I (22m) have been taking care of my little brother (17m) for just over two years since our dad died (our mom died a few years before that). Both had very bad health. He lives with me and goes to the local hs by my apartment. He had to switch high schools to the one close to where I stay bc my parents were in a different area and he works whenever he is not in school (he works TWO part time jobs during the school year and works full time throughout the summer) bc even though I took him in he has a lot of expenses (I just can’t afford to cover it all) and wants to save up for the coming years. He shouldn’t be in this boat at all but that’s life. He is so young. Life has been very unfair to him and he is a really good kid. I have been dating my gf for just over a year. She wants to move in and not contribute to the household expenses bc I shouldn’t charge her rent bc she is not a tenant and I am not a landlord but we are boyfriend and girlfriend and I should be happy my girlfriend wants to move in with me (and I guess not contribute anything to the household expenses bc she sees it as me charging her rent). She also wants me to tell my brother to leave so we can have the space to ourselves and she can have more space. She has referred to him as a “freeloader” even though he is just a kid and I got myself to become his legal guardian. I told her no way. I think I should break up with her over just suggesting this but I don’t know if I should go that far and maybe should try and get her to see where I am coming from.
AITAH for refusing to kick my little brother (17m) out of my place at my girlfriend’s request so she (21f) would feel better about moving in with me (22m)?
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Yup, break up.
He’s your bro, underage and he’s hustling to pay his way. You also said you’re the legal guardian so you’d be an ass turfing him out now.
Girl is wanting to play home… on your dime. Do you really see a future with this girl?
Let me see if I understand this:
Your minor, orphaned brother lives with you and works his butt off to pay as much of his own way as he can.
Your girlfriend wants you to kick him out and let her move in for free so you can support her… then she calls him the freeloader? Really?
No, you’re NTA. But I suspect she’s a hobosexual hypocrite.
As a woman- ditch her! She literally thinks her living in your house is a blessing on you, and she has no need to contribute. While calling your brother a freeloader! Shes trash.
NTA Wow, she sounds like a winner. Heartless freeloader without common sense.
NTA
Leaving your brother out of the equation, your GF is a deadbeat. Ditch her for that alone.
With your brother IN the equation… your GF is an entitled monster.
NTA. Your gf is a major AH. She sounds extremely self-centered and lacking in compassion. Break up with her.
NTA, gf is young and is potentially trying to push the relationship as far as she can. What’s her current living situation?
She is being very selfish and does not appear to fully comprehend what is going on, have you sat down and actually talked about what’s going on and what your brother contributes?
She also doesn’t need MORE SPACE if she moves in and is not contributing. Contributing members get more space because they are doing the heavy financial lifting.
I’m not saying break up, try to have a mature conversation with her and based upon her reaction you will know if she’s willing to work within the situation or needs to be removed.
>I think I should break up with her over just suggesting this
You absolutely should. Go back and read what you typed out. Read it several times. See how much of a jealous hypocritical gold digging POS your GF is? If you stay with this woman, and more importantly, do as she asks. Then you are just a massive POS as well.
Ahahah. Calling your brother, who’s underage and in high school a freeloader while she expects to be in a house that’s not hers and not pay a dime for the rent or expenses? I can barely see the irony.
Anyway, sounds to me like your girlfriend is the freeloading chick. With all these demands that 1- she won’t pay anything and 2- imposing her rules of kicking out your brother, I think that if you guys move in together, there’s an excellent chance she’ll take more advantage of you.
Break up with your girlfriend yeah yeah.
NTA
Your girlfriend wants to freeload off you.
Do not let her move in. She will use you for every penny you earn.
Take care of yourself and your brother.
As a Mom, GMa, and woman, Ditch Her!!!
Why are you with this woman? It sounds like she wants to free load off of you.. she also wants to kick out your brother.. when are you gonna draw the line? There is absolutely no benefit to your life by letting her move in or at this point even dating her. She sounds completely unreasonable and hateful and the more she gets her foot in the door the more she’s going to X your brother out. She seems to be running over you.. if I were you I would take a hard look at this relationship and see if it’s really what you think it is.
NTA. She’s a leech and she’s a few other words I’d use but reddit doesn’t like them. Get rid of her.
I can’t imagine a redder flag than this. She wants you to abandon your younger brother(family) so she(one year girlfriend) can move in rent free? That’s not the type of ideology you’d want in a partner, honestly. I wouldn’t keep that around me if I were you.
