s to speak to them and get a feel for their personality.

    All you need to do is say ” Hey! How’s your Saturday going so far.” And follow up with something relevant. You’re at the grocery, talk about the food or diet. Wherever you are, start the conversation with something relevant after greeting.

    Don’t compliment them or tell them you want their number etc, have a god damn conversation. It’s not that hard. Then, if you click and she giggles and plays with her hair, ask for the number before exiting the conversation.

  33. Hazyoutlook Avatar

    Hi I just wanted to introduce myself. I’m “blank.” The conversation either goes somewhere or it doesn’t. If it does and you both are interested there is no set way to do it. It just happens.

  34. Dogstile Avatar

    Just go say hi if she’s already giving you the “i’m interested in talking” look.

    Failing that i’ve been known to be at the pub, notice someone looking at me and just wave.

  35. pizzamann2472 Avatar

    > Let’s say you see that’s she’s giving you that look that she’s interested, what should you do?

    If she is already giving looks that she’s interested, that’s not a cold approach anymore.

    You basically just approach and say hi or do some remark about the surroundings to start a conversation. That’s it. It’s not very complicated if you have basic social skills, it can be intimidating if you have never done it before, but it isn’t hard.

    > And after you get the number what’s your goal to so you can set up a date?

    Wrong approach. You already plan a date while talking to her, and then you exchange numbers to stay connected for the date.

  36. NefariousPhosphenes Avatar

    Walk up and say hi, like a normal person. Be completely normal and interested about her, and don’t even worry about setting up a date until you feel like you’re interested in one and have the impression that she is too.

  37. VinnyBoy45 Avatar

    I have no idea what is that “interested look”.