My sister and I are not on speaking terms, its kinda been like this for a year. We used to be close when we were young people but things changed.
This situation happened last year in February, it was a normal family gathering my mom will hold each year. So we are having fun and see a family we haven’t seen in years, just having a good time. So my sister, Mya was arguing with her husband about some girl he was texting. My dad did break it up but Mya was still pissed; taking it out on everyone.
Mys and her husband argument didn’t stop, her kids were getting embarrassed because everyone was watching. I even went over there to stop them because it was doing nothing but causing more problems, I told my sister to calm down and to walk outside with me but she pulled herself from me like I offended her. she looked at me with disgust and told me not to touch her, I didn’t touch her but told her to call down. That’s when she told me to worry about my miscarriage and not her, she said it with a smirk like she got that moment of satisfaction. She never apologized and told me its not that serious and to get over it, that’s what ended our relationship.
Mya called me off her husband phone, I thought it was him but it wasn’t. It was actually my sister, before I hung up she shut it down. She asked for me to hear her out and stop avoiding her, I let her speak. She recently had her 4th child and was telling me that she’s going through a lot and wants me there since James isn’t home much. I told her to get mom to help because I have important stuff to do. She was just groaning, crying, she told me I need to be there for her and care about what’s happening to her. And I told her I didn’t care so ask mom and leave me alone and I said it in the most calm tone because I didn’t want to raise my voice, I was still hurt.
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My sister and I are not on speaking terms, its kinda been like this for a year. We used to be close when we were young people r but things changed.
This situation happened last year in February, it was a normal family gathering my mom will hold each year. So we are having fun and see a family we haven’t seen in years, just having a good time. So my sister, Mya was arguing with her husband about some girl he was texting. My dad did break it up but Mya was still pissed; taking it out on everyone.
Mys and her husband argument didn’t stop, her kids were getting embarrassed because everyone was watching. I even went over there to stop them because it was doing nothing but causing more problems, I told my sister to calm down and to walk outside with me but she pulled herself from me like I offended her. she looked at me with disgust and told me not to touch her, I didn’t touch her but told her to call down. That’s when she told me to worry about my miscarriage and not her, she said it with a smirk like she got that moment of satisfaction. She never apologized and told me its not that serious and to get over it, that’s what ended out relationship.
Mya called me off her husband phone, I thought it was him but it wasn’t. It was actually my sister, before I hung up she shut it down. She asked for me to hear her out and stop avoiding her, I let her speak. She recently had her 4th child and was telling me that she’s going through a lot and wants me there since James isn’t home much. I told her to get mom to help because I have important stuff to do. She was just groaning, crying, she told me I need to be there for her and care about what’s happening to her. And I told her I didn’t care so ask mom and leave me alone and I said it in the most calm tone because I didn’t want to raise my voice, I was still hurt.
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“She never apologized and told me its not that serious and to get over it, that’s what ended out relationship.”
Your sister sounds really self-centered and I don’t blame you for not wanting her in your life. If she said this at the time but hasn’t doubled down since, I might give her another chance to apologize and explain why it was hurtful. You can tell her that it’s hard to care for her problems when she treats yours so dismissively. If she doubles down again though I’d say you’re better off without her. Either way would be understandable.
It’s okay that you are still hurt about it what your sister said about your miscarriage is cruel and just because she is ready to talk doesn’t mean you have to be, healing doesn’t happen on someone else’s timeline you just tell her I’m sorry you are going through this but I’m still healing from the way I was treated I can’t be what you need right now if you ever forgive her let it be because it brings you peace not because you are being guilted to it
NTA. I have 2 sisters. I don’t talk to them because they are not good people. When people are horrible, you do not have to keep them in your life. Not to mention, we all know she’s only calling you because she wants your help and sympathy, not because she actually cares about you. Don’t give her the time of day. She doesn’t deserve it.
“Sorry, I need to worry about my miscarriage, and not you” Click.
NTA. I would have been so tempted to say something I regret. I think you did a great job staying calm. She can’t even scrape up an ounce of empathy to apologize so you definitely don’t owe her any favors. Sorry for your loss and hope you are doing better now.
Your sister’s answer to hubby texting another woman was to get knocked up again! Good lord.
NTA