Seems like what should be a priority is helping to stabilize your brother’s future so he can eventually become independent. With the loss of both your parents(my condolences), you’ve become each other crutches for the rest of your lives. Keep him close, nurture him and grow as brothers. That’s way more important than a possibly short-term girlfriend who obviously doesn’t care much about the dynamics of you and your brothers relationship/circumstances.
So u really thinking about kicking ur own brother out that has no one to turn to for a girl friend that basically using you n y’all only together for a year n u agreed to not charge her to stay because she ur girl friend… Are u fuckin serious… Grow a spine n put ur foot down… She literally tryna control ur life… Next she gonna move her folks in… Yea break up with her ASAP
There is say:
Bro before hoe
PS: Not telling your GF is hoe.
Your girlfriend is a bad person.
Break up, she’s awful
This is a massive red flag! For the record, your brother is not a freeloader and for two reasons: 1) he’s a minor and 2) he contributes as much as he can (even as a minor so props to him). You’re right, ideally he shouldn’t have to have all of these jobs and adult responsibilities, yet he does. You should be proud of your brother. Your girlfriend however, her mentality on this is so very wrong on many levels. She should not be expecting a free ride anywhere in life. Unfortunately, as an adult, you have bills to pay. That’s just how life is. She should WANT to pay her fair share so as not to burden you or your brother. Trying to persuade you to kick the minor out of the home that he helps pay for is the craziest thing I’ve heard all day. She should want to be friends with your brother and encourage you to keep good ties with him. Not try to alienate you from (what sounds to be) your only living immediate family member. This girl does not have any good intentions for either of you. I’m not going to tell you what to do with your life, but beware.
Why are you allowing anyone to bully your brother? Why are you in a relationship with someone who wants to make your brother homeless? But the biggest question is why your girlfriend knew that it would be okay with you if she insulted your brother to your face?
Act like a brother.
NTA, but your girlfriend absolutely is. Given the fact that she wants a minor child kicked out so she can live with you rent-free, break up with her now! If this is BEFORE you are married or living together, what will she demand from you next? Not only that, but she has no qualms about making a 17-year-old orphan homeless to suit her needs. She lacks empathy and compassion for both you and your brother besides having a set of balls the size of North America to demand you kick him out. She is selfish and entitled. Kick her to the curb and don’t regret it!
Also, you are amazing to take on caring for your brother when you are just starting out. It isn’t easy, and I applaud you for stepping up for him when he needed you most. You’ve set a great example for him. Be proud of yourself!
I don’t know what you are going to do but the first thing is to stop having sex with her. That’s the type of girl that will get pregnant so that you are stuck supporting her and her leach.
NTA
She’s a walking red flag.
She calls your brother, who you’re the legal guardian of, a freeloader. She’s projecting. She wants to be the freeloader. She wants more space and to not contribute in any way to the relationship.
Is this really the kind of woman you want in your life? You need a partner, not a leech. I suggest you break up with her.
>She wants to move in and not contribute to the household expenses
She’s an adult. If she moves in, she should contribute to household expenses. Not not allow her to live as a hobo-sexual.
>I should be happy my girlfriend wants to move in with me
Sure. But that doesn’t mean you should be happy to support her rent free.
>She has referred to him as a “freeloader” even though he is just a kid and I got myself to become his legal guardian.
He’s 17!!!
>I told her no way. I think I should break up with her over just suggesting this
I think she’s shown red flags sufficiently large they should be deal breakers. But at least, do not let her move in. Tell her your brother needs space, you are not ready to support her, and you think under the circumstances, she should support herself in her own apartment. Or break up. The latter might be wisest.
You are NTA. Her? Well…
OoooK NTA Your brother is family and he’s clearly a really good kid who’s gone through some rough things in his life, but hasn’t let that stop him from finishing school, working to help make ends meet and to save for his future. Thank goodness you both have each other! Any woman who would even entertain the idea of demanding you kick out your brother, regardless of the circumstances, is not a woman to build a future with. Also, she’s got some serious entitlement issues to think that you shouldn’t charge her rent just because you’re dating and now cohabitating?! Yeah, not in this economy!
Id throw your gf down a well personally. But you do you.
NTA. First off, my condolences to you and your brother. Kudos to you for taking your brother in. I bet it means the world to him that you are there for him when he needs you most.
You’re a smart dude, listen to your gut, your ex gf is a trifling good for nothing. She wanted you to get rid of your minor brother that she refers to as a freeloader. However, your brother, who has every right to be a free loader as a minor, is working two jobs while attending high school. Your gf, feels that you should be happy that she wants to move in with you, so you should just kick your brother(whom you are responsible for) to the curb so she can live rent free in your place and not contribute 1 penny
Your gf must really think you are a fool. Kick that heartless bi@tch to the curb and don’t look back.
