I mean the circumstances really matter here. Am I finding out my dad had an affair and now my parents are splitting up? Or that they gave a kid up for adoption before me? Is it a fling one of them had before meeting? Did one of my parents abandon their first family intentionally? Am I the family that was abandoned and now know a parent moved on to have a second family?
The simple fact of having a sister? My sister came out as my sister in my 20s. “oh neat.”
I found out I had a half-sister when I was 20 when I reconnected with my father after a decade+. She was much younger and wanted to get to know me, but it was hard for me to want to stay in contact with everything going on at the time. I haven’t talked to her in years.
When I was 18 or so I pieced together that I most likely have a half-sister somewhere. I look very much like my father and during my teenage years, three separate people on three separate occasions asked me if I’m from XY town, because I look like an identical, but older sister of some girl that lives there.
Then my mother told me it’s very much possible this girl is my half-sister because my father already has a history of cheating, and when I was a toddler he used to work construction in that town and often came home very late.
So I jokingly brought it up to my father once and instead of laughing it off or being amused/disbelieving he immediately got defensive. Soo yeah half-sister confirmed lol.
Honestly I just found it amusing and I put the tiniest effort into finding out who she is, but in the end I didn’t really care and I still don’t. The only reason I would want to find her is to see just how alike we look. I don’t consider her a family in the slightest, she’s a stranger to me and if we ever meet, it’s just gonna be a funny story.
That happened to some good family friends of mine, and they were pretty neutral on it. The sister was their dad’s kid from a girlfriend right out of high school, so well before their mom was ever in the picture. He also didn’t know she existed until then. None of them live near each other, and the two “first” daughters already had a bad relationship with their dad, so the whole thing was pretty anticlimactic.
I feel like I’d probably act the same way. It’s not like we’d instantly become best buds, and clearly, there’s a secret at play somewhere if I’m only finding out now, so I’d proceed with caution.
I wouldn’t know how to feel. I think I’d probably have a long, in-person talk with my parents about the circumstances. I wouldn’t hold anything against her, though; she didn’t choose to be caught up in the drama.
Ooo story time! I was 22 when I found out I had a full blooded brother AND that I was adopted. How did I find out? Brother (who I literally did not know exist) reached out to me on Facebook and told me I was adopted and he was my brother. He was 17 at the time, and I thought he was a very bored 17 year old. Turns out he was right, I was pretty confused. Had the most awkward conversation with my mom (she denied it first time i asked). A lot of things about my life suddenly made sense, but after soaking it in, I oddly wasn’t mad?? Like I just gained a brother, that was pretty cool! It’s definitely hard to know how to feel in those moments considering how huge of a surprise it is, but a new sibling can be fun if you let it be. Everyone processes things differently! Taking it day by day can help. Hope that helps!
I possibly do, knowing my dad. But I’m in my late thirties now, and my sister is in her late twenties, brother in his early thirties. If any of us had another sister of course we’d love her. But we would be confused and angry at our dad. My parents split up when I was eighteen, so it could of happened but the thing that would upset us the most would be the secrecy.
I found out I had an older half brother when I was 17 almost 18. She just told me out of the blue “yeah if you ever meet a boy around 2 years older than you named (male version of my middle name) (my last name) don’t date him because that’s your bother.” I laughed. She didn’t. I asked her what the fuck she meant, and she explained that my biological father, whom I hadn’t met or spoken to at that point, had a kid a couple years before he got with my mom. I just kinda suppressed the whole thing. I didn’t really care much to meet my biological father, so why would I care about my brother? The only person from that side of the family I was interested in meeting was my paternal grandmother. Sweet woman. Still haven’t met or talked to my brother though he messaged me on Facebook once.
A few months after I found out about my brother, one of my close friends found out that she had a secret older sister that her dad had secretly been sending money to for years and was outraged, because she had been told that her late mother was her father’s first and only love, only to find out that he had had a baby with another woman first. Weird shit.
I found out I have at least nine other half siblings (dad is a deadbeat). I don’t really care and I have no desire for a relationship. I didn’t really feel much about it outside of the initial surprise. Just more disappointment that he’s putting other children through similar traumas. I hope he stops but I doubt he will.
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I mean the circumstances really matter here. Am I finding out my dad had an affair and now my parents are splitting up? Or that they gave a kid up for adoption before me? Is it a fling one of them had before meeting? Did one of my parents abandon their first family intentionally? Am I the family that was abandoned and now know a parent moved on to have a second family?
The simple fact of having a sister? My sister came out as my sister in my 20s. “oh neat.”
