Someone told me that most guys don’t just call each other up to chitchat. Would you say that’s true and if so, why?
Someone told me that most guys don’t just call each other up to chitchat. Would you say that’s true and if so, why?
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Someone told me that most guys don’t just call each other up to chitchat. Would you say that’s true and if so, why?
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Fuck talking on the phone. Thats what texting is for
They’ve got their own issues, I don’t need to add mine to them. I definitely don’t need to do so while occupying a continuous chunk of their time and attention when I could have sent a text.
https://youtube.com/shorts/wFIdvwdLSUk?si=8JnmZ8Qbm1PQIdWF&utm_source=MTQxZ
They nailed it
I mean a lot of guys don’t we prefer to text (using discord or some similar messaging service counts as texting) but when it’s serious we might call. Or like if we’re board or something
My buddies call me to ask me what’s up and then we talk about other stuff. What’s the problem?
Yeah, no. Unless I need advice or need to solidify some plans, I’ve never called one of my buddies and was just “hey man, whats up?”
I believe thats a paddlin’ right there.
I don’t have more than 5 mins of useful or important shit I need to say to my buddies
I call my best friend a couple times a week just to chat. But, he’s really the only friend I call regularly. And most of the time a text will do just fine.
He’s a cancer survivor, and he’s kinda retreated after the chemo and rad treatments. So I want to stay in touch. But, I also know he’s not ready to come out of his cave just yet. So, I call. In a perfect world, I’d just invite him over to play some Xbox like we used to do, but it’s been a hard few years for both of us. Caregiving to elderly parents who only just recently passed away. My mom in January, his dad in October. And before that, my dad 3 years ago and his mom 4 years ago. We’ve been through it all together. So now, I just call to see how he is and to try and let him know I’m here and that I care.
I can’t talk on the phone and do stuff. No-one comes between me and my stuff.
Talking on the phone is what my female friends are for. If I’m calling a male friend, it’s usually for business or to make sure plans haven’t changed. If friendly banter enters the conversation during that, so be it. Not what I’m calling for, but i won’t pass up an opportunity for a joke or two.
I call my dudes all the time just to shoot the shit. Rough day at work? Call the homies. Awesome day at work? Call the homies. Took an impressively fat shit? Text a picture then call the homies to make sure they saw it. Miss the homies? Nahh.. that’s gay. Still call the homies 😉
It’s true, I don’t know why. We just don’t feel like it? A few texts are enough or maybe talking while playing games together. I have long talks with my best bud in person like once a year.
What the hell is there to talk about? As long as they haven’t died, we’re good.
Very true; don’t like small talk over the phone, if you need something text me and I’ll respond.
I guess I’m weird because I definitely prefer talking on the phone and always have.
Me and my buddy call each other all the time on long drives.
Because we’d rather do other things than talk about nothing important.
The bros hang on Discord and that’s how they essentially communicate.
I just text them. One of them recently had a kid so maybe we’ll FaceTime to show the kid.
But the short answer is that we not only not enjoy small talk, we dislike it. That’s what your women friends are for.
The only time I talk on the phone is with a friend on the opposite side of the country. Maybe 1-2 times every few months just to check in
I call two buddies and they call me every now and then, sometimes to chat, but usually to see if someone is someone is free to hang out.
I don’t talk about problems with my buddies, fuck that. I hate that and don’t ever want people to be thinking of me in some unfortunate light.
In the last year I haven’t done more than send memes to a guy I consider one of my best friends. We live on opposite sides of the planet, so we very rarely see each other and time zones make having a proper conversation difficult. But I still know that if either one of us was having a major issue, the other would be there for them in a heart beat.
If one of my guy friends calls me, he better have something consequential to say or I’m just making a fart sound and hanging up.
I would not. We call and chitchat almost every day over discord.
I don’t think I’ve ever called a friend or been called by one if it isn’t to organise something or tod roo some news that needs to be talked about immediately.
Because we chat and/or meet to do something. There’s something we’re chatting about. Women often socialize as a hobby.
There’s only one or two friends I’d ever call out of the blue (one male one female), but I think that’s generational (I’m 22). I talk on the phone w my friends, but we’ll usually text to make plans to do that. Just like “hey can I call you tonight at 7 just to catch up?”