Some girls be so heartless
NTA. How do you not see her as one bit RED flag? She wants your “freeloading” minor brother gone so she can free load off of you. What, if anything does she bring to the table except for sex. Nope yourself right on out of the relationship. Both you and your brother deserve better.
NTA, but your hopefully soon to be ex-girlfriend certainly is. She’s nothing but a user and bad news.
You’re dating an immature, selfish, totally self-centered, cruel, and mean girlfriend who wants to mooch off of you 100% and kick your MINOR brother out – a brother who is now an orphan, working his ass off, attending high school, and paying as much of HIS way as possible?
Your relationship with this narcissistic girl is unlikely to last. Meanwhile, you will have permanently destroyed your relationship with your little brother, damaged him beyond belief, and betrayed the memories of both of your parents if you do what your girlfriend wants.
Don’t do it. Kick the girlfriend to the curb for even asking you to shaft your little brother. She’s a real piece of work no one needs around. Then hug your brother and tell him you’ll always have his back.
Wait up… she’s calling your brother a freeloader?!
Let’s pretend, for a minute, that your brother didn’t live with you. She wants to just move in with you and not contribute in any way. Think about that. I’m not surprised she wants you to kick your brother to the curb. She is incredibly self centered. She doesn’t care about you, she’s sure not going to care about your brother. She’s runniing a game on you, and your neither is in her way.
PLEASE break up! The only freeloader in this scenario is the deadbeat girlfriend trying to emotionally manipulate you into being her sugar daddy (wtaf!), and she’s trying to evict a MINOR you’re legally responsible for (and love!) to do it. She’s a terrible excuse of a human being and you and your brother deserve way better.
Um your girlfriend is raising a ton of red flags. Your brother is part of you. If she can’t accept it, dump her. She is being a self-centered asshole. Your brother is a good kid. Help him. You can find someone else who values you and your standing relationships with your family.
Not to mention anyone worth their weight will always help pay bills. Your girlfriend just needs to go away and stop trying to take advantage of you.
NTA….you and your brother have your parents are gone way to early for the both of you but especially him…she doesn’t want to contribute at all but wants you to kick out your brother who’s a hs kid and working his butt off…she sounds like she’s the freeloader and I’d tell her to fuck off…tell her “that’s my brother,he works his ass off every second he’s not in school and I’m all he has left” follow it up with” you want me to kick him out so you can freeload and honestly if that’s the case I could find another you in a minute” then just walk away…honestly bro you’re 22 odds are this isn’t your forever HOWEVER you’re brother is your brother forever…if she were the one she wouldn’t even think to ask this of you…stand up for your baby brother! He has nobody else to do it anymore ! Think back to when you were kids when you were 15 did you let older people pick on and abuse your brother? This is the same situation..kick her ass to the streets
Wow that is a woman who has as much empathy as a lump of dog crap.Of course you are not the AH but she sure is.And oh by the way she should look up free loader in the dictionary ….it describes her perfectly..who moves in with a boyfriend and expects to freeload…that doesn’t work these days.I hope your young brother works hard in school and gets a good life.He has a good example to follow🇨🇦👍🇨🇦
My dude,
That huge red square that is blotting out the sun is the biggest red flag and China is calling and wants it back.
NTA
But YWBTA to stay with her.
Your girlfriend showed you who she is. Believer her. She needs to go
NTA. And yes, you should kick her to the curb. The irony of her calling your brother a freeloader 🙄
NTA Uhmm well SOMEONE in this scenario is a freeloader and it isn’t your brother. You are thinking correctly! Tell her bye bye.
I truly hope this is a fake post because you cannot be that shitty of a person. Your brother has been through enough. Please do not make his housing situation unstable.
She wants to be the freeloader! Be there for your brother. And when a girlfriend does move in, she should plan on contributing the same percentage of her salary as you do!
I would’ve broke up with her before she finished saying everything or had sex one more time and broke up with her as I was climaxing. You know, make it cheap and insensitive to match her energy.
This girl ain’t worth it dude. Find someone that loves you and what you come with. You deserve an understanding woman in your life. NTA
Print out the definition of freeloader. Hand it to your utterly disgusting, reprehenisbly selfish girlfriend when you break up with her. Tell her only a garbage person would expect you to throw your minor brother for whom you’re legally responsible, who actually contributes to the household, out into the streets so that a useless mooch can move in and suck up resources she’s not entitled to. Remind her that even a dumpster fire of a human like her can improve, but it’s gonna take work. Then don’t look back. You’re better off without her.
