Hey everyone!
I’m curious to know what the difference is between a man with high confidence and when it’s actually a man’s ego talking?
I’ve been finding it a little confusing to understand the difference and am wondering if a man or any man knows the difference and is self aware too -as that may help. All good if not self aware but any contributions will help.
I can usually tell when my ego is talking and playing a part but I’ve found it quite difficult to tell the difference when a man is highly confident or if his ego is talking.
Thanks!
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Others’ perception of their success.
These things are worlds apart
Big ego is really just low self-esteem, and it shows itself in ostentatious, cocky behaviour
Confidence just looks like somebody doing what they know inside out
People confuse the two way too often. They also think confidence is arrogance or narcissism.
People need to stop projecting their insecurities all over the place.
Ego is when you want external validation for whatever it is you’re saying/doing and you’re saying/doing it to receive that validation
Confidence is just being comfortable in who you are and the things you say/do are because they’re true to you and you don’t need anyone else to validate that for you
when someone talks with their ego they’ll more than likely make a statement that is inherently baseless or otherwise hard to proof, but when it’s actual confidence then they’ll have more experience in the matter and can dive in detail if you ask them questions
Confidence without ego suggests intelligence, self-awareness and being totally at ease with yourself and your abilities without losing perspective, re: your weaknesses and flaws.
Ego suggests the total opposite.
Kind of like how a rich person has no desire to wear anything flashy, just low profile good quality clothes. While poor people usually want to wear the flashiest stuff possible to brag that they can afford Gucci or whatever.
If you feel dumb when they talk, and they meant for you to feel that way, it’s ego.
A confident man will demonstrate competence. An arrogant man will tell you he’s competent.
Arrogance
Confidence is knowing you don’t have to impress anyone.
Ego projects an image that it wants people to think about us, usually out of fear or insecurity about our real selves. Ego drives our social desire to not just fit in with our peers, but to be viewed as competent and well achieved.
Confidence is when you are at peace with who you are and are able to broadcast it to the world, unapologetically, without fear of being shunned or rejected. Because even if somebody doesn’t like you, you know their opinion doesn’t matter and that you’re a good person anyway.
What is the difference between one’s ego and one’s self?
If you just mean fake confidence vs. real confidence, the only way to tell is to put them to the test.
Ego and confidence are closely related. You can’t be confident without having a bit of an ego. Ego is just a sense of self-awareness – and the difference between confidence and arrogance is how inflated that sense is.
Here’s an example: I’m good at my job. I’m frequently tapped as a resource for information and troubleshooting not just by my own team, but other teams within the company. I’m the guy they call when nobody can figure it out. I don’t need anybody to tell me I’m good at my job, because I know it. I also know the things I’m not good at. I was a terrible manager. Did it for a year and hated every minute of it. I’m not above receiving constructive criticism or the idea that I can learn from others. That’s confidence.
When I’m assigned work in an order that doesn’t make sense to me, or that I believe can be done more efficiently, that’s where ego comes into play. I may or may not be known to occasionally play the “no, I’m doing it this way because I know better” card – even if management wants things done a certain way. When my ego is talking, it’s because there’s a conflict between what I believe is right and what I’m being told. Sometimes I can let it go, sometimes I can’t.
Arrogance is usually overconfidence coupled with limited talent/abilities and a fear of that lack of talent being discovered by others. In other words, the mouth is writing checks the ass can’t cash. Arrogant people tend to be dismissive of others – particularly those with actual talent. They’d rather fail than accept advice from somebody else, even though they know deep down the other person knows more.
To answer your question – a man who is confident will speak with a calm authority, often without mentioning himself or his knowledge, and you won’t feel put down or insulted. When the ego gets involved, his speech becomes a little more aggressive or defensive and you might hear a reference or two to his experience or skillset – as if he’s defending his position by showing off his credentials.
Pride.
At work.
Confident person can do the job without talk. Ego is requires to announce to everyone what we did.