This happened last weekend and I still can’t believe it. I (25F) have been dating my boyfriend (27M) for almost 2 years. We’re solid. He’s sweet, respectful, and has never given me a reason to doubt him.
Anyway, my little sister (19F) came over to stay the weekend. We all went out for drinks, and I went to the bathroom for like 10 minutes. When I came back, everything seemed normal, but later that night my boyfriend told me my sister tried to flirt with him “as a joke” to see if he’d cheat. He shut it down and told her it was super inappropriate.
When I confronted her the next day, she said, “Well if your relationship is strong, it shouldn’t matter. It was just a test.”
I was STUNNED. I told her that’s not something you ever do, especially to your own sister. She didn’t even apologize. Just doubled down and said she was “protecting me.”
I ended up telling her to pack her stuff and leave. I’ve blocked her since and I honestly don’t even feel bad.
Was I too harsh? Has anyone else dealt with something like this?
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Backup of the post’s body: This happened last weekend and I still can’t believe it. I (25F) have been dating my boyfriend (27M) for almost 2 years. We’re solid. He’s sweet, respectful, and has never given me a reason to doubt him.
Anyway, my little sister (19F) came over to stay the weekend. We all went out for drinks, and I went to the bathroom for like 10 minutes. When I came back, everything seemed normal, but later that night my boyfriend told me my sister tried to flirt with him “as a joke” to see if he’d cheat. He shut it down and told her it was super inappropriate.
When I confronted her the next day, she said, “Well if your relationship is strong, it shouldn’t matter. It was just a test.”
I was STUNNED. I told her that’s not something you ever do, especially to your own sister. She didn’t even apologize. Just doubled down and said she was “protecting me.”
I ended up telling her to pack her stuff and leave. I’ve blocked her since and I honestly don’t even feel bad.
Was I too harsh? Has anyone else dealt with something like this?
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She is in the FO stage of FAFO
Nta. Your sister is weird and dumb. But also young.
You were not too harsh. Please remember to tell her that what she did will forever sever your relationship and the trust you had in her.
I’m gonna ask you one question OP..has she been emotionally in arrested development and immature and jealous your entire lives? Have you finally decided to share your plight ?
It was a test. She was testing waters to see he’d cheat and she was definitely a willing participant. Good on your boyfriend. Your sister is human garbage.
It wasn’t a test, and it wasn’t a joke, girl.. sounds like you know that already though.💅🏾
If it were a test, and she was genuinely worried about you, then she would’ve talked to you about it first.
SPOILERS: It was not a test. She was genuinely flirting with him, and passed it off as a joke/test when your BF turned her down.
Your BF is a standup guy. He came to you immediately, talked to you about it, and explained carefully to your sister at the time that what she was doing was not cool.
Nope it wasn’t a test
impact over intention. even IF she had “good” intentions, the impact was that she literally made sexual/romantic advances to your boyfriend. unacceptable, period.
Nah you dont do that to anyone. If your sister was joking or do called testing him why didnt she run it by you first! She was serious, she wanted took hook up with him and screw you over!
NTA u did right thing!
So you arranged for your younger sister to “test” your boyfriend?
No?
Okay, so your younger sister got caught hitting on your boyfriend and tried to make a lame excuse? Yeah, you are not overreacting; kick the slut to the curb or jump in bed with them both; either way, it had nothing to do with that lame excuse she gave.
Your little sister mostly just plays minds games. Relationship test are not a think, if you (or in this case the sister) try any of these “tests” you failed the relationship.
She 1000% does this to all of her BFs too.
Her goal was to get you and your bf to fight and break up and she gets to watch it all with popcorn.
No, you’re not too harsh, she wants nothing but drama. Now she got the drama but not drama she was looking for.
Oh fuck her
I don’t know how sisters do it but if my brother did some shit like that, we’re going out back and someone’s going down.
You’re sister is a massive slut and gets a thrill out of banging men that have social proof(they are already someone’s boyfriend or husband therefore probably ok)
Fr tho, she was way outta pocket. Ain’t no “loyalty test,” that’s just shady af. you weren’t harsh, you set the line. blocking her was valid.
After he turned her down she “claimed “ it was a test. Sister was back peddling.
She must think pretty highly of herself to flirt with her sister’s man.
Good block OP
We read so many posts about a sibling cheating with the spouse of another sibling. The excuse is usually, ‘it just happened.‘ Wow. Credit to your SO but put your head on a swivel OP!!
NTA… She disrespected both you and your boyfriend. There is nothing loving about “testing” someone.
Cue the song “Sisters.”
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