His girl bestfriend tried to sabotage our relationship. Now they’re thriving while I’m still stuck with trauma. Should I expose them or stay silent?

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I never thought I’d bring this to Reddit, but this situation has been unsettling me for years. I’ve kept quiet about it all this time, hoping karma would catch up, but lately I’ve been wondering if silence is doing me more harm than good.

Four years ago, I dated a guy who turned out to be incredibly toxic — dishonest, manipulative, and eventually a cheater. But what made things worse was his “girl best friend”, who acted like she was still entitled to him even while we were together.

He told me they were just close friends. Later, I found out they used to date, and that she once told him:
“If we’re still single at 21, let’s get together.”Even back then, that rubbed me the wrong way — but I tried to trust him. Big mistake.
Throughout our relationship, she did everything in her power to undermine me:
• She told him I was a gold digger just because he offered to buy me a Penhaligon’s perfume (which I ended up paying half for).
• She’d compare me to other girls and ask him who was prettier.
• She told me directly, “He used to bring me to nice restaurants” — almost like she was trying to make me feel like a placeholder.
• She asked him why he no longer took her to upscale restaurants like he used to — even though we were clearly together.

• She even said things like, “Even if you break up with her, I’ll always be here for you.”
But the truth is, it wasn’t just her. He allowed it.
He never set boundaries. Never made me feel secure. He kept her around, entertained her attention-seeking behavior, and made me feel like I was overreacting.
And all the while, he was cheating behind my back.
• Once, I caught him almost cheating.
• The second time, he actually did — with another girl entirely.
I stayed because I was stupidly in love and thought he would change. Spoiler: he didn’t.
His friends were cheaters — and so was his girl best friend. But the most disturbing moment was when her sugar baby relationship ended (yes, she was a mistress to a married man), and she asked my ex: “Is your ex still around? I want to recommend her to him — he’s looking for a new toy.”
Like I was some object to be passed around.
My ex was disgusted, yes — but he still stayed friends with her.
That told me everything.
Eventually, I left. I blocked him. I walked away and tried to rebuild.
But now? They’re both thriving.
She’s a popular social media influencer, travelling and posting her picture-perfect life.
He’s dating freely, living unbothered.
And I’m still picking up the emotional pieces. The trauma still creeps into my current relationship — I overthink, I spiral, I expect betrayal.
My current boyfriend is patient and supportive, and we’re trying to work through it, but healing feels so slow when I’m the only one still affected.
What keeps coming back to me is this overwhelming feeling of injustice.
They got to hurt people and move on like nothing happened. There were never any real consequences. I feel like the universe handed them a clean slate while I’m still stuck in the aftermath.
Sometimes I wonder:
• Should I just keep this all to myself and trust that life will balance out eventually?
• Or should I speak up — even if it means risking backlash from her online following and social connections?
This is just a fraction of everything that happened, but it’s been weighing on me again lately.
What would you do if you were in my shoes?
Has anyone else gone through something similar and come out the other side feeling at peace?

Please — I’m open to any genuine advice.
I just want closure.

Comments

  1. IcyForm5532 Avatar

    Get some therapy u Cleary need it 

  2. One-Library2178 Avatar

    Strength isn’t always about fighting battles, but about choosing which ones are worth fighting. Your peace is worth more than their chaos. Focus on healing, not revenge.

  3. Glittering_Lion250 Avatar

    Remember: Karma has no deadline. Keep healing, you’re doing great. Their ‘thriving’ life is just an Instagram filter. You got your reality check early. Hang in there, more power to you!

  4. virtualchoirboy Avatar

    Why does it matter how they’re doing?

    No, seriously. Think about it. Do you want credit for them doing well? Or are you wishing them harm in some way as a form of vengeance? Do you really want to be the kind of person who spends their life hoping others have something bad happen to them? Do you really need to be there if they ever do suffer karmic retribution?

    Or would it be better to forget them entirely? To leave them as a part of your past. To forget they exist.

    In the end, closure will only come when you finally accept the outcome. Sometimes, life simply isn’t “fair”. You also have to remember that unless you are being given all the intimate details of their lives, all you can ever see is the false image they present to the world. You have no idea what’s going on behind the scenes and really should have no desire to know.

    Let them go. Forget them. Move on with your own life and spend your energy making the most of what you do have. They’re simply not worth the wasted effort of watching.