Yea I don’t call my friends lol
If I wanna talk to my buddy I shoot him a text and ask “”hey whatcha doing next weekend? Wanna chill and have some bourbon?” Then we do that lol
It’s highly situational. Chitchat? No. I’m assuming you mean “light conversation/catching up” much more likely to send a message or call to say, “you free Saturday to grab dinner and catch up?” Or schedule some other get together. Often, “I’m in town, free for drinks?” Will be replied to with, “I’m totally swamped, am back next February. Dinner?” And now we have a plan for next February. There’s a chance I’ll talk to him before then. Although if I don’t that’s fine, he’s still one of my very best friends.
I drive a lot for work, and on that drive I do have a few people that I’ll call. My dad (always good for a few hours), my best friend (same deal, we can talk for 3+ hours and usually the only reason we stop is that either I have arrived at my destination or he has a meeting to go to.) somebody for a work related call, I’ll also talk to my wife when I drive, but she doesn’t like talking to me while I’m driving. We usually keep those conversations short and logistics based.
Maybe I’m misunderstanding what you mean by chitchat. If you just mean, “having conversations.” Then yes, we do that. OR DO WE?!
I call my best boi at least weekly, and our conversations are almost always over an hour long.
However, I have also heard that this is an outlier.
I don’t know about most guys, but me and my friends do on occasion. About once or twice a month I’ll get or make a call to a friend just to bullshit. One of my best friends has a busy ass life and we both have a habit of forgetting to reply to texts. So sometimes he’ll call me when he’s running an errand across town just to bullshit and catch up in the meantime.
I don’t do it enough, but it’s one of my favorite things to do on a Friday night. I’m usually too tired to go out, so it’s nice to chill sip a couple beers and catch up with friends. I will say it should happen more often tho, there is a male loneliness epidemic and I think strengthening bonds like this is important. You only get so many friends in life. So it’s important to cultivate those gardens.
I can’t remember a single time where I have ever felt comfortable talking with another guy on the phone.
I like having conversations as long as they aren’t one-sided and they aren’t small talk but every single guy I know is just closed off and awkward.
My brother called me once, I have no idea why, and it felt like I was just trying to think of things to say to keep a conversation going but I was basically just listening to him breathe.
I went to lunch with a co-worker and we sat in the booth and ate together as I was trying to start up a conversation and he only gave one word responses, it was so fucking awkward. He asked me out to lunch a couple other times and I declined just because it was so awkward.
I like to share things and talk about observations and ask questions and to be asked questions. I have better conversations with my cat than I do with other men.
Calls are for emergency or i need to hear something said clearly. Texts is for setting up meets or events. I dont chat over text, i save it for in person conversations. I never call to chitchat.
Talk to them about what exactly? Who wants to talk to me? I don’t call anyone because I don’t want to bother them. If someone wants to talk to me. I will take their call but seldom call anybody including my siblings or children. I just feel like I’m bothering them. I’m retired and don’t really do anything interesting. My kids live out of state and I traveled most of my working life and have no friends where I live and I’m too old to make new ones. So I lead a quiet existence.
If he wants me to know something he’ll tell me. But we also don’t need all the extraneous details.
“Hey, Dan’s in the hospital. He had a bad accident” is an acceptable, complete, story.
I hate talking on the phone unless I absolutely have to. It needs to be an actual emergency or something close to it.
I would be caught so off guard. I’d be thinking it was their partner letting me know they died or something.
I did it today. Twice.
All right, serious question to follow… what if your best friend lives in a different state. How often should we be chitchatting on the phone?
That is called “going to the pub”
Never call to just chat. Always a reason.
Having said that dude’s can start talking about something which then it’s like hanging out on the phone or chit chat.
I do with some of my friends, but not usually. Don’t usually have too much to talk about unless something major happened.
True. I just assume everything is fine and day-to-day until I hear otherwise. But unlike the others, I’d MUCH rather have any conversation over the phone than over text. Text conversations are figuratively blindingly painful for me.
When we put a phone call in to another guy there is 100% a purpose. Shooting the shit is done in person (for me anyway)
Depends. With some mates I never talk on the phone. Others, almost never, but once in a blue moon we chat for a few hours and talk random shit. And one or two I catch up weekly on the phone, either chitchat or talk business.
The only time I’ve voice chatted with one of my guy friends in like 20 years is when his wife cheated on him and left him.
Obviously we have voice chat in games and stuff, but I mean specifically called him up to talk to him.
