Me and my husband decided we don’t want her near our daughter bc of what she has done, It all started when i was pregnant, She knew i was very emotional and needed support during my pregnancy since i was living with them, When i lived there she was always screaming at us and always making us do things for Her that she could have done herself, she never made food (not that i really care), She would scream at us for making food when we were hungry, they never bought any food or anything, She would RIP her son by his shirt and scream at him, she would alwasy blame me for everything even when her son was just stating his own opinion during THEIR OWN FIGHT I WASN’T INVOLVED IN..
She had an bad habbit of ALWAYS lying about everything, always when we talked about my appointments where they would check up on my baby while i was pregnant or when we were talking about my pregnancy at all, she would just stop listening to me and talk about her own experience and not even listening to me, she would make me feel like we had an competition of whos pregnancy is/was harder or whos pregnancy was/is more important at the moment.
She even one time mentioned how the baby didn’t even look like me and that the baby looked like my husband and HER and only them, not even mentioning what looked like mine. It was hurtful to hear.
Even before pregnancy she was always screaming at us and making me constantly cry and feel like i was alone. She would blame me and say super mean things such as me being ignorant and mean even tho i didn’t do anything. She would always involve how i was differend race so our culture is differend.
she made my husband feel like he was a burden, She always blamed him for everything, forcing him to take care of the house and forcing him to wash HER HUSBANDS UNDIES AND CLOTHES AND EVEN HER OWN CLOTHES, forces him to quit what he was doing to do smth she told him to do.
she would always cry when she didn’t get her way and would make ny husbands grandma handle everythinf FOR HER REMIND URSELF SHE IS 55yo turning 56yo.
One time she asked me if i could take their dog out for a walk, (The dog was very big, fat and would always run and bark at other dogs) i refused so she got mad and started crying. I was AT THE END OF MY PREGNANCY and she even forced me to carry a Big table for her on my 8th month of pregnancy.
She would always use her diabetes as an excuse and how small she was to not have to do anything. Like my father has diabetes and he still works and does everything without complaint.
She forces her own expectations on her son and pushing his limits and then she cries when he refuses and starts telling how always Every freaking time she gets confornted or called out everything is hard for her. All she does is sit around her living room and watches tv, Never doing anything else. but somehow she can’t do anything bc she is small and fragile and suffers diabetes.
Main reason why we don’t want her near our child is bc now days my husband calls her she would always talk bad about me and tell him how she told her own mother, father and long cousins that I am the reason of everything and how i am a bitch and she is the victim of everything. When all i have done is be nice to her and even now i still treat her nicely. She would always blame me when calling my husband or even texting him, She told me how everyone “Knows” That i am the one ruining everything and she keeps telling us how OUR child is being kept away from her rights and She Keeps acting like OUR daughter is her daughter, it hurts me. She keeps talking bad about me and making me have to run away from my own house bc she forces herself in by making my husband grandma threath us by calling social services and how they will ruin us.
once after giving birth i was let home i sufferer from very bad uterine infection and episiotomy infection. She came to visit but Didn’t say anything to me, Not even a 1word only watched my daughter and neglected me in my OWN house. She saw how much our baby looked like me, so she started looking every part of my babys body to see what looked like my husbands and only talked about that body part nothing else.
When we finally moved in our own house after giving birth, she saw how we didn’t need her and how her son prioritised us before her she started being even meaner and talk bad about me and ruin my husbands reputation in their family. She now keeps crying like she never did anything and only lies about me and my husband “hurting her” even tho we have done absolutelt nothing. I have always cared for her and even be sweet to her. Even now.
So long story short i want her to keep distant bc she has made me feel unsafe with her, I can’t trust her, she has 0 respect for me and talks bad about me, She smokes and drinks, She Tried once ripping my daughter out of my hands, She neglected me and acts like my daughter is hers. She IS NARCISSIST AND VICTIMES HERSELF, she was never even able to ever take care of her own son and neglectd him and shifting the blame for his biological father who has not been in picture for a long time.
all her 55 years of living she only studies so she doesn’t have to get a job and then cries when reality hit her that she needs a job.
she keeps acting like she is 16yo girl
So am i in the wrong?? i can’t tell this better bc all details and everything she did would be too long to write. but there are worser things she has done.
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Nah girl, you’re not wrong at all. She’s toxic as hell and crossed way too many lines. You’re just protecting your kid, that’s called being a good mom.
Maybe look at this way. A raving maniac you’ve never met comes walking down the street and tries to grab your baby. What would you do?
So you are absolutely right to keep that monster away, and to get distance from her partners in crime.
If she never changes, what benefit would there be for your child to have a close relationship with her?
That sounds rough and you’re not wrong for keeping her away. You deserve peace just protect your family and keep those boundaries.