NTA not sure a relationship is worth it if they’re telling you to pick family above them
You have a girlfriend problem. She is a freeloader and wants you to kick a minor out (would be illegal as you are also his guardian), a minor who is an orphan and works to earn his keep. Run as fast as you can cause she sees you as her atm.
Jesus Christ, dude.
There is NO pussy that is THAT good.
Go find another woman who will love you, work alongside you and strive to make life better for both you AND your family.
IF she wants to JOIN the family she needs to be PART of the family.
Not running off the only family you both have left.
You are young.
You have little experience in just how many AMAZING women are out there.
Right now you are looking at some woman who is basically BARELY a 2 but you think she is a 9 because you have never met anything beyond a 4 except for sh!t you see on TV.
NTA
This girl has shown you who she is. She is pushing to get into your home and put all the responsibilities on you.
She is also trying to drive away your closest family.
Her patterns and actions are toxic as hell and borderline abusive.
Bud, I’m so sorry you’re having to carry so much at such a young age, but life will get a little easier if you stop carrying her too.
Leave this girl as fast as you can. Take care of your brother and yourself.
Sorry you’re having to grow up so fast, but keep growing and don’t let her bring you down.
As someone who also lost their father young, I’m proud of the support you’ve already shown your little brother, keep it up!
Tell your girlfriend to take a hike. If you let this happen at her request, those requests will never stop.
If your asking you already know, she us not worth it ! He’s family and she’s nut a should be in my book get rid of her and find another!
Not sure where you are from but if you are his legal guardian and he is 17 you can’t toss him out – it would be child abandonment!
Also if you can’t afford all your brother’s expenses no way you could afford to keep this woman the way she wants (and no idea why you would want to – NTA).
But on that point have you looked into orphan payments from like social security? Many countries provide support to legal guardians of orphans or pay parents pension to orphans directly.
All the red flags, throw her away and start again with one who isnt a hypocritical freeloader.
A real woman will be impressed you and your brother are sticking together and helping each other out.
You only have one brother, gf on the other hand, there are plenty to choose from
NTA.
I think you should kick the GF out … of your life. She sucks.
NTA
She’s literally trying to be and do exactly what she’s accusing your brother of🤣
No your gf is the AH for even suggesting that. She is the freeloader. Why does she think as your girlfriend she doesn’t need to do anything? Kick her to the curb ASAP!
Please tell me this is a fake post. I do want it to be!
As for the twit of a gf, the OP is NTA.
The brother living with the OP for the next few years is part of a package deal. Any woman who cannot accept this is not with 5 minutes more of the Op’s time.
Lol freeloader girlie said WHAT? 🤣 She doesn’t want a boyfriend she wants a sugar, tell her she’s in the wrong business because you don’t have the capital, she’ll go away.
Seriously she wants to be a stay at home girlfriend but more like a trophy wife or something not even trad because I’m 100% sure she’d do NOTHING around the house either. Again, tell her that to look for a sugar she’s certainly barking at the wrong tree.
She is a vile heartless creature. You should definitely break up with her, you’ve already said you cant afford to support your brother alone which is why he is working his arse off, so how would you be able to pay for this hoe while she refuses to put a penny towards the living expenses?
Also where does she expect him to go? He is SEVENTEEN. HE IS A CHILD.
Get rid of her, blood is thicker than water dude. You’re the only family he has left, he needs you to stand by him and be there for him.
If you try to stay with her after refusing to kick out your brother, we all know she will act venomous towards him.
Please, please ditch her ASAP. What a horrible person. You would be huge YTA to ever consider doing that, or agreeing to support her freeloading ass.
Dump that bi7C4
What do you even like about this girl? She sounds awful.
Nta why are you not more worried about her wanting to move in and not contribute a single cent so she can mooch of you lmao???
Your girlfriend wants you to kick out your minor little brother? Which would be a crime since you are his legal guardian?
Kick out the girlfriend.
Seriously. She has shown her true colors. She is completely self-centered and you will be miserable with her.
YTA!!!
This isn’t even remotely believable
Oh man. You know that’s just not right. Tell her you want a partnership or nothing and your brother ( orphaned , young but does cover some of his expenses) is a non negotiable. What a piece of work. Nta
He’s in high school!
Kick her ass out.
nta
she is expecting to use you, she is not respecting you, and she is a horrible human being for demanding that
Run! She doesn’t want your brother. Run! She doesn’t want to contribute to HER living expenses. Your brother needs you. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.
