I’m 22M and she’s 22F. Known each other for 2 years.
We had a argument about a toxic cycle we keep repeating, when we argue, we often manage to threaten each other about leaving.
Anyway, we’ve spoke a bit, and I’ve owned up to it and apologized for my doing.
But she’s now asked a question I find hard to answer.
“What is the solution to this? Because I really don’t know”
I see two options. We can move forward now and recognize that we both need to be better in these situations. And stop saying things we don’t mean in moments of unclarity.
Or we both take some time off to work on ourselves. And then meet “on the other side”. The only problem with this is that I’m afraid I’ll lose her
All input is appreciated 🙂
TL;DR: Post argument, how do we move forward?
Comments
If you two are incapable of handling disagreements in a healthy way, consider therapy . You should be able to identify when you are each getting too heated/upset to continue a conversation and take a break, you are in control of what you say. If you are unable to do that or therapy isn’t an option, then I don’t think either of you should be in a relationship at this point.
Working through problems should be done together. Going on a break is not the way.
Just quit saying you’ll break up every time you have an argument. I don’t say that so it’s easy for me to say this advice to you, but even when I argue, it’s the furthest thing in my mind to say, so I guess I don’t grasp the idea that it’s a common thing to say during an argument. So it means you have to actively work on it to not sat it so quickly when you don’t mean it.