What’s the worst lie an ex told you?

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What’s the worst lie an ex told you?

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  1. Ms_Rarity Avatar

    “I didn’t break into your apartment and take that creepy picture, someone else broke into your apartment and took that creepy picture and sent it to me.”

  2. Geologyst1013 Avatar

    “I went to bed early” – in response to not answering my calls because we had plans.

    He was in the drunk tank.

  3. Empty-Lock-7955 Avatar

    I consider her as my sister…i don’t know why she keeps sending me sexy pictures of her…

  4. SudokuSorcerer Avatar

    He told me about the time he had been sexually assaulted. It was at a massage parlor and he had no idea it was would include a happy ending. He said he didn’t want it to happen, but fight or flight didn’t kick in, he felt frozen. The conversation came up while disclosing my own experience and it made me feel deeply bonded to him.

    About two months later a “have you ever paid for sex” conversation came up, he retold the same massage parlor story in a very different light. Apparently he not only sought out this kind of establishment, he had gone back several times. He pretended to not remember ever telling me about any kind of assault.

  5. OnCloud1989 Avatar

    “No one else will love you like I love you.”

  6. iovulca Avatar

    That he had cancer and was getting treatment from his friend who worked in the hospital and that’s why he’d be gone for days with no contact and acting weird. Turns out he was a heroin and meth addict.

  7. FaithlessnessWeak800 Avatar

    I was in high school (end of senior year) and had a dumbass bf. Don’t worry I broke up with him. He dropped out but “I WaS iN lOvE” and month later he showed up with a certificate from our local community college with his GED. My parents and I have never seen the paperwork or certificate for one before so we looked through all the forms and believed him because he had this back story about studying and taking tests. My parents took him out to dinner, got him a gift (cash) and bought a cake to celebrate. Everyone would have preferred him to just graduate but this was better than nothing. Come to find out (months later his friend told me) it was all a lie, him and his awful family faked it to pretty much shut my parents up because they knew he wasn’t good enough for me. I married up, like way up and did better for myself (I got my MBA). It’s been 20 years now and idc what happened to him. For me it was the worst lie because I had to hash this shit out young with my mom and dad.

  8. Resalia Avatar

    He told me he had fallen in love so quickly because I was just like his former girlfriend, who had died. Found out from a mutual friend of ours that she hadn’t died, just moved away and cut contact with him. (Which I do not blame her for, considering the myriad of issues he had!)

  9. trtdlrwlma Avatar

    1 This conditioner belongs to my bro.

    His high school friends visited him for a weekend.
    None of his bros had a long hair (they are not type of guys that use conditioner tho) and he didn’t even bother to hide it for a long time after I called it out (we didn’t live together).

    2 She wanted to sleep with me more than I wanted sleep with her (sHe InSiStED oN tHaT)

    Dude was a lesson for me ffs

  10. AcceptableWrangler25 Avatar

    It’s extremely hard to choose just one lie. But I’ll try

    1st Ex: “This necklace is extremely rare and symbolises my eternal love for you. Don’t tell anyone but I broke into a museum and stole it for you” it was a necklace barely worth 2$ and after a few days wearing it, the “diamond” fell and I saw the cheap glue behind it.

    2nd Ex: This was while I was recovering from anorexia “I will always be here for you and take care of you. Take as much time as you need”
    He got a girlfriend about 2 weeks after that and later I discovered that he was already seeing her months prior that conversation

  11. wannaplayspace Avatar

    I supported us financially for years while he was injured and broke. He had an income property the whole time.

  12. FeralJess95 Avatar

    “She’s just a friend.”

  13. Current-Charge-9514 Avatar

    My first boyfriend lied to me about how old he was. He was a senior when I met him, but went to a different school so I didn’t realize he was lying. He told me he was a junior (17) because he didn’t think I’d be interested in a senior since I was a freshman (15).

    He graduated HS while we were dating, didn’t tell me about it, and continued to tell me how his day at school went we we’d talk later that fall and school was back in session. Didn’t find out until I noticed his HS diploma in his room. We dated 9-10 months and lost my virginity to him.

