I (30F – she/her) moved from Alabama to Louisiana after a divorce and have met the life of my life (30NB – they/them). My best friend in Alabama is house sitting for her parents while they are on vacation. She invited us for a trip to help her keep a close eye on their pool. My partner and I looked at our calendars and decided it was best to go on July 4th weekend since we are both off work for the holiday.
We’ve already talked about all the food we’re going to eat and all the places we will go. And planned a whole pool day with friends. We are both so excited for the trip and to see my best friend again!
I’m a cat person and my partner is a dog person. I have 3 cats and they have one dog. Only a couple of days ago did they go online to book the dog’s boarding while we are away. Now we have discovered that everyone is booked up for the holiday. We are trying different boarding places and trying to find arrangements, but it’s not looking great.
More than likely my partner will not be able to come. Am I the asshole if I go on this trip without them?
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Backup of the post’s body: I (30F – she/her) moved from Alabama to Louisiana after a divorce and have met the life of my life (30NB – they/them). My best friend in Alabama is house sitting for her parents while they are on vacation. She invited us for a trip to help her keep a close eye on their pool. My partner and I looked at our calendars and decided it was best to go on July 4th weekend since we are both off work for the holiday.
We’ve already talked about all the food we’re going to eat and all the places we will go. And planned a whole pool day with friends. We are both so excited for the trip and to see my best friend again!
I’m a cat person and my partner is a dog person. I have 3 cats and they have one dog. Only a couple of days ago did they go online to book the dog’s boarding while we are away. Now we have discovered that everyone is booked up for the holiday. We are trying different boarding places and trying to find arrangements, but it’s not looking great.
More than likely my partner will not be able to come. Am I the asshole if I go on this trip without them?
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This is a thin line.
You’re partners, not spouses, per se.
Was there any discussion about it? Because honestly if it works for your schedule and you can go, you should go.
Extremely popular holiday and they left booking a kennel this late??? There is nothing wrong with going on your own, have a good trip.
Take the dog.
If you want to go. Go. Message them pics and let them know you haven’t forgotten about them but don’t let their poor planning stop you from having a good time.
You haven’t really mentioned or indicated that your partner would be upset if you did go. Would they?
I don’t think you’d be TA if you went, but I’d be bummed my partner couldn’t make it and not sure that I’d go if that were the case unless the friend had already put in a lot of effort in planning the trip.
I don’t see why both can’t go there cats bro clean the litter box and set out enough food and water they’ll be fine for two days
NTA (I would still go) but the magic question is… what did your partner say?
NTA go, leaving dog care to the last minute is on them.
It was their mistake, you shouldn’t have to pay for it. Although I can’t imagine they will be happy about you having fun while they are home with the dog, even though it’s their fault they will be stuck at home
You’re not welded together. It’s OK to do things separately sometimes.
No, it would be disappointing in letting your friend down.
Your partner should understand that they made a mistake, but it doesn’t mean you can’t go