what’s your non-negotiable when it comes to potential dating prospects?

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what’s your non-negotiable when it comes to potential dating prospects?

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  1. 0ut_0f_st0ck Avatar

    Biologic Woman. Other than that, people change. We are all works of art.

  2. TenThousandSniffs Avatar

    No weed smoking and no JRPG fans.

  3. JAWs_1985 Avatar

    must be in a decently healthy shape

  4. jimfish98 Avatar

    WIll hopefully never be in the dating pool again, but cheating. If someone can justify cheating the first time, it only gets easier any time after that. I wouldn’t want to step into a relationship where someone has already been able to cross that threshold.

  5. -BOOST- Avatar

    Healthy lifestyle: majority healthy diet, passion for their own physical fitness(doesn’t need to be gym fiend or obsessed with working out). Agreeable, caring, sweet.

    That’s probably it.

  6. Advanced_Version6667 Avatar

    No kids and no smoking

  7. activeseven Avatar

    No smoking, no fat chicks.

  8. AyahaushaAaronRodger Avatar

    No night shift and must like sex. I’m not gonna date someone who wants to fuck once or twice a week. Might as well be single and beat off if that’s all I’m getting

  9. OhTheHueManatee Avatar

    She has to be okay with Weird Al.

  10. Level_Department_713 Avatar

    She’s not active on socials

  11. cormack16 Avatar

    No smokers.

  12. BrisbaneBrat Avatar

    Doesn’t own an Only Fans Account.

  13. GiantsNFL1785 Avatar

    Random racism, no thank you ugh

  14. LYossarian13 Avatar

    Financially and mentally stable.

  15. 613_Cam Avatar

    She wants children, I’ve had a vasectomy

  16. Theedon Avatar

    She has a dick.

  17. EttanSnuser Avatar

    No smokers. Good physical shape.   
    Having a job.

    Not too picky.

  18. etzio500 Avatar

    Likes sex a lot and doesn’t want kids

  19. NotBorn2Fade Avatar

    Common interests, the right kind of weird and kind-hearted.

  20. Luck3Seven4 Avatar

    When I was single mine were:

    No hard drugs, no potheads, no alcoholics. 5+ years sober if there’s a history of substance abuse.

    No cross dressers. (You do you, but its a huge turn off for me)

    Lives as a bill paying adult.

    If there are kids, he needs to be involved & pay support.

    Passionate about at least one thing in life besides me.

  21. ra__account Avatar

    Must have some kind of drive and passion. I don’t want a life where most nights consist of watching something or endless scrolling.

    I do a ton of camping so it’s unlikely that I’d date someone who doesn’t enjoy it but I don’t know if I’d go as far as calling it non-negotiable.

    Needs to know how to live within a budget and not run up debt.

  22. Alfyn8585 Avatar

    No women with far left politics

  23. Angry_GorillaBS Avatar

    I’ll never be in the dating pool again but…

    Being a decent person, and all that I feel falls under that umbrella. For example if you’re a racist, or you hate kids or animals.

    Smoking is extremely likely to be a no.

    I would find it very difficult at best to date people in certain fields, or likely even those who used to be in certain fields. Such as attorneys, especially on the prosecution side. Cops. Politicians. Military people. A preacher/church leader.

  24. OrangutanMan234 Avatar

    Front to back. Never back to front

  25. l3tsR0LL Avatar
  26. WheelOfCheeseburgers Avatar

    I’m assuming we are talking about serious, long-term dating and not something casual. She must be self-sufficient and stable. I wouldn’t be interested in something serious with someone who can’t take care of herself or is always teetering on the brink of not being able to do so.

  27. Duranti Avatar

    No cops, no fascists, no mothers.

  28. Sure_Entrepreneur790 Avatar

    Must have a job and no debt

  29. MsBlades Avatar

    Cannot smoke cigarettes.

  30. Impressive-Floor-700 Avatar

    rudeness/disrespectfulness

  31. Sp0phie Avatar

    One that sleeps around with others constantly

  32. Nondescript_585_Guy Avatar

    No smoking. Takes care of herself. Not racist/bigoted. No kids.

  33. Brambleshoes Avatar

    The most recent thing that comes to mind: “my truth”. Next time I hear those words outside of a therapeutic context, I’m just leaving immediately. The unholy fusion of intense solipsistic narcissism and instagram/tiktok influence is very troubling in the dating scene, for that reason I’m also going to suss out my date’s relationship to social media before getting too close.

  34. Pitiable-Crescendo Avatar

    No one overly religious or political. No drug users, minus weed. Has to have their own job

  35. Sad_Bodybuilder_186 Avatar

    While i know it’s gonna get harder now that i’m in my mid 30s. No kids.

    Also: In contact with an ex? Nope. Big fat nope, oof. Been there, done that. Gave me a headache. And smoking. Sorry but you can be the cutest thing in the world. Light a cigarette and you’re going from a 10/10 to a 3/10.

    And i don’t want a partner who doesn’t make me her priority. Like, i understand her having friends male or female, i don’t care. But i don’t want to feel like i’m less of a priority than them. Sounds weird maybe, but i’ve had that experience too. Where her online male friend was a priority over me, and it made me feel really shitty about myself and the relationship. So i don’t want that anymore.