Why? I don’t know why, voice talk takes a lot more concentration. We like doing stuff with friends, not talking to them just for the sake of talking. We use chat to send memes and make plans.
I text with my buddies. If I call, it’ll be to coordinate something.
My closest buddy/brother from my time in the Marines calls about once a week on his off day to bullshit and run down the news. Call usually lasts a couple of hours. We shoot the shit, tell jokes and stories of dumb stuff we did when we were younger, then get off the phone and get back to sending internet foolishness to each other. I appreciate it greatly.
I call my best friend a lot, not as much rn since he got a gf and job lmao. We established that he wasn’t much of a texting guy so I just called him a lot to talk and play games. He’ll call once in a while to check up on me. In fact I have a few others that are brief over text and prefer face-to-face convos. Or use VC just to catch-up
The majority is that I hate talking on the phone. The rest is that none of my pals have days off like I do. So. No contact most of the time.
I talk to my best buds at least once or twice a week on discord. We will call each other and talk as we play games rather with each other or not. Other friends i’ll text or hang out with. Last time I had a phone call with a guy friend? I legit can’t remember…
Us guys for the most part have this image understanding of “what’s up” in all meanings of the sense (of those words).
“Life’s shit, life’s hard, but we are here.”
I got my homies back n they got mine. We can go days, weeks, months or years without talking but that bond that brotherhood doesn’t fade or rust or shake. Being present with the boys is more than words could ever convey.
Actions not words, mean more to us than people realize.
Drama doesn’t bother us not will it shake us it doesn’t define us cause at the end of the day it don’t really matter, as new dramas will inevitably occur to replace old ones.
Again we tend not to sweat the small stuff.
When girls come to me with drama n chitchat I’m thinking of solutions rather than sucking in the juices. If I can’t help I am a bother, n I don’t like being a bother.
I regularly talk with my buddies on the phone for hours a day
Why do I need to have an extensive conversation with somebody when four words would do.
We usually meet up every 6 months to a Year and discuss everything we have to say
Yes, it’s true
But, what’s there to talk about?
If I need a hammer (or whatever), I call and ask. If I’m inviting them for something, there’s that. Otherwise, what’s there to call and chit chat about?
This doesn’t mean we are morose and silent. If and when we meet, we talk a lot. Even when we call to ask for the hammer (or whatever), we do talk about other things.
But to call someone just to chitchat, with nothing else as the purpose, is wild. Why would we do that?
If they’re calling its likely because you aren’t responding to their texts LOL.
I have a fantasy football group chat with 12 guys in it. We’ve all been friends since middle school and this is our 18th year doing this league (we’re all late 30’s). Sometimes it’s dead, sometimes it’s alive. If an outside read it they’d think we hate each others guts. It is the best communication we all look forward to every year.
Female here, my exH talked on the phone like a damn teenage girl. He’s a nice guy but he still spends a ton of time talking on the phone with his friends, they chat about their day and kids etc. He gets made fun of by quite a few friends for the amount of time he’s on the phone too.
Send a text first, make the appointment for a phone call. Gotta focus.
Texting is like trading notes that I can read in my own time between brushing my teeth or making a sandwich or finishing the round of my video game, whatever.
Talking on the phone insists on my time and attention now and then we’ve talked so there’s no reason to get together, because we’ve already caught up on everything.
I dont like to talk on the phone. I prefer having a face to face conversation
I would say it’s totally true for me and why? Because I don’t really enjoy talking to other men about much. Yes, I hold my own in certain conversations about sports. Yes, I’m down for listening and advice when it comes to romance. But honestly, with no preset topic and no clear goal of the conversation? I just do not feel compelled towards it.
I’ve tried. 🤷🏻♂️
Who has time for that!?
I have one guy I do this for and this is one of the few people I have ever done this for. I am 38
Completely true. That’s why I started an online D&D group. We get to talk, but we’re there for a reason.
Idk it just feels more appropriate when ur chillin on bro time and shootin the shit. I have had long phone calls with friends in the past, but mainly cuz they were far away and we wouldn’t be able to hang otherwise. Now that I think about it, idek why it is like that. I guess we just prioritize our time differently and chit chat is low on the list.