  14. Mazelin Avatar

    He lied about wanting to get married for about a decade. When I confronted him about it he said he was just telling me what he knew I wanted to hear.

  15. Angel-M007 Avatar

    I went through the whole shes ” just a friend” thing.

    She was sending him gym flex photos and he claimed they all worked out together.

    When he asked me if I was uncomfortable he would delete her given she wasn’t even the greatest friend and I said Im good. But then she kept on doing it and I told him maybe he should set boundaries. Long story short we got into arguments and he went from her being a ” bad friend who left him to go sleep with guys” to ” shes a good person”. He kept flip flopping and refused to simply tell her to chill out. He claimed he stopped talking to her his emails said otherwise and he kept helping her.

    Come to find out my gut was right. He had a thing for and she left him literally at a bar at 12 am to go have a threesome. Later on I would find out he even asked this girl for dating advice……she picked the place our first date was. I could never let it go because my gut knew already this was him telling me who he was.

    Im sorry but they are never just friends. I wish It didnt take me 4 years and a breakup to reflect back on it and see it for what it was.

  16. Starrnaatrek Avatar

    That he wasn’t married.

  17. apocalypsmeow Avatar

    This is only something I realized later in life, but a truly surprising number of past partners told me they weren’t able to have children due to some childhood circumstance or another so we didn’t need to sweat protection. Guess how many of them have children now lol

  18. ophelia-wood Avatar

    “my friend set up this dating profile with my name and photos and email address, it’s not mine”

  19. Dramatic-Wasabi299 Avatar

    An ex bf emotionally told me his entire extended family back home in China died in a huge earthquake that happened while we were seeing each other on and off. I talked to a mutual friend about it, concerned about how to support him. The mutual friend was close with ex bf’s mom and went to her to express condolences and just offer support. She said she had no idea wtf he was talking about, their family was fine. The earthquake was real. My ex was a pathological liar. Apparently pathological liar is my type. 

  20. JOEYMAMI2015 Avatar

    That he wanted me to have his son. He said this like, a week into us dating. Got pregnant like 3 years into the relationship and then he gaslighted me. “I thought you didn’t want kids” “I never told you to get pregnant” “You should get an abortion” 🙄

  21. GhostBoii95 Avatar

    I went to visit my ex as we had planned on meeting up early one morning, she wouldn’t answer the phone and eventually did but said she didn’t want to see me, I was naive and felt I did some thing wrong, after hours of waiting she finally answered the phone and told me she was sexually assaulted by a demon and felt dirty. I was surprised but based on previous cheating and other incidents involving roommate’s going in her room at night and wanting to do things with her I asked her to go to the hospital and get a test to see if they could pull dna or rule out a human suspect. She said no and I had no choice but to leave and end the relationship. I still don’t know what actually happened but pretty sure there was no demon involved

  22. MambaMentality4eva Avatar

    He’s holding an open box of condoms I found in his pocket for his friend…. 🙄 yeah, right….

  23. Hot_messed Avatar

    “I love you”

  24. PoetryandScrubs Avatar

    Acted like he wanted kids until I broke up with him (for unrelated reasons), and admitted as I was breaking up with him he was not sure he wanted to be a dad. I asked why he would not tell me that before and he said because he knew it was important to me to be a mom and I would have dumped him earlier if he admitted he was unsure. Um…yeah and it would have saved us both a lot of time.

  25. TrickZealousideal165 Avatar

    my first ever bf in high school went to a different school than me and he had a gf at that school too, which i kind of knew but was waiting until i had proof. one day i guess they broke up and he went on a twitter rant, the last tweet being “at the end of the day that pussy still mine” when i asked him about it he said he was sad about his moms death that happened a few years before 😐

  26. PleasedPeas Avatar

    That they loved me.

