Usually we just talk for a week or two and then meet in person. Suggest a coffee or dinner or wtvr suits you better. Always in a public place. Remember you don’t actually know this person.
And also, remember that texting can lead to a false sense of intimacy and the person you’re texting is a a facade. You only really get to know someone in person.
I have this issue when I am on dating apps. I don’t like to meet ASAP as we matched (like in few hours). For other cases guys ask themselves and they are active.
When the convo is nice, but for a few days no initiative on his side, I ask the guy where this is heading as I am not there for chatting. In 99% cases they ghost me or remove the match. I noticed in my case that when a guy wants to meet he asks himself and he doesn’t wait.
I have no problems with having initiative, but when I was in charge (even for a casual meeting) in turned out that they went with me because of boredom or they were looking for a second mother.
Sometimes I ask, sometimes I’m asked. I am not scared about a no, at least when it comes to dating apps. I feel like asking someone out when it is not on dating apps are more scary, feels like there is more at stake there.
I ask them if they want to get a drink sometime this week, and then we decide on a date, time, and place. Then I do my best to mentally prepare myself for the fact that they will probably cancel right beforehand, because they always do.
Try to get an idea of what type of first date they’d like (dinner, axe throwing, coffee, group date, both bring your dogs to the dog park, concert, picnic, whatever) and plan it a bit.
Ex: The weather is supposed to be nice on Sunday and I have been wanting to try a new pasta salad recipe. Would you like to have a picnic at xyz park?…a band I like is playing in two weeks, would you wanna go with me? The venue is near this fast casual restaurant if you wanna grab a bite to eat before the show…. A friend told me about a coffee shop nearby and I’d like to try their cinnamon rolls. Do you wanna grab coffee and pastries Saturday around 10?… There’s a new exhibit at the planetarium and they have a showing Thursday at 6:15. Should I get us tickets?…. You get the point.
Been playing too many fighting games lately. But all jokes aside, we met? Cool. How are you? Good? Okay when and where? If you’re going to talk online, there isn’t much to talk about any more in person, so I try to get it to an IRL meetup as soon as I can.
I liked meeting up ASAP. Because I dont know if I find a person attractive until I see them in person. I have to see how they move through life and hold themselves.
assuming this is relating to dating or even dating apps, i usually would chat on the app for a few days, give them my number if i liked them, chat a little longer after that and then express interest. usually with hypothetical dates to genuine plans, ie., “oh i love the food at x, we should go sometime” or “this movie is out, do you like this genre usually?” etc.
I’d never message someone off insta for a date but if we matched on some app and had a couple text exchanges, I’ll ask them to coffee or ice cream the upcoming weekend so they know I’m not interested in just a penpal.
We’ll spend the next few days chatting here and there then meet up. I always do cheap and quick first dates so it’s not a huge time or financial commitment for either party. Coffee or ice cream dates are 30-45 minutes and cost about $10-15.
I like the whole I’m free around X date/time, we can meet in public at X. Even better if something is going on in the city that we both could be interested in, the chances of yes skyrocket. Timing is everything but also when the iron is hot, hard to say no.
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Usually we just talk for a week or two and then meet in person. Suggest a coffee or dinner or wtvr suits you better. Always in a public place. Remember you don’t actually know this person.
And also, remember that texting can lead to a false sense of intimacy and the person you’re texting is a a facade. You only really get to know someone in person.
Never have. I dated when we spoke to one another
I have this issue when I am on dating apps. I don’t like to meet ASAP as we matched (like in few hours). For other cases guys ask themselves and they are active.
When the convo is nice, but for a few days no initiative on his side, I ask the guy where this is heading as I am not there for chatting. In 99% cases they ghost me or remove the match. I noticed in my case that when a guy wants to meet he asks himself and he doesn’t wait.
I have no problems with having initiative, but when I was in charge (even for a casual meeting) in turned out that they went with me because of boredom or they were looking for a second mother.
I tried asking two separate guys who I thought liked me if they wanted to get coffee/tea/hang out.
The one who initiated the texting with me said he had a girlfriend
The other didn’t even answer and I guess is too scared to saw “ewwww 🤢 no”
🤷🏾♀️ I will never listen to family/friends about asking guys out again unless I become model hot or rich overnight 😂
You text them and say “hey I’ve loved talking to you, wanna meet up and grab some coffee/tea/lunch/go for a walk to chat in person?”
Alternatively find an event going on in your area and ask if they want to meet you there
Dating is a numbers game, people.
You can’t expect to MAGICALLY land the perfect person if you never make the effort to MEET new people.
Or just go to events and talk to people. Texting becomes a secondary thing, cause you already met them.
Sometimes I ask, sometimes I’m asked. I am not scared about a no, at least when it comes to dating apps. I feel like asking someone out when it is not on dating apps are more scary, feels like there is more at stake there.
I ask them if they want to get a drink sometime this week, and then we decide on a date, time, and place. Then I do my best to mentally prepare myself for the fact that they will probably cancel right beforehand, because they always do.
“hey id prefer to meet in person, would you like to get lunch next week?”
(Lunch, coffee, etc)
Try to get an idea of what type of first date they’d like (dinner, axe throwing, coffee, group date, both bring your dogs to the dog park, concert, picnic, whatever) and plan it a bit.
Ex: The weather is supposed to be nice on Sunday and I have been wanting to try a new pasta salad recipe. Would you like to have a picnic at xyz park?…a band I like is playing in two weeks, would you wanna go with me? The venue is near this fast casual restaurant if you wanna grab a bite to eat before the show…. A friend told me about a coffee shop nearby and I’d like to try their cinnamon rolls. Do you wanna grab coffee and pastries Saturday around 10?… There’s a new exhibit at the planetarium and they have a showing Thursday at 6:15. Should I get us tickets?…. You get the point.
“Enough talk! Let’s see what you got.”
Been playing too many fighting games lately. But all jokes aside, we met? Cool. How are you? Good? Okay when and where? If you’re going to talk online, there isn’t much to talk about any more in person, so I try to get it to an IRL meetup as soon as I can.
I liked meeting up ASAP. Because I dont know if I find a person attractive until I see them in person. I have to see how they move through life and hold themselves.
Find out where she hangs out and stalk her
Hey do you wanna meet up?
assuming this is relating to dating or even dating apps, i usually would chat on the app for a few days, give them my number if i liked them, chat a little longer after that and then express interest. usually with hypothetical dates to genuine plans, ie., “oh i love the food at x, we should go sometime” or “this movie is out, do you like this genre usually?” etc.
“Do you want to go to x on Xday?”
“Yes”
“Cool see you there”
Depends on how I get their number.
I’d never message someone off insta for a date but if we matched on some app and had a couple text exchanges, I’ll ask them to coffee or ice cream the upcoming weekend so they know I’m not interested in just a penpal.
We’ll spend the next few days chatting here and there then meet up. I always do cheap and quick first dates so it’s not a huge time or financial commitment for either party. Coffee or ice cream dates are 30-45 minutes and cost about $10-15.
I like the whole I’m free around X date/time, we can meet in public at X. Even better if something is going on in the city that we both could be interested in, the chances of yes skyrocket. Timing is everything but also when the iron is hot, hard to say no.
I just wanna lover. Maybe meeting asap would help
If you ask right away, you’ll know if your time with them was waist or not