It’s true, but I don’t exactly know why. I never really spoke with anyone on the phone much until I started dating the woman I’d eventually marry. That’s why I have bunch of good (platonic) female friends. One of my best friends a few years ago insisted that we call and talk, and I was like “about what? What’s going on? You mean just because?” It felt weird. But it was actually very nice. For a while, when work still allowed us to, we’d have a call every week to catch up. I talk to maybe 4 or 5 friends on a semi regular basis and all of them are women. My guy friends need…a point? It’s hard to explain. I was exactly the same once, and phone calls with people sometimes still make me nervous, but I can’t exactly describe why. It was just never a part of my life.
I don’t use social media (except Reddit) so I have friends I call regularly to catch up with. Maybe every week or two. One friend from middle school lives several states away and we usually have a couple beers and bullshit on the phone for an hour maybe two. Talk about family, work, music, tv shows. As we’ve aged, it’s more about financial planning, health and aging parents. Sometimes plan our next vacation together we want to do with our families. I have another friend that’s local and we only text, never call unless it’s an emergency. Our last 2 phone calls were a broken down truck and a family member passing away suddenly and he needed my help. But we see each other almost every week.
Very true, chit chat is idle banter and we’re too busy to sit on the ohone and be like “Hey, want to talk about nothing for a while?”
We chat while doing something, playing video games? Watch the right flank, I’m planting, how’s Life?”
Watching sports “Damn, you see that foul? Hey by the way, you get that promotion?”
I usually catch up with my friends when we meet up so there’s not a lot of texting and calling going on.
Yep. Even in person some don’t really chitchat.
This is true. I don’t and my friends don’t. If I have something to “chitchat” about, it can wait until the next time I see them. If I don’t remember to bring it up, it probably wasn’t worth talking about.
For me at least there’s no reason to. My friends apparently all call each other every day, but I’m a busy guy and don’t have time for a phone call unless it’s an emergency. I can text all day, but I can’t talk just to talk.
I’m 45. My best friend passed last year. We would go fish/hike/camp once a year and send a text before to confirm.
for me, true. There’s always a specific reason
I think the question is not necessarily asked in the best way.
I dont usually call to chit chat, but i can sit in a Discord call and talk to my friends for hours. Guys will drop in and out of the call and hangout when they got time.
I think guys are less likely to call with the intent to chitchat. There is more likely to be a purpose for the initial call. That said, some guys will absolutely shoot the breeze for a long time after the initial subject has been covered.
I think to ask why we don’t we have to know why we would.
Me and my guy friend call maybe once a week just to make sure we’re still alive, then we get to talking about the week, and how life is.
I have three or four really good friends that we are like brothers. Will call from time to time to check in and that’s it really. Otherwise the group chat is usually how talk sports or just send memes back and forth
I do with some of my friends but it’s not a regular thing . I might phone my one friend once a week to chat and then some other friends I’ll phone every couple weeks
I’ll call up guy friends for a favor or advice or to relay some important info. I’ll basically never call to chit chat. I don’t need that kind of validation in my everyday life. They don’t need to know what I was doing or thinking about. We just don’t seek that kind of support.
Yes. We like getting to the point and we like purpose. We don’t need 20 different ways to hint at stuff.
It’s the same reason we don’t like unnecessary work meetings. We value our time and we got sh*t to do.
We can watch sports to pass time.
We also think something is up if someone calls for no real reason which is typically true.
Yeah.
Last time I called a friend on the phone just to chitchat, Bush was president.
I don’t enjoy often just chitchating with my friends. When guys hang out, you’d be surprised how little we actually talk. We will end up talking if a subject comes up, but we don’t share details about eachother even a fraction of as often as women do.
During covid lock down we did end up talking to eachother on discord a couple of times.
We had bi weekly calls on discord too, but that was to play DnD.
We chat on discord while gaming. Otherwise it’s group texts or texting via discord for memes or shenanigans. Hanging out is the other alternative.
Idk it just seems weird to hit someone up consistently about how their day. My female friends do it to me and I go along with it. With guys I know if shit hits the fan and they need help or I need help we’d get ahold of each other but otherwise I don’t wanna be a bother unless we’re doing something.
Tbh I fucking hate texting women cause I’m typically busy doing something and forget for hours and then feel bad. I typically tell em to just call me if you wanna chit chat so I can have my hands free and we can communicate more efficiently with emotion. I feel texting is awful for conveying tone and I say a lot of things where tone matters a lot.
