I’m glad to find this subreddit and hopefully someone can tell me if I’m being crazy or really it is my MIL being inconsiderate.
Background: I have 3 SILs and SO is the only son and I have a 10 month old LO.
What happened is, MIL and daughters were going to grocery shopping and they asked me to bring my LO to also go with them. After we arrived, MIL offered to buy us something, and I said that LO likes to eat blueberries. MIL said ok, she can buy for us but she will only spare us half a box (its a 2lb box of blueberries). I was like …. Ok. Even though I think it was a bit weird but what can I say. I also said that I have been cooking pork-loin with rice for LO to eat, and MIL insisted on buying the minced pork instead of the pork-loin. SILs were buying meats for themselves too, but MIL didn’t comment or try to make them buy something else. Before we check out, MIL asked me if i need to buy anything else, but since she told me that I do not get a whole box of blueberries, and had to buy the minced pork instead of pork-loin, I did not say anything even I was thinking about getting some oranges.
I felt that MIL is being very frugal and not really caring towards my LO and felt that she is treating her daughters better. I told SO about this and he thinks there’s no big deal and Im being sensitive. (There was also a time when I went grocery shopping with her and MIL refused to even buy me potatoes so I just didn’t buy anything)
Its not like I need her to buy food for me and my family, I just feel that her actions make me feel that she doesn’t really care about her grandkid like most grandparents who would run and buy everything for their grandchildren.
This probably frustrates me because when I grow up, my grandparents would buy me anything I want to eat and there will be no questions asked. And I thought all grandparents would do the same to their grandchildren but it seems like for my MIL its not the case.
Am I in the wrong to feel frustrated and somehow offended too?
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I don’t think you’re wrong, but I do think you should avoid trips like this in the future. Don’t go to the grocery store together anymore.