Your girlfriend is so over the top obnoxious that I hope that this is a troll post. If it isn’t, you need to dump her pronto. She’s a freeloader and utterly coldhearted about your brother. What
NTA. Your girlfriend is the freeloading, wannabe hobosexual. Your brother is a child who has been orphaned, and you are legally his guardian.
Dump the girlfriend.
Dump her immediately!!
She’s done a number on you already if you have to ask for advice. Kick her to the curb. She’s telling you to ditch your own brother for her comfort. Heck no! She needs a rude awakening. You’re only asking to be used and manipulated if you don’t break up with her. She’s already brainwashed you enough to make you consider sending your orphaned brother away.
NTA, I just moved my little brother in with my gf and I after he got kicked to the curb by our mother. My gf had no problems with it as long as he pays his way. The fact that your brother already lives there should make it painfully clear that she is being unreasonable. Ditch the gf. A partnership is 50/50, and it seems as though she wants to control your life while contributing nothing.
Even setting aside the part about your underage brother you’re taking care of, this girl wants to move in and be waited on hand and foot for free and expects you to be over the moon about it. She’s the definition of a freeloader and you can do way better, bro
So you’re loser girlfriend wants to move in and refuses to contribute because she’s not a tenant. Reason one to tell her to fuck all the way off.
She wants your minor orphaned brother to move out. Reason two she can fuck all the way off
This can’t be real. No words would adequately explain your girlfriend if it is.
NTA. Tell her you’ll do her one better buy breaking up with her. Then she will have all the space she ever wanted.
She’s looking to taken care of, not a partner.
Also, if you give in on this it will be just the beginning. It’s a gross power move.
NTA! Dump this beach yesterday!!!
She doesn’t get to live rent free just because she’s a girl and she certainly doesn’t get to kick out an orphaned minor so she can move all her shit in rent free. What a horrible person!
Why do you want a future with someone like that? She brings nothing to your life aggravation. Your future won’t be any better and you will lose your relationship with your brother .
The audacity of the girlfriend to call the working student a “freeloader” when she does not have plans to contribute to household finances makes me want to hand her a mirror and a dictionary because it seems like she doesn’t understand the definition of ‘freeloader’.
Ditch the witch.
Your lease probably prevents your girlfriend from moving in without her being on the lease. Your brother needs you right now and you probably need him. I doubt that you really need a person that won’t contribute to your current situation.
Ok kick this crazy woman to the curb and quickly. If she had any compassion or cared for you than she would never and I mean never ask you to kick out your 17 year old brother. He sounds like a great kid and is really trying. Most people in his and your position would give up and play victim.
She has the audacity to have you pay for everything on top of that. Hell no she does not love you at all. I am not trying to be mean but come on bud open your eyes. You are a good man for taking care of your brother. He is all you have left and I am sure he appreciates you. Sorry this is happening and for the loss of your parents.
NTA. That is blood and that overshadows anything. He’s a good kid and trying to set himself up for success in a mess neither him nor you asked for.
She is the asshole though. She’s trying to just take his spot in your home.
Personally I would tell her to fuck all the way off, and when she does she can assess herself gather her thoughts, and then fuck even further off.
Thats a shitty time and I feel for you brother, but that seems pretty black and white to me.
Dump the freeloading girlfriend and keep your brother. By the way does he get social security benefits because his / your parents died and he is underage
Get a new girl friend. You sound like you are doing a good job with your younger brother but to dump him for a free loading girl friend is ridiculous. She needs to get a grip, unless you are married she should know if she moves in she pulls her own weight with shared costs.
NTA break ip
Okay number one. You took responsibility for him. Your responsibility goes until a minimum of he’s 18. Number two. A girlfriend that says she’s not going to contribute to the house that the fact that she’s going to be there should be enough for you that you should be paying everything and happy that she’s there. I mean seriously
And kick out a 17-year-old because that would make her feel better about moving in with you. He’s your brother. You’re his legal guardian. He is your responsibility
And she is a gold digging tramp and I’m saying that because if she thinks that you should have to pay all the bills because she’s so great that if she agrees to live with you therefore have sex with you that she’s done her part. Yeah she’s trading her body for the expenses. Tramp is mild
You would be the world’s biggest ass if you kick your 17-year-old brother that you are guardian of out
Why you would even think about that for a heartbeat is beyond me. He doesn’t even have a year left and he’ll be old enough to be on his own. How can you be this way? I get you had responsibility shoved on you earlier than you should have. What I don’t understand is both parents died. Are you in the United States? Did your parents actually work? Why didn’t you go apply for social security for your brother?
