So two weeks ago my fiance drove me two hours away so I could take my board exam. We rented a hotel that night and I expected to leave the next morning. He surprised me though by getting a room for two nights so I could rest after my exam. The exam was 8 hours and I didn’t feel like eating lunch. I also skipped my last bathroom break thinking I would just go back to the hotel. I’d also been mentioning some places in town I wanted to visit.
Anyways he picked me up after my test and sitting for 8 hours and announced we were going back to his house. Also two hours away. I was so mad. I’d just sat for 8 hours and now I have to sit for another two? And he didn’t tell me before? I would have tried harder to eat my lunch and walked around a bit. I was also nervous about getting a clot from all of the sitting. I’m still mad he didn’t ask if I wanted to stay or if I was fine with leaving. It’s like he didn’t consider how it would feel to sit down for 10 hours.
Then last night I asked for help giving our dogs their bath and monthly flea treatment and he said he would help but then he disappeared for three hours. I told him he was so selfish and he said I’m the one who is selfish. Why lie and offer to help if you don’t plan to?
Today, I got my period. We don’t have any tampons also we don’t have any food here. He said he would pick up some tampons and dinner after work. That was seven hours ago. I haven’t heard from him since. It’s 3 am almost and I have no idea where he is and he’s not answering my calls. I don’t know if he’s dead or in the hospital or cheating. I’m stuck at his house with no car and I haven’t eaten all day because I’ve been waiting on him.
I’m just so upset getting treated like this. He tells me he loves me and would do anything for me but he treats me like this. And he doesn’t think what he’s doing is wrong. Like he just leaves me at his house to clean and he comes home whenever he wants. I can’t even say anything because he just screams at me and blames me for everything. If you loved someone why leave them at your house knowing they’re hungry with no food? He could have been honest and I could have ordered something. Instead he lied and kept saying he would get food.
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There’s your answer right there.
Why are you still with him? I would be out of there so fast. He doesn’t respect you. Go be with someone who will. You deserve better
Why did you not say “hey, before we get on the road I’d like to eat and a bathroom break. Also a walk around”?
He’s trying to make you his possession. Own you. So that you’re dependent upon him. Get the hell out of there. Call someone to come get you as fast as you can. He doesn’t sound like he’s a nice guy.
Call someone to pick you up and take you home. Then dump this poor excuse of a boyfriend.
If your 35 year old grown arse boyfriend leaves you high and dry and you don’t know where he is at 3am, LEAVE HIM. He’s old enough to know better. He won’t change because this is who he is. This is why we date. It’s to find out if it’s a keeper or a loser
No friends nothing? Family?
Call the police when he leaves for work tomorrow. Not 911 their other number. Non emergency number. Ask them how to leave. They will find a way for you to get out.
Unless of course it does become an emergency then call 911
Then you need to contact to authorities. He’s alienated you , that was his plan. They do that on purpose.
Please please once you get a good job. Leave this man!!! Don’t get pregnant!!! If you are taking the pill. Keep them with you so he doesn’t sabotage them!!!!
Call 911
This is abuse. You will be ok. Talk to an attorney
Seems like you ungrateful