Hi everyone, apologies if my English isn’t perfect.
I’m 30M living in Australia with my partner (25F). We’re immigrants. My younger brother (28) lives in England with his wife (28) and their 1-year-old son.
My mom has always prioritized my brother. He’s more financially stable—they recently bought a house and car—while I’ve struggled.
In 2023, my father-in-law passed away shortly after my wife arrived in Australia. Around the same time, my mom, dad, and sister visited my brother’s family in England when their son was born.
After my father-in-law’s passing, we had a daughter. When I told my parents, their first reaction was, “Oh, that’s fine, whatever God wills, you’ll have a boy next time.” That hurt.
I had to convince my mom to come help my wife during pregnancy. She didn’t want to come because my brother was visiting Pakistan at the same time, and she wanted to spend time with them. After a big argument, she agreed but spent her 5 weeks comparing everything to my brother’s place, making me feel small.
In 2025, we visited Pakistan so my wife could meet her family after her dad’s death and to celebrate our baby’s first birthday. Both families wanted us to stay, so we split our time 50/50.
My mom disliked that and told my wife not to come back if she stayed with her own mom. I didn’t want to visit my mom’s sisters because they never contacted me, but my mom got angry, shouting and telling me never to come back to Pakistan, saying I’d never succeed if I didn’t obey her.
I still visited those relatives but told her as I left that I wouldn’t return. She apologized and cried.
Back in Australia, my wife wanted no contact with my family, but my mom calls daily and insists on seeing our baby. We answer politely, but she complains we don’t talk properly and only respond when asked.
We left a bag of clothes in Pakistan due to weight limits. My wife’s mom is sending it here. I asked my mom to add a few things for our baby since my wife’s mom is sending almost 15 kg.
My mom said my wife doesn’t like anything she buys. I told her that’s not true and asked her not to cause misunderstandings between me and my wife.
This led to a big argument. Mom said she’d never forgive me for distrusting her and reminded me she carried me for nine months, yet I trust my wife more.
I stopped talking to avoid worsening things. Then mom called my wife and told her everything against her.
The next day, mom sent me voice notes apologizing and asking to forget everything.
There are many more incidents I’ve left out.