My mother is the JustNo. She’s long been absolutely terrible and raised me homeless, starving and with no medical or education.
As an adult, she has been controlling and calls me every name in the book. I’m slowly coming to the realization that is what it is. She tried to isolate me and would even follow me to college, stalk, and once called the cops on me because her ‘little girl’ was in danger, resulting in a detective tracking me down and realizing I was an adult.
I got her into housing in 2006 and I’ve done everything I can to help her, the only time I see her is to help her (grocery shopping etc). But after a good ~20 years, I’m exhausted. My husband is tired of his MIL attacking him for defending me. And she has started in on attacking my mothering skills (objectively, I’m a day-um good mama) and she’s been accusing us of not having my kid in school (she is) and saying that I’m going to become a bad mom and I’m bad because I allow my kid to be in extracurriculars?
I’m tired, verbal attacks have worn me down, and I just want to live my life now. She’s old, 80 isn’t far off for her. My brother has tried to get me to take financial responsibility for her but I refuse, she is also the type to leave burners on and leave her apartment and tries to jump out of moving cars when mad to ‘make a point.’
Is cutting off contact reasonable?
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Honey, cutting off contact is almost mandatory!
Edit: I see you are posting this same story under different user names, so I’m calling this a BS post. Go play somewhere else.
The best time to cut off contact was the day you became an adult. The second best time is right now. You’re treating her far better than she deserves.