  27. Fine_Wheel_2809 Avatar

    Idek which one to say. He lied to me about how his daughter was conceived. Dude was cheating bareback for 3 months on his ex with his babymama after his ex got injured in an accident he caused, he had tried to force her to be poly, she refused and tried to dump him, he refused to let her. She only found out after she finally dumped him. Dudes incapable of being a healthy partner. He lies about everything. He forces everything on a partner. He 🍇Ed me so many times and would confuse me about it knowing I was just newly housed after being homeless, abused, trafficked, etc. he’d say he didn’t 🍇me, I wasn’t remembering correctly, it was my fault for not saying a safe word when we didn’t establish a dynamic like that, when I did say one he still 🍇Ed me, when I was sick and nearly passing out he’s 🍇 me, I would tell him to stop and he’d continue as he had to “cum”

    Haven’t dated since. He lied about not being an abuser. Everything was either my fault, or his adhd or lack of meds.

  28. Ok-Ad-9820 Avatar

    “The baby is yours, your math is all wrong”

  29. onetoomanyexcuses Avatar

    1- Lied to me with “proof” trying to say my sister was stealing money from the company they were partners. He was really trying to isolate me and damage my relationship with her.
    2- that he was planning on commuting suicide and had a gun.
    3- that he was not having an affair with the woman he WAS having an affair with.
    4- pretended to have seizures, thrown himself on the floor, drooling and all to make me feel bad about leaving him.

  30. un_popcorno Avatar

    “In sickness and in health.”

  31. LavandaRaff Avatar

    He said he “just needed time to think” – it turned out he was already dating someone else…

  32. L0RIR0 Avatar

    “Ive been divorced for a year” – they were separated for 4 months; we met in March, they’ve been separated since past year’s December

  33. ticklefuzzy Avatar

    “I just don’t think I could handle another kid” the kid was from his previous relationship. I later found he was actively trying to start a family with a girl in another state when he mistakenly left his secret second phone when he was on a work trip.

  34. Free-Researcher3804 Avatar

    That we could still be friends.

  35. costellogia Avatar

    When I found a VERY spicy conversation between him and another female on his phone, proving he had been planning to meet her AND that they had already met up a few times (so basically you are caught red handed!) he says “It was a joke! I knew you’d go through my phone, so her and I staged the whole thing to prank you!” 🤨 That sure was a funny prank! Thank God I didn’t fall for it, lol.

  36. Sure_One_4437 Avatar

    “I didn’t cheat. I just fell in love with someone else.”

  37. TryingKindness Avatar

    There was a few weeks where my ex and I had broken up and I found out later that he had been cheating on me. He told me about his new girlfriend and blah blah. Same time my friend and coworker was coming over to my house to get ready for *her date using my clothes and perfume. Turns out they were dating each other and both were lying to me. I actually thought she was worse, but he also knew (recognized by clothes and thought it was funny. I really wasn’t lied to a lot, that I know of, but this lie was juicy.

  38. morningdart Avatar

    she’s just a friend and it’s really toxic of you to project your insecurities on that and try and compromise my friendships to feed your jealous ego

    they were, in fact, fucking

  39. tulipsushi Avatar

    that him and his baby mama were already broken up for months before we started dating. actually, theyd “broken up” two weeks before and the “breakup” was him telling her that if he wasn’t with her, then he didn’t want to be with anyone. they were also still living together with their 2 young kids.

    never again will i date man with children. the lies and baby mama drama was TRAUMATIZING and i hate myself for not knowing any better

  40. winged_skunk Avatar

    “I care about you.”

  41. TroubledTofu Avatar

    That he needed space from me because of my depression, and it was my fault. Felt like a bad wife for 6 months before I found out he needed me away from him because he was cheating.

  42. Albion218 Avatar

    He didn’t use my credit card, which he was I. Possession of the entire time, to buy a bottle of whatever booze of his choice (which the next day he proceeded to drink, wreck his truck, and got a DWI). Well then who did it? Wild times.

  43. jazmine_likea_flower Avatar

    I asked him to please not hurt me after we told each other that we loved each other for the first time over the phone ( initiated by him). He said, “ I promise I won’t. You have my word.” I never experienced a worse betrayal. He knew I saved that three letter phrase for someone special and was so
    adamant on having me open up to him just to humiliate me and break our trust. Every man I’ve been involved with has blindsided me and disappointed me but he was my first experience with the L word and idk when I’ll be able to say it after living through something like that

  44. happyjeep_beep_beep Avatar

    “There’s nobody else.”

