So I’ve had issues with my FMIL since this past February. Some of you might’ve seen my post where she kicked me out of her house after inviting me to stay halfway through the school year with 24 hours notice because I was “disrespectful” (was actually just being a human being and existing but OKAY).
Well a lot has happened since then and up until recently contact with her for me and my FH has been little to none. Yet just as the cycle of abuse indicates (bc she is an incredibly abusive individual), she’s been getting more chatty with FH and last night she finally blew when we told her we had chosen a date for our wedding.
My FH and I decided to get married this summer considering we already live together, love each other, and genuinely feel ready to take the next step. Yet when FH told my FMIL last night, her immediate reaction was that I must be pregnant (I’m not) and that I am manipulating him. Eventually I got on the phone with her after she had hung up on FH, called him back, and reassured him that “she’d be there” and that she’d be the first once to stand up when the pastor asks who opposes our union. I told her off, told her some unfortunate truths she needed to hear (e.g. she’s upset that FH left with me back in February instead of breaking up with me), and eventually told her a respectful FU before hanging up on her. She proceeded to say terrible stuff (mentioning my child trauma and my mother’s mental health issues) and finally me and FH decided she wasn’t invited. Even told her that if she showed up (which she said she was still going to anyway), I would call the police on her.
In any case, it was a lot of drama for literally a provision of basic information (as per usual with her), we both ended up emotionally drained, and she still thinks I’m a knocked up, manipulative gold digger!
Also before anyone says it, we’ve set plenty of boundaries, limited to restricted contact, and FH had been endlessly supportive of me.
Just wanted to rant really, thanks 🙂
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