I found out I had a half-sister when I was 20 when I reconnected with my father after a decade+. She was much younger and wanted to get to know me, but it was hard for me to want to stay in contact with everything going on at the time. I haven’t talked to her in years.
I’d be livid that one of my parents was a rotten cheater.
How would that work?
My mom would have been 80 when she gave birth to my 20 year old sister.
When I was 18 or so I pieced together that I most likely have a half-sister somewhere. I look very much like my father and during my teenage years, three separate people on three separate occasions asked me if I’m from XY town, because I look like an identical, but older sister of some girl that lives there.
Then my mother told me it’s very much possible this girl is my half-sister because my father already has a history of cheating, and when I was a toddler he used to work construction in that town and often came home very late.
So I jokingly brought it up to my father once and instead of laughing it off or being amused/disbelieving he immediately got defensive. Soo yeah half-sister confirmed lol.
Honestly I just found it amusing and I put the tiniest effort into finding out who she is, but in the end I didn’t really care and I still don’t. The only reason I would want to find her is to see just how alike we look. I don’t consider her a family in the slightest, she’s a stranger to me and if we ever meet, it’s just gonna be a funny story.
That happened to some good family friends of mine, and they were pretty neutral on it. The sister was their dad’s kid from a girlfriend right out of high school, so well before their mom was ever in the picture. He also didn’t know she existed until then. None of them live near each other, and the two “first” daughters already had a bad relationship with their dad, so the whole thing was pretty anticlimactic.
I feel like I’d probably act the same way. It’s not like we’d instantly become best buds, and clearly, there’s a secret at play somewhere if I’m only finding out now, so I’d proceed with caution.
Depends on the circumstances and context surrounding that.
I found out that I had a brother and sister when I was 18!
I already have three sisters and a friend who stays over more than my sisters, ain’t readying for a fifth one
I wouldn’t know how to feel. I think I’d probably have a long, in-person talk with my parents about the circumstances. I wouldn’t hold anything against her, though; she didn’t choose to be caught up in the drama.
This is exactly why I’ll never do any of the dna testing! If I don’t know by this point in my life I don’t want to know.
I’d be pretty happy. I’ve always wanted a sibling. my parent have been divorced most of my life, so I wouldn’t really care if they slept around a bit
I’d feel weird about it but i’d probably try to get to know her slowly
Ooo story time! I was 22 when I found out I had a full blooded brother AND that I was adopted. How did I find out? Brother (who I literally did not know exist) reached out to me on Facebook and told me I was adopted and he was my brother. He was 17 at the time, and I thought he was a very bored 17 year old. Turns out he was right, I was pretty confused. Had the most awkward conversation with my mom (she denied it first time i asked). A lot of things about my life suddenly made sense, but after soaking it in, I oddly wasn’t mad?? Like I just gained a brother, that was pretty cool! It’s definitely hard to know how to feel in those moments considering how huge of a surprise it is, but a new sibling can be fun if you let it be. Everyone processes things differently! Taking it day by day can help. Hope that helps!
I’d hope she’s better than the one I already have who only asks for money and never asks how any sick family members are.
Curious about what she looks like and what she IS like. Will we get along? Will you be able to tell we’re sisters?
I possibly do, knowing my dad. But I’m in my late thirties now, and my sister is in her late twenties, brother in his early thirties. If any of us had another sister of course we’d love her. But we would be confused and angry at our dad. My parents split up when I was eighteen, so it could of happened but the thing that would upset us the most would be the secrecy.
I found out I had an older half brother when I was 17 almost 18. She just told me out of the blue “yeah if you ever meet a boy around 2 years older than you named (male version of my middle name) (my last name) don’t date him because that’s your bother.” I laughed. She didn’t. I asked her what the fuck she meant, and she explained that my biological father, whom I hadn’t met or spoken to at that point, had a kid a couple years before he got with my mom. I just kinda suppressed the whole thing. I didn’t really care much to meet my biological father, so why would I care about my brother? The only person from that side of the family I was interested in meeting was my paternal grandmother. Sweet woman. Still haven’t met or talked to my brother though he messaged me on Facebook once.
A few months after I found out about my brother, one of my close friends found out that she had a secret older sister that her dad had secretly been sending money to for years and was outraged, because she had been told that her late mother was her father’s first and only love, only to find out that he had had a baby with another woman first. Weird shit.
I found out I have at least nine other half siblings (dad is a deadbeat). I don’t really care and I have no desire for a relationship. I didn’t really feel much about it outside of the initial surprise. Just more disappointment that he’s putting other children through similar traumas. I hope he stops but I doubt he will.
I’d be angry because my parents have been together since before me and any of my siblings were born so one of them cheated