  45. Razdaspaz Avatar

    “She’s like a little sister to me”

  46. giddyaughertree Avatar

    “He’s just a friend”

    Nah, we all know what happens after that.

  47. Chaotically_Eve Avatar

    “I love you.”

  48. Tasty_Context5263 Avatar

    He told me that he had to work overnight shifts pretty regularly for the first 5 or so years of our daughter’s life. He was not, in fact, working.

  49. AntWarm8828 Avatar

    “No I’m not cheating on you.”

  50. Upper-Introduction40 Avatar

    My ex was a drug addict…nuff said

  51. sceadusquirrel Avatar

    ” I swear I’ll never cheat on you again”

  52. Kissmyyaxeee Avatar

    “Hindi na ako mag jo-jowa after sa’yo, ayoko na” wala pang isang linggo meron na agad bago, ako pa sinabahan niya na may bago na raw siguro agad ako, ta’s siya pala ‘yong gano’n. 💀

  53. PurpleMeerkats462 Avatar

    That he was gonna love me forever

  54. T-Rexxx23 Avatar

    She said that she would never leave me and that I would have to break up with her.

  55. McRachael23 Avatar

    That he drank the rubbing alcohol in the bathroom because he was trying to kill himself. He was just trying to get drunk.

  56. According-Dream-927 Avatar

    He push me to do something i was soo scared of ( something s3xuily ) i was so scared and disgusted but he beg me and insisted on me to do it telling me that won’t harm me ever and it’s just a little pain i can handle it for his own love and happiness… and yes it was harmful

  57. FeelingWorker364 Avatar

    Told me he would KHS if he left me after he raped me and I felt so bad I stayed with him longer. Yep.

  58. StopthinkingitsMe Avatar

    “I don’t need anyone other than you”

    A month later she broke up with me because she wanted the “college experience”. Also she’s in an open relationship now? She had a phase of insisting she’s poly too, and if I had known all of these I wouldn’t have dated her

  59. Necessary_Fault6104 Avatar

    Early on I confronted him about some pictures I saw online, I asked if he had any biological children. He said no. He admitted to the lie shortly after we broke up.

  60. antichristianism Avatar

    “I love you”

  61. _rayyyan__ Avatar

    “we will be bestes after breakup “ “i cannot live without you “ “i never lied to you “ (ffs i ruin my mood after thinking about her) its been 9 months since we went no contact (she blocked from everywhere and never texted) (2 yrs together)

  62. Lilliekins Avatar

    I’m not gay even though you found my M2M personal ad.

  63. Appropriate_Tea9048 Avatar

    Telling me he regretted the breakup immediately after he broke up with me, yet not wanting to change it. I was like “?????”. Looking back it’s just funny and ridiculous, but at the time it only made the breakup more painful and confusing.

  64. snappyfinger13 Avatar

    DI DAW SILA NAG DADATE NG KLASMEYT KO 🤣

  65. Queen_Melldabee Avatar

    That our cat must have dragged in the freshly used filled up condom I found her running around the house with from outside after I got back from staying in hospital!! 😂😂🤣

  66. jazgeorgie Avatar

    “I swear on my life I would never hurt you like that.” After telling him about the SA and abuse I experienced from a former partner. He then proceeded to abuse and 🍇 me in my sleep.
    Him going to jail for a previous crime he committed before we met quite literally saved my life and gave me the opportunity to get tf outta there safely. Some people are way too good at hiding who they really are until you are in too deep.

  67. _heart_eyes_emoji_ Avatar

    “You’ll never find anyone better than me.” HAHAHAHHAHAHHA

  68. daydreamdesire Avatar

    Here’s a list

    ● I’m not infatuated with the waiter I work with.

    Caught her with my own eyes Frenching the guy in the back of his Vauhall Nova.