I don’t call my friends to “chitchat” because I don’t talk for the sake of talking. If we call each other it’s because we have something specific to talk about that would take too long over text, a plan to go over, a story to tell, you get the idea. The idea of calling one of my buddies “just to talk” seems almost comical to me.
Depends. We certainly do, but the frequency isn’t everyday like you would with a chick you’re dating.
I chit chat in person. I only call my family or partner
A lot of the responses here really seem to show that a decent chunk of the “male loneliness epidemic” is somewhat self inflicted. Guys seems to go out of there way to avoid making a real connection with anyone even their “friends” and so many seem “happy” to exist in surface level relationships with their friends.
Most of my friends are from work. So i don’t really call unless it’s important.
We do have a several person text going on that’s pretty NSFW.
I have a friend that I’ve known for over half my life and we live about 100 miles apart. Every 2-3 weeks one of us will call the other just to talk.
I never call my friends to talk. I text with them. Phone calls are reserved for important conversations.
I haven’t seen it mentioned yet but I game with my friends and that’s when we “chit chat” and it’ll be for hours sure mostly it’s about the game but it sometimes gets personal anecdotes or interesting things that happened in our day to day lives. I can’t just sit on the phone and talk, I think a lot of us are like this if we share we share if not it’s ok too.
I call people to talk occasionally. Helps you pass the time when you stuck somewhere dull, because you don’t see everybody every week.
That is true.
Holy shit, I have this friend or I don’t anymore, lol… He would just randomly call me half drunk and start talking all kinds of random shit for hours at a time. Doesn’t let me say a word either. I don’t know how to shut him up and he also never wants meet in person. After a while I just blocked him, enough is enough.
Most dudes aren’t chatty Cathy’s so things get said with less words and a phone call is usually not necessary. If I want to catch up with someone I’ll have lunch with them or something.
Well, I haven’t see this commented so I will. My trucker buddies talk on the phone all day long. Just about nothing really and it’s a rotating cast of characters but they talk all the time.
Like literally never. I cant even imagine wanting to do this? Talking on the phone to just talk on the phone is like my least favorite thing to do. Have to actually think of things to say, in person you can have pauses till something else comes up.
Nope, I cold call my friends and we talk for an hour
So this is actually something I’ve been working on normalizing with the boys. More than one of us (🙋🏾♂️) are often a mess these last few years and need the support. Plus I learned in recovery communities that it’s really fucking hard to pick up the phone when you need help so calling for a 5-10 minute chat builds repetitions just like going to the gym. Mind you these are 20-30 year friendships and it’s a practice we haven’t really engaged in since we were teenagers before the dawn of text messaging so it does feel a little odd sometimes being as we are grown and have our own lives and families to get wrapped up in. As to why we weren’t doing it before. I think it just wasn’t the nature of our relationships. We built our bonds young and in person and once we weren’t in each other’s physical presence all the time I think I assumed everyone was busy and that they knew I cared and I would help if they ever needed me. The thing about that is that there have been emergencies that could have been prevented with more regular talking and calling each other before the bad stuff happens.
TLDR: Didn’t think it was necessary. Turns out it was. For me and a couple of these guys at least.
It doesn’t really occur to me to call my friends during the day. I’m totally content doing my thing, and I’ll talk to them when I see them—preferably over a beer.
In my experience, one of us calls to ask a question, sometimes to tell each other something, then we chit chat. After that it can be weeks, months, or years before another phone call.
Words many. Few better.
I have a bunch of close friends and I hate it when people call me. But I have like five active group chats and am in basically constant contact with a bunch of dudes.
No, I talk to my friends pretty regularly. We text a lot but we also have conversations, sometimes for an hour or more.
65m here. I love texting especially if I need to mass communicate information with my siblings.
If you can. Look up family guy Peter calling Quagmire up to talk to him.
Its annoying sometimes.
But im sure there are friends that genuinely enjoy talking to each other on the phone.
I call my buddies when I’m driving to or from work. I have about an hour commute so it gives time to catch up.
I just called one of my oldest friends the other day and spoke for a good hour. He lives across the country. We talk a few times a year and text pretty regularly.
My friend group just uses discord and we all hangout and talk. Usually doing other things at the same time though.
We do that over video games.
My homies and I call each other all the time to say what’s up and catch up.
Yeah pretty true. We’ll text on occasion, but that’s about it. As for why, it’s efficient. We’re busy most of the time and don’t have the time to just call and talk.