She’s the freeloader, not your brother. Good riddance.
Dump this girlfriend and keep your brother.
Get rid of her. She’s no good. Anyone that saw someone doing what you are, taking care of a younger sibling after both parents have died, is a total piece of shit who only cares about themselves. Get rid of her and don’t look back. You can find much better than her.
NTA. You want the kind of woman who admires you for taking on this responsibility, and admires your younger brother for missing out on what should be happy carefree teen years to help support himself.
She hasn’t come to that realization on her own in the past year, so don’t waste your breath trying to make her understand it. It’s clear she does not now and she never will.
I’m so sorry for what life has thrown at you young men. But clearly your parents raised you right!
Nta
You are right, you should break up with her.
NTA. Break up with her!!!
Life hasn’t been particularly fair to you either, my friend. You’re nowhere near the AH.
Your gf otoh.
You might be TA if you don’t break up with her.
NTAH. This girl wants you to be her meal ticket. Drop her like a hot rock.
Totally not the ah. Your gf is incredibly selfish. And yes, you should break up with her just for asking you to make a 17 year old libe in his own. She is not someone you want in your life.
And good for you for taking care of your brother. You are a wonderful person
Bruh, unless her coochie is curing dick cancer then i fail to see why are you with this shitstain of a human after the vile shit she said.
She’s trying to manipulate you so >she< can be the freeloader. You already know the answer to your question. NTA. Don’t let the parasite GF get her hooks in you. She’ll drain your bank account and move on to her next victim. Good luck.
lol yea she wants to be a freeloader as a adult. I wouldn’t even consider it nor stay with someone who asks that. What a B
He should have gotten social security for your mom’s death and now receive it for both parents as they passed while he was a minor. That should have been plenty of money so he wouldn’t have to work during the year. Did you apply for this for him? He should also should he received conf Medicare benefits for medical
Man kick her the fuck out to the curb. Dude, think about who you are with – she sounds no good. Seriously.
NTA
She is a red flag!!
And your little brother is not a freeloader. He deserves every bit of emotional, financial security you can give him. Pls don’t ask him to leave.
She’s the freeloader. She wants to live expenses free and you pay for her to live with you. No and fuck no. She wants to be your “stay at home girlfriend”.
You’re his legal guardian and the answer to her is NO.
Dump her. She’ll never understand because she’s immature and wants to live off of you like you’re her daddy. Fuck that shit. And I’m a woman telling you this.
NTA. You are THE MAN. Tell her that the sort of man who could put his brother out on the street like that is not a good choice, but she can find one if she looks hard enough.
Your girlfriend revealed her character to you. That she did so at your age, with only a year wasted, is a blessing. Cut bait and never look back.
Updateme
NTA. Dude, your soon to be EX-girlfriend is an entitled idiot. Your brother and you are doing everything right to live a good life. She isn’t. Kick her to the curb. Quickly.
Break up with her now. It’s only a matter of time before she runs your world.
Drop the bi—-, you and your brother deserve better, (60f, mother to three, gma to two).
No she doesn’t want your brother to succeed in life.
She doesn’t have your best interest at heart, nor does she have your brothers, only her own.
she is selfish and not worth your time.
You are an amazing young man and so is your brother. You both have such strength, it’s inspiring. Your GF wants a sugar daddy. She’s a mooch. Kick her to the curb. Someday a wonderful young woman will come along and admire your strength and family values and honor. She will have a huge heart and will love you and your brother. Good luck to you two. Hugs!
NTA man, your lil bronseems to be a good kid/person, your gf on the other hand seems to be a selfish entitled walking red flag.
So in her mind, your 17yo orphaned brother is a “freeloader” for not sharing expenses, but her, a grown-assed adult gf of a year is entitled to live with you rent free? Dude, if this doesn’t send up major red flags for you, I don’t know what to tell you. If you are his legal guardian, I’m not sure you can kick him out anyway, not that you should even consider it. She’s willing to have you abandon your own family for her comfort and convenience? Absolutely not. You would be the asshole if you listen to her. You can try to get her to see where you are coming from, but she’s not going to get it.
Kick her to the curb. She’s controlling and trying to use you. You should be happy to support her at a year in because she wants to move in? Ridiculous!
NTA- first not kicking your bother out but totally YTA for even considering it.
N T A- IF this was real. but if your minor brother has no living parents then he or you FOR him should be receiving social security benefits and you should be receiving food stamps and medical coverage through your state.