    ● I’m a lesbian

    Ditched me for a night out with her girl-friend. Later took a guy home with her.

    ● It was just a house party after we all went out.

    Found out years later, it was actually a gangbang..

    ● That was a joke dic pic sent from insert ego inflated friends name here with her hand on it..

    I’d found a pic of her friends cock on her phone.

    Yeah, theres a few they’re not all the same partner but 3 different ones. And these are the lies I remember. There are more I know of but it was a long long time ago, and I finally found my wife since then.
    I had relationship anxieties for a heck of a while in my 20s.

  69. draoikat Avatar

    That she wanted to spend her life with me, more or less. She led me on for ages and there were tons of small lies along the way, but the general idea that we would be properly together someday was the biggest bunch of bullshit.

  70. SilmarWoland Avatar

    That loving someone meant never being sad, because he loved me so much seeing me sad made him sad, and why would I be okay with that?

    He was so nasty to me that he was inducing panic attacks at that point, and if I didn’t react it was because I was a pathetic robot ice queen; gaslighting is a WILD ride

  71. DominiRican88 Avatar

    That they love me and cheat

  72. Mighty-Mango-972 Avatar

    This was a lie of omission, but they never told me they had oral herpes. I understand that it’s common, but you can’t not tell a partner that info.

  73. Kawfeeee111 Avatar

    “ I am adopted my parents don’t love me can you send me money at times of need”

  74. SkookieNookie Avatar

    Told me that he never had done anything with a mutual friend. I had been hanging out with both of them and considered her a close friend. He told me a year and a half into the relationship and it was the straw that broke the relationship. When I asked her about it, she thought I already knew and was shocked he never told me

  75. Fine_Masterpiece7662 Avatar

    That his married ex flew from the UK and landed at his doorstep ready to leave her husband and hence out of pity he had to dump me to date her. Turns out they had been planning this for months.

  76. Mysterious_Flan_3394 Avatar

    He lied about his father having cancer so he could create time and an alibi about taking care of him just so he could see someone else. Turns out I was the other woman and didn’t know. She did though and married him anyway.

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  78. Remarkable-Phase-589 Avatar

    That he wanted to marry me. We decided on a date for a court house wedding. He pretended to be working on his divorce paperwork (Him and his ex had been separated for years. She just was in prison and he waited until she got out to civilly work the divorce out.) Went as far as letting my dad book a luxury hotel and my parents and grandparents make sure they had the date free. All to end up revealing he did not want to marry me, and never planned to after a pretty ugly breakup happened (he had been cheating and using substances behind my back for almost the whole relationship. I didn’t catch on til the end.)

  79. kjimmyd Avatar

    That she had breast cancer. She had prior knowledge my bio mom passed from breast cancer.

  80. Amazing_Toe_1054 Avatar

    I LOVE YOU ❤️

  81. themilocat Avatar

    He told me the apartment he took me to was where his friend Sam and his wife (also named Sam) lived. He even pointed out a picture of the two Sams. He said they were working weird hours and he just wanted to help them out during COVID…so he had a key to the apartment, started laundry, a debit card to purchase a lightbulb for over the oven, and showed me a note left by female Sam for male Sam.  I thought it was all weird that a friend would do all that stuff, and I thought it was weird there were only women’s shoes by the door. 

    Turns out, the picture he showed me were of female Sam and her twin brother…and that the guy I had dated for a year and a half had moved in with female Sam after meeting her right before the first COVID lockdown, which also happened to be a few months before my house sold and I moved across the state to be closer to him. 

    Needless to say…I dropped all his shit off at that apartment and washed my hands of him for good. 

  82. edithpiafbitch Avatar

    After I left my abusive ex, he tried to get me back by telling me his mom died, and that he needed me in this time of grief. She posted a new picture on facebook that same day.

  83. spacesamurai33 Avatar

    He was in the military and was injured during service and suffered from PTSD.

  84. PhoneboothLynn Avatar

    There were so many… he would lie about the color of his socks for the practice…

  85. hazlenutcreamer Avatar

    ‘It’s just work.’ It wasn’t. They were fucking.