WIll hopefully never be in the dating pool again, but cheating. If someone can justify cheating the first time, it only gets easier any time after that. I wouldn’t want to step into a relationship where someone has already been able to cross that threshold.
Healthy lifestyle: majority healthy diet, passion for their own physical fitness(doesn’t need to be gym fiend or obsessed with working out). Agreeable, caring, sweet.
No night shift and must like sex. I’m not gonna date someone who wants to fuck once or twice a week. Might as well be single and beat off if that’s all I’m getting
Being a decent person, and all that I feel falls under that umbrella. For example if you’re a racist, or you hate kids or animals.
Smoking is extremely likely to be a no.
I would find it very difficult at best to date people in certain fields, or likely even those who used to be in certain fields. Such as attorneys, especially on the prosecution side. Cops. Politicians. Military people. A preacher/church leader.
I’m assuming we are talking about serious, long-term dating and not something casual. She must be self-sufficient and stable. I wouldn’t be interested in something serious with someone who can’t take care of herself or is always teetering on the brink of not being able to do so.
The most recent thing that comes to mind: “my truth”. Next time I hear those words outside of a therapeutic context, I’m just leaving immediately. The unholy fusion of intense solipsistic narcissism and instagram/tiktok influence is very troubling in the dating scene, for that reason I’m also going to suss out my date’s relationship to social media before getting too close.
While i know it’s gonna get harder now that i’m in my mid 30s. No kids.
Also: In contact with an ex? Nope. Big fat nope, oof. Been there, done that. Gave me a headache. And smoking. Sorry but you can be the cutest thing in the world. Light a cigarette and you’re going from a 10/10 to a 3/10.
And i don’t want a partner who doesn’t make me her priority. Like, i understand her having friends male or female, i don’t care. But i don’t want to feel like i’m less of a priority than them. Sounds weird maybe, but i’ve had that experience too. Where her online male friend was a priority over me, and it made me feel really shitty about myself and the relationship. So i don’t want that anymore.
She has to put in effort. If I am the one who is always reaching out first, always suggesting places to go, always looking for something to do while she does literally nothing but take, I might as well not date her.
I cannot imagine someone going through their days, sitting their butts down on dozens of questionable surfaces or rubbing their bodies against other humans in public transport etc, then coming home and plonking down on my bed or sofa.
I’m no germaphobe. I realise that being part of the world means you have to come in contact with gunk, bodily fluids, sweat, grime, etc, but I’d like my home to be a sanctuary free of all that.
Biggest one: must be self-sufficient. Economically, physically, mentally. I went on a date with a girl that was just not very sharp, bless her heart, and I realized “this will not go in a healthy way.”
Decent shape or at least wear the weight well if you’re a bit overweight. I did the work to get into shape and lose a bunch of weight this year, you can too.
Have some sort of hobby or passion that you enjoy doing. I don’t have to share it, I just want to know you enjoy doing something that’s not just consuming social media.
No or minimal debt. I have zero debt and it’s not difficult to be financially responsible.
Quite a few and not really any of them have to do either body shape or facial features though of course I need ro at least be physically attracted to a person. Kindness and actually wanting to be with me because you care about me as a person and not just because of how I look. Not judging me for the hobbies I do for fun. Being supportive when I need someone in my corner. Someone who actually invites me over and does cute romantic things without me having to be the one to always initiate it. Someone who can make me feel loved without me always questioning if they actually care about me. Someone who puts in real effort into the relationship and doesn’t just leave it all up to me. I would hope someone would hold me to these same standards as well.
Empathy – I don’t just mean being “nice”, I mean being able to care about how other people are feeling. I should be able to go to you with a problem, an insecurity, or an anxiety, and not have you make it about yourself.
Trustworthiness – Obviously I need to be able to trust you. I won’t waste time on someone who keeps secrets or bends the truth.
Must at least be working towards healing their damage – can’t even entertain being around acquaintances who aren’t doing self work anymore, the disconnect it too strong.
the consensus seems to be that most men want an independent woman who’s not on only fans, is able to admit when she’s wrong, has a great sex drive, is working on themselves, and is upbeat and fun to be around
Has to be athletic body, toned, tight bubble butt, etc. If she is 5 foot, should weight 100 pounds and for every inch taller can add 5 pounds for a total limit weight of 125 pounds. No debts, kids, previous marriages, fake lips, fillers, tats, plastic surgery. Natural blonde with carpet matching drapes. No smoking, no drugs, no alcohol. no felonies or misdemeanors, 6 figure plus income (can be from employment or trust fund/investments).
1: Cannot be addicted to drugs or alcohol
2: Lives alone/financially independent
3: College educated
4: No kids/offspring
5: Speaks at least one other language than English (or their native tongue)
Maybe it’s a bit of a high standard but I’m allowed to be picky and particular when it comes to love, aren’t I?