  36. richbrehbreh Avatar

    Race. Not Black? I’m good.

  37. AntiFeministLib Avatar

    Boring, vanilla, unexciting sex. Never put myself through pillow princess, starfish experience again.

  38. Leptonshavenocolor Avatar

    Sorry, only one penis allowed in the relationship.

  39. CuckoosQuill Avatar

    Hostility, physical and emotional violence(even as a joke/playing), jealousy

  40. syndreamer Avatar

    No psychologists/therapists. I don’t need someone psycho analyzing my every flaw and move for free.

  41. SouthernStruggle1509 Avatar

    Has to actually like me.

  42. ElFi66 Avatar

    The ability to learn. That’s my only requirement

  43. mojobytes Avatar

    Expresses interest in me. So yeah, I don’t date.

  44. Hot-Chemist1784 Avatar

    loyalty tops everything, no excuses for cheating.

  45. TestForPotential Avatar

    No hard drugs. Been there, done that, eff that.

  46. ThePoliticalGuru2036 Avatar

    Children. Child free male here who’s snipped and I make it clear from the beginning that kids will not be in my future nor anyone else’s kids.

  47. Low-Fix-1997 Avatar

    Have to be in decent shape, have an aim in life, a job.

  48. iLoveAllTacos Avatar

    I have a bunch of them. Here’s a small handful:

    1. No cigarette smokers
    2. Must be a gym girl with an athletic figure (no more than 3/4 my bodyweight (I’m 190 lbs.))
    3. Must be feminine
    4. Good hygiene
    5. Respectful
    6. No abnormal hair colors
    7. No septum piercings
    8. No taller than 5’9″ – I expect her to wear heels when we go out to someplace nice and still be shorter than me (6’2″)
    9. No mental disorders
    10. No neck or face tattoos
  49. TheBooneyBunes Avatar

    Can’t be supportive of groups that would torture me to death if they get their hands on me, yes this is a requirement

    I own my house and have a full on career so I’m not really willing to move

    I’ll never accept cigarettes or drugs

    Don’t really have much else

  50. ClamsAreStupid Avatar

    lol I have a few and they’re all equally important.

    Childfree

    Antitheist or at least atheist

    Liberal

    Straightedge (moderate alcohol is fine)

    Healthy weight

    No rap/hiphop/country/mariachi music.

  51. lofirelaxing Avatar

    She has to put in effort. If I am the one who is always reaching out first, always suggesting places to go, always looking for something to do while she does literally nothing but take, I might as well not date her.

  52. Resident-Project-123 Avatar

    Be a nice person. It might not work out, but I’ve never regretting dating a person who is kind.

  53. xXxPizza8492xXx Avatar

    No OF, dear lord

  54. kumarhrishikesh1000 Avatar

    your female best friend should approve of her, because she knows exactly the type of girl you are looking for.

  55. Lightning_Reverie Avatar

    They must shower every time after coming home.

    I cannot imagine someone going through their days, sitting their butts down on dozens of questionable surfaces or rubbing their bodies against other humans in public transport etc, then coming home and plonking down on my bed or sofa.

    I’m no germaphobe. I realise that being part of the world means you have to come in contact with gunk, bodily fluids, sweat, grime, etc, but I’d like my home to be a sanctuary free of all that.

  56. Santi76 Avatar

    Can’t be divorced.
    Can’t be morbidly obese.
    Can’t be a smoker.

    That’s pretty much it.

  57. cerb7575 Avatar
    1. Knows what a budget is and hasnt filed bankruptcy a bunch
    2. Stays in shape and goes to the gym
    3. Is not a political extreme nut job. This applies to both failed cults. They can be political but not on either extreme end.
  58. Ivabighairy1 Avatar

    No smokers, no druggies, no liberals.

  59. SimplyFatMatt Avatar

    Them wanting kids or already having young ones (I’m open to dating someone with a teenager) is the biggest dealbreaker for me.

  60. OutaSpac3 Avatar

    Must have plans to finish college and not have a “I’m from the hood and my whole personality is only about hood shit” vibe to you.

  61. Speffeddude Avatar

    Biggest one: must be self-sufficient. Economically, physically, mentally. I went on a date with a girl that was just not very sharp, bless her heart, and I realized “this will not go in a healthy way.”

  62. 028XF3193 Avatar
    1. Decent shape or at least wear the weight well if you’re a bit overweight. I did the work to get into shape and lose a bunch of weight this year, you can too.
    2. Have some sort of hobby or passion that you enjoy doing. I don’t have to share it, I just want to know you enjoy doing something that’s not just consuming social media.
    3. No or minimal debt. I have zero debt and it’s not difficult to be financially responsible.
    4. Employed; doesn’t have to be anything fancy.
  63. SantiReddit123 Avatar

    Good health, caring and nice.

