So I (20F) have been dating Jake (22M) for about 4 months. His family was having their annual summer BBQ and I was finally meeting his extended family. I wanted to look cute but casual so I threw on this oversized gray hoodie that I love.
Everything was going great until Jake’s aunt asks me about my hoodie because she recognizes the logo. It’s from this local brewery that apparently closed down like 2 years ago. She’s going on about how she used to love that place and asking where I got it.
That’s when I realize this isn’t my hoodie. It’s my ex Dylan’s hoodie that I never gave back when we broke up 8 months ago. I’ve been wearing it so much I forgot it wasn’t mine. The brewery logo says “Mike’s Taphouse” and Dylan used to work there in high school.
Jake overhears and gets this weird look. Later he asks me about it and I have to explain that it’s my ex’s hoodie. He’s trying to be cool about it but I can tell he’s bothered. His mom also seemed to pick up on the tension.
Now Jake keeps making comments about how I still have my ex’s stuff and maybe I’m not over him. I honestly just liked the hoodie and forgot where it came from.
TL;DR: Wore my ex’s hoodie to meet my current boyfriend’s extended family, got called out on it, now boyfriend thinks I’m not over my ex.
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Should have said you bought it from the brewery
Not that big a deal tbh but if Dylan is wearing your halter tops this summer I’d see the concern
That’s what you get for stealing a hoody.
Karma
I still use everything good that I got from my exes; so does my husband. Why would we throw out perfectly good stuff?
You’ve been dating him for 4 months. If he can’t get over this cut your losses
Why would you not just lie. Something you should have kept to yourself.
My wife’s favorite shirt was purchased by my ex in high school 20 years ago! She’s never asked who bought it.
Not a FU. You learned Jake’s weird.
As a guy in his 40s, tell Jake that he’s been a dumb shit and to stop sweating stupid shit like that. He’s basically flashing up his insecurities like a big neon sign.
So… do something nice for the guy, and if he’s still been dumb, well, sounds like a guy that needs to emotionally mature more.
I’m 50, and still have things that were bought for me by my High school girlfriend, my college girlfriend, and my ex-wife. My current better half knows that they are just “things” and I don’t keep them or use them because I’m not over my exes, but just because they are things that I like.
If your current b/f has an issue with you having a piece of clothing that was from your ex, then he honestly needs to grow up a bit. You are with him, not with your ex. That should be enough.
Invite your bf over and show him you’re donating/throwing it away. You forgot where you even got it and apologize. You hurt his feelings.
Never give up a good hoodie.
Did the ex give you the hoodie? If so, then it’s not his hoodie anymore. Who you got it from is pretty irrelevant at this point.
If he never gave it to you but you instead “stole” it (whether on purpose or by accident), you should probably return it.
Just give Dylan back his hoodie, and Jake’s pathetic insecurity will be appeased. Everyone wins!
Jake needs to grow up some.
Tell Jake to grow up.
Keep the hoodie.
JFC…
“I dont remember where I got it actually. Probably accidentally stole it from a friend”
See how easy that is?
The situation is probably making this sting more than just you having the hoodie. You wore it to meet his family, not just lounging around or on laundry day. Even though it was an accident, you put some thought into your outfit. You didn’t rush out of the house wearing whatever. If he’s not going overboard with jealousy then it might be worth trying to talk it out.
Why you B!tches still stealing hoodies? I thought that got tacky after the 80’s. Asshole.