That’s not true, my good friend calls me and I call him. I call my cousins and my uncle and they call me. This isn’t true for me at least, I can’t necessarily speak for other men.
Brother calls talk shit about work. Cousins call to borrow tools or to play cards . Usually there’s. Motive behind the call. See if I’ll go fishing , or help them fix their vehicle. Or possible organize a boys day out. Not many chit chat calls if any.
Our conversations are much shorter. Texting killed what phone conversation was necessary.
I’ve noticed a difference in male and female conversation.l with generalities and details. For nearly everything, women want more detail. The exception is something that induces a lot of negative emotions, where women just let the other person vent as they please, but men want to fix the problem or seek retribution.
In most conversations where I break news from someone to my wife, she starts asking for details, but I didn’t ask and they didn’t say. When she told me and her father that her niece’s BF had threatened her, both me and my FIL, before she could move on, asked “Wait a minute…stop there…what exactly did he say or do?” Then she was the one to say “Oh, I didn’t ask.”
I use solo dog walks for friend phone calls. You gotta put some effort in to your village if you want it to thrive.
Ya I’d say that’s accurate.
I generally don’t like sitting and talking on the phone.
When guys talk it’s often as they are doing a task
Exception is driving, can’t handle phone and drive here so I call
That’s what video games are for
I like talking with my buddies over the phone. It doesn’t happen nearly enough but I think they appreciate it when I do call.
I text. I like to talk on the phone.
I just have trouble calling people in general
Cause if something’s wrong they’ll let us know. I’m close with my friends BUT we can go weeks without talking. We all have our own lives, are married and have our own problems. If someone or if I hit them up they’ll answer, or come by the garage and have a drink and chitchat a little. Anyways I hit them up with stupid IG or TikTok videos/memes all the time.
Hence the difference in the Venus and Mars dynamic. The details. The intrinsic facts. Not necessarily meaningless but not as important as it is to women because of our maternal instinct.
We want to try to make the upcoming life of a baby as good and without as much conflict as we can avoid. So we are cautious, protective. Maternal instinct. There’s the differences, in general.
The thing is, sometimes men see that in women as girly or weak.
Bogs things down in too much detail, covering way too much, analytical, overly prepared. Yes we are very averse and protective from danger. It’s hormones just like it is for you. Best of luck to us all! 😵😅
Call, not really. Mostly just for confirming if they’re coming, where they’re at already. But we chat a lot. We send vms if we’re currently on the run.
My buddies and I just send each other reels on Instagram. Those are the full extent of our conversations.
nah might be true for some men, but I facetime with my best friends for a few hours 1-2x a week when i’m not in the city
My boys and I have a group chat that we text…..we only call when something bad happens or someone isn’t on time.
I’m always overhearing my husband on the phone with his friends but their conversations are shorter than my conversations with my friends tend to be.
I do with some friends
My friends can always call me if there’s something serious they need to talk about,need someone to talk to, etc. But just calling me on the phone just because? That isn’t a thing. At least not for me and any of my friends.
Just talking personally, my friendships look very different than my wife’s friendships. She talks to many of her friends often, as in a weekly basis. For 2 of her friends, they basically talk daily.
On the other hand, the only time I talk to my friends is typically in person when we hang out. The times we text/talk on the phone is usually to plan our next get together.
Because small talk is for in person conversations.
If I’m bothering to pick up a phone and actually call someone, I’m doing so with a purpose.
I am also an introvert, so I may not be the best example.
I consider it similar to men and shopping. When I’m going to a store or mall it’s because I know what I want, I know what store(s) I need to check and as soon as I select what I want, I’m out of there.
If a guy friend calls a guy normally something is wrong, someone died, or you need help.
We chat online tho playing games for 2/3 hours 1-2 days a week tho so we can just text about other stuff
My wife thinks it’s incredible that we can do that. My buddies and I have been friend since birth since our parents were best friend’s growing up. The 8 of us are all a year apart there’s not much we haven’t lived thru together
When phones were attached to the wall insused to, but then ventrillo came out, and that pretty much stopped. I will chit chat with the boys on discord/Mirc etc. But call them on the phone… only my parents I see once or twice a year
Very rarely, and if i do it’s to a buddy that has moved away. Texting/talking in the phone is so impersonal, i prefer just go have a coffee with them instead.