my mil said it’s ok for men to cheat (or micro cheat) a little.. this applies to my s/o and hers
is she crazy? should i get myself out of this family madness?
my mil said it’s ok for men to cheat (or micro cheat) a little.. this applies to my s/o and hers
is she crazy? should i get myself out of this family madness?
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Well, if your SO isn’t shutting that nonsense down, I’d be seriously wondering why.
If your husband didn’t shut that down asap run like the winnnnddddddd
So what? You’re not married to MIL. The only actions that count are DH’s.
If he’s appalled, you’re ok. If he’s in agreement, time to bounce.
She is crazy, yes. But as someone who has worked in a very social job for twenty years, I can tell you I have seen even the best men cheat. My dad told me once men cheat for fun, women cheat for feelings. That’s pretty true. Men cheat when they have an opportunity to get away with it, and women cheat when you hurt them. In the majority of cases I’ve seen, anyway.
That’s just her opinion (and/or preference), she doesn’t speak for your SO and surely doesn’t set standards for your relationship. Nonetheless, I too would be concerned to hear such things, fidelity isn’t something to casually devalue, especially when it comes to intimate relationships she is not part of.
Follow your gut, if you’re unsure take this opportunity to vet your SO’s values and beliefs on the matter and overall life/marriage/kids situation. Either you uncover something worth re-evaluating or you and SO will have a good laugh about his mother’s inappropriate topics of conversation.