Tldr: not sure if the spark has faded in my long term relationship or if it’s just moving onto the “comfortable” stage
I (F26) live with my boyfriend (M27) and we’ve been together 5 years this September. Our relationship has been pretty perfect, save for a couple of long-standing issues that he doesn’t seem to care to fix which does frustrate me sometimes.
My problem is that for the past 4 months or so I’ve honestly just not wanted to be affectionate and a couple times I’ve even found it kinda hard to say “I love you” and idk why. A cuddle and a little kiss is nice but i don’t feel sexually attracted to him anymore even thought I think he’s really attractive objectively. I’ve told him I’m not feeling affectionate but he doesn’t know that I’m kinda feeling like this could be the end of our relationship.
So my thing is, is this a phase anyone has been through and made it out the other side? I know I’m really lucky and to throw away this relationship would be so sad so I really wanna hear that this is just a phase you go through once you’ve been together for several years.
We have 8 months left on the lease and neither of us can afford to pay all the rent so we would be stuck here sleeping in the same bed essentially. So there’s that issue too.
So yeh, any advice on what to do? And how to navigate it if we do break up but still have an apartment together/ a lot of love for each other? Thanks a bunch folks