Little bit of a backstory, I (23m) have known this girl (21f) since my junior year of high school (her sophomore). We’ve always had kind of a thing, but she’s always been very wishy washy. We talked a lot in high school but once I graduated, I enlisted, got sent to Italy for a few years and got out March of last year. About once a year since 2020, she’ll hit me up and be super flirty and interested for a week or so and then ghost me for another year. Well this year was different. She liked me on hinge and I was already skeptical from our past experiences but matched with her anyways. Sent her a text and got two responses in 3 days, I didn’t like that so I unmatched her. She dms me Instagram and asks why I unadded her on Snapchat (our primary communication before I deleted it) and then ends up asking if I want her number so I said of course. Things were going great, the conversation was flowing, she’s responding in seconds, says we should go out, I agree, and we do. The date was great, and every date since then has been great. The problem is, after every time we go out her texts start to space out more and more. To the point where yesterday she reacted to my text in the morning and I didn’t get a text from her until 9:30 at night and it was just a picture of 3 hard boiled eggs on a plate. I text back in like 15 minutes and she doesn’t respond until 2 am with “fuck I just saw this”. I just get tired of it. she’s done the reaction thing a couple times before and I’ve told her I don’t like it, I have no way to respond to it, and she acknowledged it so she knew what she was doing. She’s on summer break from college, doesn’t have a job, and doesn’t really do anything so I know she’s on her phone and just not responding.
My question is, do I just end this now before I get anymore invested? I’m too old to play this “who cares less” game. I’ve talked to a few women and I know the signs when I see em. I’ve done everything I thought I was supposed to do. bought her flowers, planned nice dates, made her laugh, listened when she’s upset, given advice where she’s asked, never let her touch her touch a door handle, never let her pay, etc… I like her a lot, her family likes me, my family likes. I can see a future, but I don’t wanna play this game for the rest of my life. Mentally it’s draining. If I’m being soft about it or overreacting, please tell me, if I should just push through it and see it out, tell me. But I’m thinking of just ending it here and telling her this is the last time we do this. Any advice is appreciated.
TLDR; she’s been inconsistent since high school, things were going great, now it’s hard to get her to respond, what would you do?