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No lawyers.
Biologic Woman. Other than that, people change. We are all works of art.
No weed smoking and no JRPG fans.
must be in a decently healthy shape
WIll hopefully never be in the dating pool again, but cheating. If someone can justify cheating the first time, it only gets easier any time after that. I wouldn’t want to step into a relationship where someone has already been able to cross that threshold.
Healthy lifestyle: majority healthy diet, passion for their own physical fitness(doesn’t need to be gym fiend or obsessed with working out). Agreeable, caring, sweet.
That’s probably it.
No kids and no smoking
No smoking, no fat chicks.
No night shift and must like sex. I’m not gonna date someone who wants to fuck once or twice a week. Might as well be single and beat off if that’s all I’m getting
She has to be okay with Weird Al.
Not fat.
She’s not active on socials
No smokers.
Doesn’t own an Only Fans Account.
Random racism, no thank you ugh
Smoking.
Financially and mentally stable.
No weiners.
She wants children, I’ve had a vasectomy
No drugs
She has a dick.
No smokers. Good physical shape.
Having a job.
Not too picky.
Likes sex a lot and doesn’t want kids
Common interests, the right kind of weird and kind-hearted.
Hot ass.
When I was single mine were:
No hard drugs, no potheads, no alcoholics. 5+ years sober if there’s a history of substance abuse.
No cross dressers. (You do you, but its a huge turn off for me)
Lives as a bill paying adult.
If there are kids, he needs to be involved & pay support.
Passionate about at least one thing in life besides me.
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Must have some kind of drive and passion. I don’t want a life where most nights consist of watching something or endless scrolling.
I do a ton of camping so it’s unlikely that I’d date someone who doesn’t enjoy it but I don’t know if I’d go as far as calling it non-negotiable.
Needs to know how to live within a budget and not run up debt.
No dudes
No women with far left politics
I’ll never be in the dating pool again but…
Being a decent person, and all that I feel falls under that umbrella. For example if you’re a racist, or you hate kids or animals.
Smoking is extremely likely to be a no.
I would find it very difficult at best to date people in certain fields, or likely even those who used to be in certain fields. Such as attorneys, especially on the prosecution side. Cops. Politicians. Military people. A preacher/church leader.
Front to back. Never back to front
No smoking
I’m assuming we are talking about serious, long-term dating and not something casual. She must be self-sufficient and stable. I wouldn’t be interested in something serious with someone who can’t take care of herself or is always teetering on the brink of not being able to do so.
No cops, no fascists, no mothers.
Must have a job and no debt
Cannot smoke cigarettes.
rudeness/disrespectfulness
One that sleeps around with others constantly
No smoking. Takes care of herself. Not racist/bigoted. No kids.
The most recent thing that comes to mind: “my truth”. Next time I hear those words outside of a therapeutic context, I’m just leaving immediately. The unholy fusion of intense solipsistic narcissism and instagram/tiktok influence is very troubling in the dating scene, for that reason I’m also going to suss out my date’s relationship to social media before getting too close.
No one overly religious or political. No drug users, minus weed. Has to have their own job
While i know it’s gonna get harder now that i’m in my mid 30s. No kids.
Also: In contact with an ex? Nope. Big fat nope, oof. Been there, done that. Gave me a headache. And smoking. Sorry but you can be the cutest thing in the world. Light a cigarette and you’re going from a 10/10 to a 3/10.
And i don’t want a partner who doesn’t make me her priority. Like, i understand her having friends male or female, i don’t care. But i don’t want to feel like i’m less of a priority than them. Sounds weird maybe, but i’ve had that experience too. Where her online male friend was a priority over me, and it made me feel really shitty about myself and the relationship. So i don’t want that anymore.
Race. Not Black? I’m good.
Boring, vanilla, unexciting sex. Never put myself through pillow princess, starfish experience again.
Sorry, only one penis allowed in the relationship.
Hostility, physical and emotional violence(even as a joke/playing), jealousy
No psychologists/therapists. I don’t need someone psycho analyzing my every flaw and move for free.
Has to actually like me.
The ability to learn. That’s my only requirement
Expresses interest in me. So yeah, I don’t date.
loyalty tops everything, no excuses for cheating.
No hard drugs. Been there, done that, eff that.
Children. Child free male here who’s snipped and I make it clear from the beginning that kids will not be in my future nor anyone else’s kids.
Fat.
Have to be in decent shape, have an aim in life, a job.
I have a bunch of them. Here’s a small handful:
Can’t be supportive of groups that would torture me to death if they get their hands on me, yes this is a requirement
I own my house and have a full on career so I’m not really willing to move
I’ll never accept cigarettes or drugs
Don’t really have much else
lol I have a few and they’re all equally important.
