I’ve always wondered what parts of emotional connection or partnership feel too “taboo” to talk about but really matter.
What’s something in a relationship that you wish was more often discussed openly, but usually stays unspoken?
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I’ve always wondered what parts of emotional connection or partnership feel too “taboo” to talk about but really matter.
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Space in a relationship is indeed a good thing. I’ve been married 9 happy years, and a key part of our success is knowing we don’t have to do everything together. I have my friends and enjoy time with them, and my husband has his own friends and activities.
I’ve always felt that some of the most important parts of connection stay hidden because we’re all afraid of seeming too vulnerable or too intense. Curious what others think.
Feelings
Emotional vulnerability. Most men would not rather share what troubles them for fear they will be judged, ridiculed or it makes them look weak.
No one can be strong all the time and at some point we need people to lean on to and if 2 people can’t make that work, what’s the point of being in a relationship then?
Expectations and needs from each person. A relationship really shouldn’t be difficult, both people should be open with each other.
Religion and how to raise potential kids.
What role the MIL and other family members play for you as a couple or how much they should/ might help when there is a kid.
How to behave when the other one is sick.
Does forever actually mean forever or only until one is not useful anymore?
Boundaries of/ against emotional affairs
So many issues where people get hurt regularly because they just expect others to know
I think my dating life rn is currently going through these communication pains. I am taking full accountability that I expect him sometimes to read my mind & know what I want from him/expect from him which has been taking a toll & when he doesn’t I pull away… I do plan to change that now that I noticed it & hope that we can move forward from it.
Verbal abuse
Monogamy
Honestly, when something dumb or seemingly insignificant grates on me, I have a really hard time knowing if I should bring it up immediately or pick my battles or let it go bc I’m being “too much.” (Is there a right way to load the dishwasher? Feels like there is lol)
Right now, I feel like I rarely know what to do in the moment (my instinct is to stuff it down and deal with it myself bc I’m being ridiculous). But my husband and I have talked about that instinct and we are practicing giving each other space to process and figure out if we need to address something. And we’ve promised to be honest with each other if we decide something is worth talking about. So we’re trying to speak our normally unspoken thoughts.
What a good sex life is, I feel like most people tip toe around the issue
Being considerate and being transparent to each other. It should be given not asked.
So many things lol
Sex, how to spend money, time apart and together, time with friends, time playing video games, alcohol and drugs, having friends that your partner isn’t comfortable with you being friends with because of their sexual preference, gender, entertainment habits or whatever, religion, hygiene, chores, each other’s families, parenting — basically anything two people are uncomfortable bringing up because they’re afraid the other person will get mad, their feelings will be hurt, maybe they won’t love us if they knew we really felt this way about something, etc.
Our relationships are only as real as we are, so if we don’t share our true feelings, boundaries, values, opinions, beliefs, fears, perceived wants and needs, dealbreaker, etc., how real is our relationship anyway?
Equally shared responsibilities.
The need to mask the truth. For example, during sex if a man loses his hard on during but semi regains it.. he’ll say something like you make me so hard. Makes no sense to me. Aside from protecting his ego and trying to gaslight the situation.
Like no. Just talk about what gets you excited instead of some misguided comment like that to sooth your sense of desirability.
That need to mask the truth to talk about a deeper need is incredibly frustrating.