He should no be working as a Hs student to pay for his own expenses. So this is either fake, or you’re not giving us all the accurate info.
Considering this is likely fake based on your Reddit history, you don’t actually live this situation and this is karma farming.
NTA, you are the guardian. Help him have some stability and safety.
A girl friend should be a partner not a freeloader.
Support your brother 100%,ditch the freeloader GF. Your brother is trying very hard to help with his expenses,don’t ditch him for a GF,please. Stand by your brother. Please.
Ditch your chick. Bro has been a part of your life for 17 years and is by the sounds of things your closest living relative.
She is a chick that you have been dating for a year and now wants to mooch off you and evict your orphaned brother.
Sorry there’s no going back from this. Dump her lazy arse.
Nope that’s not how life works she needs to pay and she knew you had a brother living with you seems like she’s selfish I would be single before I dated somebody like her
You want advice, I hope you will listen to what majority of people are saying here. Its unfortunate that you and your brother lose both set of parents so early. That makes you the bond between you two should be that much harder and stronger. Do you really want to throw that away to get a gf that not only want to contribute shit and ask to kick out your underage brother? Like is she for real?
Kick her ass to the curb
I do not think your gf understands the meaning of “freeloader.” Tell her to look it up, right after you dump her!
She is a red flag. How could you kick him out? You are his only relative. Find someone who gets along with your brother and thinks of him as her brother as well.
😂 where’s the disconnect? Open your eyes bro. You literally typed this out. These words came from your brain. Did she let you borrow your balls so you could write this? Yes, please, bail on your brother. Let him know the only family he has left doesn’t want him anymore. Teach him that hard work doesn’t matter and he’s not good enough. Let him understand that his brother will kick him to the curb for some p*ssy. For fuck’s sake
Reddit always tells people to dump their partner, but sometimes it’s the only good advice you can give
NTA but maybe you will be if you stay in this relationship. Any partner worth your time would have already started getting a deposit together, worked out financial contributions, and would be encouraging and supporting your brother.
NTA sounds like projection on her end. She’s looking to take your brother’s place it appears. I would break up with her considering she doesn’t care that you’re both orphaned and she’s acting like it’s not a big deal.
Yeah, dump the hobosexual. Would you want to be longterm partners with someone who would kick your family to the curb? Would hope not.
More than that. You’re in a partnership, she should be happy you’d be willing to let her move in and contribute. Like. What is her value in your life? Sex? You can have se with other people. Friendship? You can have way better relationships with other people who won’t disrespect your family.
it’s also 2025, times are tough. Dual income is the norm for most folk these days.
NTA. Your gf? a pos.
What planet is she living on
Nothing is free
She hasn’t been taught this
Well done for taking your brother in and for him being a responsible person
You have both gone thru a hard time well done for being there for one another
Do not let her move in or your life will be a misery.
Already trying to kick an orphaned child out of his own home with is own family for her benefit.
If she truly loved you, she would love the fact that you take care of him.
At the moment the way she sees it is that there is all this free money being spent on your brother that she deserves and is entitled to have spent on her.
I read the first few lines. First of all, I’m so sorry for your loss.
Continue taking care of your brother and ditch this woman. She’s not the one. NTA.
NTA. Ditch the gold digger and help your little bro out in the meantime.
NTAH
Believe people the first time they show you who they are. She is a leech. She will not change. Don’t waste your time or breath on her. Just break up.
Time to get a new gf lol
Bro. Gtfo of this terrible relationship. May karma bite her in the ass.
Woman here … dude if that’s not the biggest fkn red flag I don’t know what would knock you back to your senses that this woman is TRASH! You should run a mile from any woman who refuses to financially contribute, even faster from women who want to kick your minor orphaned sibling out so she can have his space. How are you even still with her after she said tha??
You and girlfriend are flaming AHs. Bro is a minor. This is family. Family is all you have.
Dump the girl keep the brother.
Get a new girl who’s not a lazy freeloader.
It sounds like she wants to freeload. Breaking up with her would be the best idea. There are plenty of women who will love you, love your brother, AND contribute to a place where they are living.
Nta. She can deal with it how it is or wait until he’s on his own. I would make that a hard line tbh. If she can’t come to terms with that then she needs to go.
NTA. Dump her yesterday.
Excuse me?? If she’s moving in, and not contributing she’s the definition of a freeloader. You are stepping up to take care of your underage sibling which is commendable. If she has an issue with that, it’s simple; she can’t move in. NTA
NTA You never want to date anyone who would come between you and someone you love. Do not sell your soul to be with this greedy, selfish, heartless parasite. Do not get her pregnant. Kick her to the curb and call her the gold digging parasite that she is while you’re at it. You can do much better, and you and your brother both clearly deserve it.
