So today I asked out my friend of a couple years which I’ve had a crush on for a while. Me [18M] her [19F]. We were on call just chatting and somehow the topic of crushes came up. She asked me if I had a crush and on who, I kept telling her I didn’t but after her non stop asking I gave up and told her I do. I knew I had to tell her who it was. So I did. I told her it was her and asked her out. She asked me if I was serious and after I repeatedly told her I was she just hung up on me.
She is my everything and I don’t know what to do.
Did I fuck up?
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You didn’t. In fact, I commend you for having the balls to do it.
Now, here’s the point I need to stress to you –
Don’t put stock into the result as if that was answer of whether you effed up or not, even IF it turns out that she doesn’t feel the same way.
Frankly, it does sound like she was either a gossip or she was baiting you into a confession.
That being said, I think it’s rude, and actually disrespectful for her to hang up on you. If she doesn’t reach out to you in this self-same day………then she clearly doesn’t care about your feelings that much, even if she came back to respond that she was interested in you as well.
Goading somebody into a confession of feelings and then putting them through the wringer overnight wondering what’s happening is cruel.
Never regret or question yourself for confessing true feelings. Maybe she is shocked now give her some time to process then follow up.
you just have to not wavier and own it.
She asked, you owned your feelings. This is good
Nah. The thing is, you have a crush. You took a step. Now you will know how she feels. If she doesn’t like you, you won’t be stuck wondering about if she likes you too and what would be if you told her, but can move on from this and focus your time, effort and attention on someone else who may reciprocate your feelings
I think we all inspire to have that sort of courage. Well done, own it.