  64. SalamiMommie Avatar

    I’d like similar beliefs and caring about your physical and mental well being

  65. poptartsathefoundry Avatar

    Constantly evolve through passion and creativity

  66. SnooHabits1442 Avatar

    No bitching about my smoking

  67. Obscurm1 Avatar

    I will not date a smoker. I’ve quit and haven’t gone back for over 12 years. I don’t want the smell or the temptation

  68. Strange-Ad-2426 Avatar

    They can’t have “Trauma” and can’t complain about men.

  69. Nouseriously Avatar

    Kindness, I’d rather be alone than spend time with meanspirited people.

  70. Ubockinme Avatar
  71. Masuky_Koost Avatar

    I really don’t like the idea that my next partner would be an alcoholic or/and smoker again

  72. Ok-Design-9718 Avatar

    Right now? No kids. Might change when I am 40. But I won’t date anyone who is raising right now.

  73. FalseSebastianKnight Avatar

    A strong sense of curiosity is a must.

  74. sporkynapkin Avatar

    No drugs and good physical and mental health.

  75. thelryan Avatar

    No unnecessarily harming animals in their diet/consumption habits

  76. SoulSpiegel12 Avatar

    Quite a few and not really any of them have to do either body shape or facial features though of course I need ro at least be physically attracted to a person. Kindness and actually wanting to be with me because you care about me as a person and not just because of how I look. Not judging me for the hobbies I do for fun. Being supportive when I need someone in my corner. Someone who actually invites me over and does cute romantic things without me having to be the one to always initiate it. Someone who can make me feel loved without me always questioning if they actually care about me. Someone who puts in real effort into the relationship and doesn’t just leave it all up to me. I would hope someone would hold me to these same standards as well.

  77. New-Number-7810 Avatar

    Empathy – I don’t just mean being “nice”, I mean being able to care about how other people are feeling. I should be able to go to you with a problem, an insecurity, or an anxiety, and not have you make it about yourself.

    Trustworthiness – Obviously I need to be able to trust you. I won’t waste time on someone who keeps secrets or bends the truth. 

  78. Quin35 Avatar

    No republicans.

  79. boone130 Avatar

    No gag reflex

  80. nim_opet Avatar

    Mentally, socially, professionally mature responsible adult.

  81. LT81 Avatar

    Young kids, vastly overweight, demanding expectations of what they think they want- meaning as if they are that special, no job

  82. Royal-Orchid-2494 Avatar

    She cant be selling her body for sex. Whether as a prostitute, an only fans worker, or anything in between. Hard no.

  83. G-T-R-F-R-E-A-K-1-7 Avatar

    Must at least be working towards healing their damage – can’t even entertain being around acquaintances who aren’t doing self work anymore, the disconnect it too strong.

  84. TheBeachLifeKing Avatar

    I am looking for a partner, not a dependent.

  85. snowcroc Avatar

    Able to admit fault and apologize.

    Twice I’ve been in relationship with wonderful people who just cannot say “I’m sorry I fucked up”

  86. Redman77312 Avatar

    the consensus seems to be that most men want an independent woman who’s not on only fans, is able to admit when she’s wrong, has a great sex drive, is working on themselves, and is upbeat and fun to be around

  87. steve91256 Avatar

    Has to be athletic body, toned, tight bubble butt, etc. If she is 5 foot, should weight 100 pounds and for every inch taller can add 5 pounds for a total limit weight of 125 pounds. No debts, kids, previous marriages, fake lips, fillers, tats, plastic surgery. Natural blonde with carpet matching drapes. No smoking, no drugs, no alcohol. no felonies or misdemeanors, 6 figure plus income (can be from employment or trust fund/investments).

  88. Permafroz Avatar

    Cheating history, immaturity and liar a lot of problems stems from lies.

  89. Prymordial-core1007 Avatar

    I have an entire list, but these are at the top:

    1. Married
    2. Separated
    3. Divorcing
    4. In-process
    5. Monkey-branching (or consistent history thereof)
    6. Unacceptably attached
    7. Living with ex
    8. Recent breakup – “rebound”
    9. Lack of time alone, being single, after breakup
  90. jahanhari Avatar

    I have 5:

    1: Cannot be addicted to drugs or alcohol
    2: Lives alone/financially independent
    3: College educated
    4: No kids/offspring
    5: Speaks at least one other language than English (or their native tongue)

    Maybe it’s a bit of a high standard but I’m allowed to be picky and particular when it comes to love, aren’t I?

  91. NonkelG Avatar

    No smoking, no kids, no sex-work/onlyfans, no cheating, no nightshift workers, look & be in good physical shape.

  92. Heavy_Statement_3751 Avatar

    Tall and no smoking or drinking

  93. chef_26 Avatar

    They have a realistic view of the world

  94. thefrankyes Avatar

    No kids and or younger than 32 and in decent shape. Anything outside those parameters and it’s just casual no commitment.

  95. Homely_Bonfire Avatar
    • Single
    • childless
    • mentally healthy
    • pyhsically healthy
    • no addiction (drugs, shopping, social media)
    • no sex workers, politicians, activists or workaholics
    • able to balance her income and expenses without debt
    • wants to start a family
  96. Heavenonearth12 Avatar

    Not an entitled prick

  97. ZeroSumSatoshi Avatar

    Must be into freeuse.