Just a heads up, this is going to be a long post. A few days ago, I was at the mall picking up some laundry when an old friend contacted me saying he was in my neighborhood and wanted to say hi. I told him where I was, and so he came. We talked for a bit and I don’t drive so he offered to drop me off at home. On our way, my boyfriend texted me and asked if I was home as he wanted to pass through. I told him I wasn’t but was on my way back from the mall and he should wait for me since I was almost there. Immediately I arrived home, my boyfriend also did. Just to note, I was seated in the front passengers seat (this is important). Anyway I got off and my friend left. I went over to talk to my boyfriend and noticed he came with a friend, let’s call him U. Now, my boyfriend tends to be jealous sometimes so when he asked me if that was an Uber I said yes because I was avoiding us to argue in front of U. I was going to tell him the truth when he got home and was alone. After he left, he asked me to send him a screenshot of the app which I couldn’t provide, so I didn’t respond immediately. After a while I figured he was home so I told him what happened after some questioning. He then sent me a paragraph saying, “Thank God he is starting to review these things to me and show me what you actually do in my absence!”. I will be attaching screenshots of everything else. I responded by telling him I understand that I was wrong for lying despite why I did it but I also explained why I lied in the first place. Another thing is that I’ve noticed that my boyfriend tend to tell U things that happened in our relationship, hence I didn’t want him to knowing about a possible argument we could have had. It didn’t sit right with me that he was now accusing me of actions I did not commit. He responded by saying that what I was doing is justifying myself for lying to him. I tried explaining that it’s a different issue and that I had already apologized for lying to him. He has been saying that what he said wasn’t wrong and that he is the victim in the situation. Yes I acknowledge that I was completely wrong for lying to him and have apologized for it but it’s like I’m not allowed to point out what he told me as disrespectful, accusing me of going out with other guys and saying I’m playing around. He’s now saying I may have planned the meeting and even though I sent him screenshots of the last time I communicated with my friend which was in January, and the time he had called me that day which what after 5pm. So redit, AITAH. I’m happy to provide any other information.
Tl;Dr My(23F) Boyfriend (24M) won’t acknowledge that what he said wasn’t right. How do I make him understand? I lied to my boyfriend but later apologized and explained why I did. But he won’t acknowledge that he was wrong for saying I’m going out with other men in his absence.