Hi. My bf(M) and I(F) are in our late 30s, we’ve been together for 5 years. When we met I had a good paying job as a graphic designer for a non profit organization. I quit in 2021 bc post pandemic things got weird, my boss was fired and it felt like it was turning into a bad environment. (This was like 8 months after moving in together.)
I quickly got another job as a place holder and assumed I could just pick up another graphic design job. But it wasn’t so easy. So now I work two jobs that barely keep me floating.
My bf has a great job with a team who loves him, he gets raises all the time. He makes 60k at least. Also his parents are rich and will leave him a ton of money when they pass. He tells me this all the time.
In the summer I make less so in May he told me not to worry about rent. But now that it’s July we just got in a fight bc he said I don’t contribute enough financially.
I said you make twice as much as I do, plus I buy all the groceries and clothes for him and cleaning supplies, shampoo, toilet paper, paper towels, I bought our couch, I buy things for the house to make it cozy and to make it function. I also do our laundry and dishes. Like I’m trying to contribute in ways that I can. I also pay for most of our streaming services.
He said it sucks that I don’t have a better paying job and thinks that our situation isn’t fair to him. I don’t know what to say. Job hunting is stressful and I like both my jobs, but I know I should probably hit the grind harder and find something like I used to have that can take care of me and us.
Thoughts? How do people handle money differences? Help.
TL;DR, My bf makes more than me but doesn’t think that means he should contribute more, how do you handle money in your relationship, I’m asking for advice. Thanks.