as title says. i need an advice on how to care less? how do i stop being afraid of failure. how do i stop being afraid of even trying in the first place? i feel like fear has just completely paralyzed me from doing something i’ve always wanted to do.
for context, i wanna do youtube. editing, recording, it isn’t a problem. but my voice.. i cant walk over it. i feel like people will send hate for my voice alone. this isn’t just the usual i hate how my voice sounds type shit. it’s more that i slur over certain words or sounds. i wouldn’t call it a speech impediment exactly, because most of the time it sounds okay… but to me, it feels weird. not smooth, not natural. and i can’t shake the idea that people are going to judge me for it.
i even tried making videos in two different languages and i ended up either never actually uploading, or deleting it short after, because i felt too embarrassed.
i lowkey wanted to fo youtube since 2011! its 2025 now.. i feel like im running out of time, yet, im too scared to properly try. my voice/speech is all whats stopping me i think(?)
how do i care less? how do i stop being scared to try? any advice would be really appreciated. im in my mid-20s, and i feel extremely dumb for even asking for an advice of this topic but idunno what to do.
cheers.
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Please seek professional help
There are entire books on the topic, it’s very hard to just summarize how not to care.
Also, same on the wanting to start youtube since 2011 lol
One of the way to embrace failure is to fail, and make sure lesson is learnt.
First of all, no one is going to see it unless you succeed, and if you succeed, then you’re probably good at what you do.
Second of all, we always tend to imagine the (unrealistic) worst-case scenario, know that it’s not likely to happen.
Since we are so close to ourselves we often see “flaws” in ourselves that no one else sees. For example, I have a very slight double chin which sometimes bothers me but then I sometimes look at other people and see that they have a similar situation to me and I wouldnt notice it if I didn’t specifically look out for it.
What I’m trying to say is that we are our own worst critics, and often times flaws that you see in yourself will be unnoticeable to anyone else.
Finally, if your speech bothers you that much, practice it, rehearse and practice your technique with words you’re struggling with until you feel like you’re good to go.
Make sure you are doing it for yourself. Not views or some metric. If you are doing it, simply because you want to
Regardless if you hate your voice or not. It won’t matter. What matters is doing it. Having it come out well? Not necessary. You can work towards that. Give yourself permission to make the most cringe shit ever and just keep going and you will learn as u go. Make a goal..one goal..finish one YouTube recording. Your goal isn’t to be good or bad. Get views. Like your voice. It’s just to do the damn thing. Make it simple.
If you like video games view it as a quest to complete so you can get experience to put in “voice attractiveness” and “video editing”
Once it’s done. And you hate it (jokes, but won’t be the best). Be like okay..cool..lessons learned. Yea it’s a bit cringe. Let’s do better next time. I know can do better. (This is key. Always believe you are capable of doing what u are aiming to do. Even if not right away)
Info: Go into recording lyrics 5 years ago.
I just think that no matter how perfect someone is or no matter what anyone does, there will always be haters. So might as well not give a fuck because someone’s always going to try and rain on your parade