I feel awkward just standing around, especially around people of the opposite gender. I’m in my mid-20s.
How did you fix your body language and general awkwardness?
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I feel awkward just standing around, especially around people of the opposite gender. I’m in my mid-20s.
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Search it up on YouTube how to be less awkward those videos help me Ik it’s hard but try thinking that your not awkward
Know what you want to transmit, what you are projecting, and work on it.
Learn to stand tall and alternate between the fig leaf pose (hand loosely together at the front) and the power pose (together at the back). Notice how it feels. But always stand tall.
Point your foot but not your body toward the person you are interested in.
Constant self-awareness. Whenever I notice that I’m slouching, for example, I would try to straighten up my posture. Or, if I’m aware that I have my arms crossed or standing too far from the other person, I would try to change my pose and lean in closer.
Having a drink in your hand might help.
I’m an awkward and shy person by nature, but not a lot of people know about it because I literally faked it until I made it.
My dad gave me this advice… He said “an awkward person doesn’t want to be seen, but it doesn’t matter how much you want to turn invisible, you can’t… So you’re basically standing there, trying to be as small as possible, and the thing is that people subconsciously notice which increases your awkwardness and you want to hide more. So the first thing that you have to do is acknowledge that you can’t hide, you will be seen… So just own it. If you’re sitting down, lay back and open your arms, put them on the chair’s armrest. If you’re standing, open your legs a bit more than the others, if you feel the urge to cross your arms… Don’t. Put your hands on your hips, but below the belt”.
That’s a start and the rest came to me naturally… but it’s a constant struggle fighting this sensation of just trying to be the smallest person in the room. One day at a time