Childfree
Antitheist or at least atheist
Liberal
Straightedge (moderate alcohol is fine)
Healthy weight
No rap/hiphop/country/mariachi music.
She has to put in effort. If I am the one who is always reaching out first, always suggesting places to go, always looking for something to do while she does literally nothing but take, I might as well not date her.
Be a nice person. It might not work out, but I’ve never regretting dating a person who is kind.
No OF, dear lord
your female best friend should approve of her, because she knows exactly the type of girl you are looking for.
They must shower every time after coming home.
I cannot imagine someone going through their days, sitting their butts down on dozens of questionable surfaces or rubbing their bodies against other humans in public transport etc, then coming home and plonking down on my bed or sofa.
I’m no germaphobe. I realise that being part of the world means you have to come in contact with gunk, bodily fluids, sweat, grime, etc, but I’d like my home to be a sanctuary free of all that.
Can’t be divorced.
Can’t be morbidly obese.
Can’t be a smoker.
That’s pretty much it.
No Tories
No smokers, no druggies, no liberals.
Smoking.
Politics
Them wanting kids or already having young ones (I’m open to dating someone with a teenager) is the biggest dealbreaker for me.
Must have plans to finish college and not have a “I’m from the hood and my whole personality is only about hood shit” vibe to you.
Biggest one: must be self-sufficient. Economically, physically, mentally. I went on a date with a girl that was just not very sharp, bless her heart, and I realized “this will not go in a healthy way.”
Good health, caring and nice.
I’d like similar beliefs and caring about your physical and mental well being
Constantly evolve through passion and creativity
No bitching about my smoking
I will not date a smoker. I’ve quit and haven’t gone back for over 12 years. I don’t want the smell or the temptation
They can’t have “Trauma” and can’t complain about men.
Kindness, I’d rather be alone than spend time with meanspirited people.
Lip filler
I really don’t like the idea that my next partner would be an alcoholic or/and smoker again
Right now? No kids. Might change when I am 40. But I won’t date anyone who is raising right now.
A strong sense of curiosity is a must.
No drugs and good physical and mental health.
No unnecessarily harming animals in their diet/consumption habits
Quite a few and not really any of them have to do either body shape or facial features though of course I need ro at least be physically attracted to a person. Kindness and actually wanting to be with me because you care about me as a person and not just because of how I look. Not judging me for the hobbies I do for fun. Being supportive when I need someone in my corner. Someone who actually invites me over and does cute romantic things without me having to be the one to always initiate it. Someone who can make me feel loved without me always questioning if they actually care about me. Someone who puts in real effort into the relationship and doesn’t just leave it all up to me. I would hope someone would hold me to these same standards as well.
Empathy – I don’t just mean being “nice”, I mean being able to care about how other people are feeling. I should be able to go to you with a problem, an insecurity, or an anxiety, and not have you make it about yourself.
Trustworthiness – Obviously I need to be able to trust you. I won’t waste time on someone who keeps secrets or bends the truth.
No republicans.
No gag reflex
Mentally, socially, professionally mature responsible adult.
Young kids, vastly overweight, demanding expectations of what they think they want- meaning as if they are that special, no job
She cant be selling her body for sex. Whether as a prostitute, an only fans worker, or anything in between. Hard no.
Must at least be working towards healing their damage – can’t even entertain being around acquaintances who aren’t doing self work anymore, the disconnect it too strong.
I am looking for a partner, not a dependent.
Able to admit fault and apologize.
Twice I’ve been in relationship with wonderful people who just cannot say “I’m sorry I fucked up”
the consensus seems to be that most men want an independent woman who’s not on only fans, is able to admit when she’s wrong, has a great sex drive, is working on themselves, and is upbeat and fun to be around
Has to be athletic body, toned, tight bubble butt, etc. If she is 5 foot, should weight 100 pounds and for every inch taller can add 5 pounds for a total limit weight of 125 pounds. No debts, kids, previous marriages, fake lips, fillers, tats, plastic surgery. Natural blonde with carpet matching drapes. No smoking, no drugs, no alcohol. no felonies or misdemeanors, 6 figure plus income (can be from employment or trust fund/investments).
Likes me
Cheating history, immaturity and liar a lot of problems stems from lies.
I have an entire list, but these are at the top:
I have 5:
1: Cannot be addicted to drugs or alcohol
2: Lives alone/financially independent
3: College educated
4: No kids/offspring
5: Speaks at least one other language than English (or their native tongue)
Maybe it’s a bit of a high standard but I’m allowed to be picky and particular when it comes to love, aren’t I?
No smoking, no kids, no sex-work/onlyfans, no cheating, no nightshift workers, look & be in good physical shape.
Tall and no smoking or drinking
They have a realistic view of the world
No kids and or younger than 32 and in decent shape. Anything outside those parameters and it’s just casual no commitment.
Not an entitled prick
Must be into freeuse.