I’m friends with this girl who dated my ex-best friend and I think I’m starting to get major feelings for her. We’ve hung out now a couple of times and talked about how toxic he was and all her other horrible relationships. I thought when we first started hanging out we were going to go on a date, but I learned it was more of a friend thing. I was fine with that until recently after we’ve been talking more and I’m starting to like her. I used to like her before she got with my now ex-best friend and she knows that. He basically manipulated me into not asking her out before so he could date her. So I feel bad all the bad stuff she’s been and I also really like her so I want to be with her and treat her right, but I’m not really knowledgeable with how relationship stuff works. I want to tell her, but I don’t think she’ll reciprocate feelings. I want to give it a shot though in the off chance she does and I don’t just want to be friends anymore. What should I do? Is there a right way for me to ask her out or get her to like me?
TL;DR; : I don’t think my friend that I like reciprocates feelings, but I want to ask her out anyway because I’m tired of just being friends. Is there a right way to do so or way to make her like me?
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There is no way to “make” someone like you; romantic interest is a nebulous thing that stems from a different place in each person.
You can be nice, funny, smart, successful, etc., and it’s still no guarantee that the person you are interested will develop feelings for you.