Run far away from the girl as in this should have happened last week. I’m sorry you just became a legal guardian of your brother. Nope, girlfriend needs to become the ex-girlfriend
No pussy is that good
Please dump her fast. She’s not worth anything. Your brother and you are a team and she selfishly wants to split you up and freeload off you. Nope to nopety nope! Your brother is a star and so are you. She’s a gas bag who wants to set your entire world aflame. Dump her nasty entitled ass now, please.
Nta but holy shit she is a nightmare … if you dont break up with her you will be the AH.
NTA. As your brother’s legal guardian, you have an obligation to house him until he’s an adult.
But beyond that, this…person wants to move in, pay nothing, live for free because she’s your girlfriend, but thinks your brother who goes to school and works to jobs to help cover his expenses is a freeloader.
My friend, RUN.
This isn’t someone who wants to be your partner. She wants you to be her ATM.
Just say no. Get a better girlfriend. She ain’t it.
Yeah you need to dump her.
You’re NTA, but she definitely is.
She expects you to be grateful for the opportunity to support her full time while isolating your brother who literally as no one left in the world. She is a terrible human being.
You should break up with her because she’s an asshole.
NTA
You definitely should break up with her. Even if your brother were not living with you, she should still be expected to contribute at least half the expenses, food, utilities, rent… and she should pay for ALL her own stuff, cosmetics, hygiene supplies, clothes.
You do not need to be supporting her at this point in your life. Maybe when you’re 40 but not at 22!
Time to count your blessings and move on. You really dodged this one. Run as fast as you can from her! Imagine how much more demanding she will get in the future.
You are an amazing man! I am parent of two sons and I know your parents would have been so proud of you, taking care of your brother and putting him first. You will find a woman who will respect you as you respect her and will love and appreciate that you put family first. This woman will be a true life partner and will be there for you. It will be a balanced relationship and not someone who is selfish, takes from you and only thinks of herself. All the best OP.
Nta…. But you will be if you stay with her and especially if you let her move in.. She will purposely make his life miserable to force him out… Get rid of her, she’s not someone you build a life with
If you actually earnestly had to ask this I’m fucking terrified for you. If I were in your shoes thr line already would’ve been drawn at her not paying her bit of the rent. If she said all this to me in one go I could jot help but literally laugh in her face for having the fucking audacity.
That’s before dumping her literally when I’m done laughing.
Nta. Ditch the bitc_. She wants to be freeloader. Even if she would pay all the costs, demanding someone to kick out minor is such a awful thing. YTA because Moment she told you to kick brother you didn’t kick her out.
NTA and don’t do it. Breakup with her freeloading ass ASAP!
No way to sugar coat this – kick her to the curb – NOW.
Kick that AH of a girlfriend to the curb and never give it a second thought.
Dump her entitled freeloader ass
She would be the freeloader. Someone like her is not gf material.
Red flags waving all over the place. RUN
Nta
NTA OP your gf is a walking red flag, please bring far far away. Good on you for looking out for you little brother.
Do not ever let an adult move in with you and not contribute to household expenses. It is not adulting to not carry your weight financially. It always creates a weird dynamic and often resentment. Now to the topic at hand. She does not seem like a very nice person. Why are you in a relationship with someone who has no compassion toward your family member and is that selfish? Apparently she was looking in the mirror when she used the word “freeloader”. Your brother is a minor and deserves to have at least the basics provide for him. He also sounds industrious working and covering some of his needs. Stick with the brother you will both be better for it. Dump the girlfriend – you can do much better. NTA
NTA.
SHE is the freeloader. She wants you to spend YOUR money.
Nope. Tell her she can just keep looking for a sugar daddy.
Plus your brother is MUCH more important.
Nta your underage brother who attends hs full time on top of working 2 part-time jobs? Where would he go he can not sign a lease? So he STAYS
You pick your little brother if she moves in anyway you put her freeloading butt on the lease & she pays part of the utilities & buys food as well. A coworker of mine used to have a stickèr on his motorcycle helmet
“Ass, Grass or Gass, nobody rides for free”
Please break up with her, please! Hell, I’ll call and do it for you! 🙋♀️ I volunteer, and then you don’t even have to listen to her try to lie and say that’s not what she meant and you misunderstood her because she’s gonna try to gaslight you.
ETA updateme
Did you ever file for social security benefits for your brother?