In-laws apparently have decided I have borderline personality disorder and went to a support group to learn how to deal with someone like me. My partner dropped this information on me during an argument and I am in disbelief and feel deeply betrayed. I don’t even want to look at them any more and I have no clue how to talk to them about this.
It would have been more appropriate if they went to a support group on how to help someone going through postpartum depression/anxiety or a hyperemesis gravidarum support group, but no, they decided to pick a label based off off googling my behavior?
Obviously they have no ability to look at their own behavior which garnered my reactions to them when they would not listen to me or respect boundaries. They can do no wrong and I’m the outsider who sees through the enmeshment and family BS.
How do I even move forward with this realization? How am I supposed to look at them and continue to maintain the cordial relationship we’ve been having lately? I feel like i can’t not bring it up but at the same time I know that if I do try to talk to them about it, it will likely only lead to giving them more “fuel” to what they already think of me.
Any advice and support is appreciated. I’m not crazy in knowing that it’s completely unhinged to armchair diagnose someone with a mental health disorder and then go to therapy for it, right? How can someone just decide you have a condition and then treat you as if you do? How can someone not realize that it has no basis in reality to just label someone with something as serious as that?
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Well hey, whatever you do, they have their support group to deal with it. Just be yourself and they can attribute whatever to whatever. But are you getting help for PPD?
Yes, it’s utterly unhinged. They have no business doing this.
However, I do want to ask… did your husband tell you why he kept this from you up until you were having an argument? And I guess the better question would be, did he defend you?
You don’t maintain any cordial relationships because your IL are dangerous. This is character assassination and you can Google it as well 😉
You dont maintain any relationship with people like this. Diagnosing people with mental disorders is a classic emotional abuse technique designed to remove your credibility. If dh cannot see that, and stand up for you, I’d highly suggest some boundaries with him as well.
Would you.consider getting legal advice about this? Are they slandering you in order to try to obtain control of your children or back your husband taking the children? Makes me very suspicious