My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over a year now and we’ve had our ups and downs, but my friends have pointed out that the downs always hit every two months. She threatened to leave last July over something that was her fault, she broke up with me in November and I gave her another chance because of some stuff going on in her home life, she broke up with me again in January and I took her back, and again at the beginning of April.
I know the answer is something along the lines of “why the hell are you still with her”. I’m not perfect either and, although breaking up was an overreaction, I understood why she was upset and we’ve been working on us.
I’ve come to consult the Reddit because I’ve she’s starting to get into the same attitude and patterns that she does when she’s about to break up with me and would you look at that, it’s exactly two months since the last time (tomorrow is to the day). How am I supposed to handle this situation?
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Tell her you will not take her back this time
Leave. If you want clean shoes stop stepping in dog shit
Put your foot down and say next time is the last and you’re over for good.
Or enjoy your hall pass and fuck someone else every 2 months on your break, i imagine she’ll either end it or stop doing that
Stop being her doormat ! Tell her you are not interested in being in a part time relationship, When it suits her needs . Go find someone who respects you.
I think it’s u move on . She’s not committed to u and she think of u as a safe option who’s always going to take her back . Do u know of she’s seeing anyone during those break ups . Huonstly it’s very fishy especially because it’s every 2 months.
U need to say not this time but if u take her back again u need to tell her that’s the next time she wants a break or a break up would be the last time that u won’t take her back again.
You can see the cycle; breakup, rekindle, minor annoying crap, break up again. I realise she might have some kind of mental health disorder, but it’s probably above your pay grade. If you don’t want the rest of your life to be like this, then it is time to make the next breakup the final one