Me and my sister don’t really get along. She has two daughters (around 6 and 12) and I have a son(12). She often tells her daughter not hang out with my son at family gatherings and she always finds a reason to yell at my son. I personally think it’s because I am divorced from my abusive husband and I now live alone with my son in a villa with a more than comfortable salary while she is still married to her very abusive cop husband.
Yesterday we were throwing a baby shower at my mothers house for my older brother and his son convinced my son and my sister’s daughters to sneak off into the pool house (which is off limits.) when we realized they were missing my sister immediately started screaming her head off at me saying my son is probably behind this and when we found them she slapped her daughters in front of everyone and called her husband to come get them.
This morning I was still at my mothers house having breakfast when my sisters husband called my mother. She was in her room talking to him over the phone for 2 hours. She came out the room with a sour look on her face and told me to pack my things and never show my face or my sons at her house again. I asked her over and over what he said but she wasn’t hearing me out.
On my way back home my brother called me and told me that my sisters husband said that our sons SAed his daughters and he said that if he didn’t have respect for my mother he would have showed up to my mothers house with a gun and murdered our sons. At that moment I was so enraged I almost crashed the car. My brother told me not to do anything stupid and just ask my son what happened. I yelled at him if he actually believed him and he said obviously not but we just need to make sure.
At home I asked my son what they were doing in the pool house and he said that they were just playing. I pressed and pressed until he told me that my sisters daughter WHO IS 12 told BER SISTER WHO IS 6 to take her pants off. My first thought was their dad is obviously doing something to them. My son then told me that it wasn’t their first time doing something like this. They showed my son (what he calls) “adult toys” and some kind of step bro video on YouTube. I asked him if that was all and he hesitated then said no so obviously there’s something,
I called my brother and told him everything and he said his son wasn’t saying anything. I also told him I think it’s their dad but he said we can’t just accuse him of something like that. I have no idea what to do he has a lot of connections in the police world so if I call the cops they’ll probably sweep it under the rug.
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You could call CPS.
Damn, first off, this is a lot of family drama. It’s likely best for you and your son to stay away from your sister’s family for a while.
I can understand having an adult sibling who acts authoritarian, and with the assistance of control freak spouse. Been there, done that.
It’s best to explain to your son that those things with the cousins are inappropriate. He might have heard about those type of things being bad, but kids never exactly recognize them when they happen.
As for the sister’s husband: fuck that guy and his connections. He’ll screw himself over one day and have no help at all.
I don’t know why you didn’t keep your son safe years ago. That situation is dangerous. They are dangerous people and you kept bringing your son around them. Your son could have been charge with sexual assault if your sister’s husband wanted to. He is lucky he is young still but his reputation would have been destroyed. Stay away from them for your son sake.
As for your family tell your brother and mother that unfortunately the situation is dire and you are best to stay away to protect your son. As for your nieces, I would call Cps if you know how to not retrace it back to you. Her husband can and will try to out it on your son and having that many connections will put him to jail.
Get the boys together and tell them this is very serious and you need to know what happened for everyone’s safety. Explain to them that their cousins could be in real danger, but you can not help them without knowing what happened, and if the girls elaborated on why they would remove clothes or do xyz etc.
Let them know it’s ok to be curious about things, to want to know what parts look like etc, but that is for conversation with parents or for sex Ed class, and to do privately when much older, not at their ages.
Take them to get tested at the ER, I believe rape kits can be done on boys too, will show if there is dna there that shouldn’t be, Even the threat of this may help get the boys to talk.
You need to approach this delicately, be there for your son 100%, but also remember kids sometimes do stupid things especially when pressured by other kids…
Trust your instincts and protect him. What your niece said and did is deeply concerning, and you’re absolutely right to suspect that something serious could be going on. Please consider speaking with a child therapist or a social worker they can guide you on what to do next safely and with the right support. You’re not alone in this.