so, i’ve noticed a lot of women talking about how they tend to “stalk” their crushes or kind of scheme in a way to get with them. they’ll find them on social media, maybe try and study their interests and hobbies before actually knowing them to get a feel of what they like, or even plan ways to “bump into them.” i’ve literally seen women talk about how they’ll find the guy’s friends and family on facebook or something and know everything about him before they even really talk. however, i rarely ever hear men talk about this stuff. i don’t know if it’s because of a double standard between men and women and what’s perceived as “creepiness” or if it’s just genuinely more of a woman thing. so, i was wondering, is it common for guys to stalk their crushes on social media and stuff like that too or do you guys do something different? just curious lol
what do guys do when they have a crush?
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Just here to say, this is creepy regardless of gender.
No it isn’t common, that’s creepy. Setting the creepiness aside, most men probably assume they will never interact with their crush anyway so what’s the point in all that work?
Somewhere between completely avoid them and get giddy/goofy around them.
Sounds like a great way to gain a restraining order.
I usually look at them wide eyed with a smile on my face and ask for their stories while I swoon. I’m not very subtle at all. My current partner was used to not being listened to or cared about and it turns out we had a lot in common.
Anything forced like what you’re describing is doomed to fail and not good for anyone involved. If it’s not a genuine connection, it’s based on a lie and toxic.
How old are the women you’re talking about? Because I can’t seriously imagine anyone out of highschool obsessing that much about a crush.
Ask them out. Get turned down. Lament it. Rinse and repeat.
Personally, I would say that I daydream more than stalk. Just as I would fantasize scenarios where we will just end up dating since I once made her laugh.
Teenagers do this not adults. Adults are grown up enough to initiate a conversation.
What the fuck did i just read. I swear, gender and all it’s bs are just a spook to avoid struggling against the real issues, like those fucking psychokiller behaviors. Enough reddit for today.
Wank furiously. In private, of course.
Lo que acabo de leer es lo más tóxico e infantil que alguien pueda llegar a hacer. No me imagino a alguien diferente de un adolescente haciendo eso. Y si tengo un crush pues busco la forma de hablarle y ya, la verdad prefiero ser directo
Nothing honestly
If I met a guy on dating app or online or it’s a random one from a bar, I do run background checks online on the guy just to see that he doesn’t have a secret family or girlfriend or didn’t murder someone.
To stalk them and follow around, trying to meet up? That’s either restraining order worthy or some middle school stuff which might be due to age (under 20). Doesn’t matter the gender – it’s creepy regardless.
We either do something about it or let it go
Most of the couples that currently exist do so because a man made the move that women won’t
This post feels like it’s designed to just be a “see? It’s ok when a woman does it but if it’s a man…”
Nah OP. The above shit you just described is straight crazy regardless of who it’s coming from.