I’m wondering if asking a guy for his number could come off as desperate or too forward especially since I don’t really know what kind of background he comes from. He might be more on the conservative side or might assume I do this with every guy, which I definitely don’t.
There’s also the safety side of it I don’t know him well, and I don’t want to accidentally give attention to someone who turns out to be a red flag. I’m trying to find a smooth and low-pressure way to get his number or feel out his vibe first, without making myself uncomfortable or putting myself in a weird situation.
(Y’all he fine asf it’s soo rare for me to find a man genuinely attractive beside that fact that this is concerning i don’t know what to do 🥀🥀🥀🥀🥀)
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No I don’t think it comes off as desperate, I think it’s a very modern world nowadays and as a man I would be flattered if this happened to me.
If a woman asked me for my number I would be very flattered.
Girl, asking for his number isn’t desperate, it’s confident. If he’s into you, he won’t care who made the first move. in fact, most men like it when the woman makes the first move
Yes
No please do it even if he says no he will feel really blessed that you asked I doubt he will say no but please normalise being the first to approach many men nowadays dont because we are scared of coming across as creeps or trying too hard
Do it
I did this and then he forgot about having a girlfriend 😭😭😭😭
It would make life easier all around if more women did this in a modern world; but wouldn’t it be easier just giving him your number, with a nonchalant, ‘Text me sometime…maybe we can do something together’.
Most guys i know are oblivious to anything going on around them.
Being direct and asking is the best way.
Just remember that not everyone is in a place where dating is something they want, so don’t be offended if he doesn’t want to give you his number.
Just keep it chill spark a fun convo, gauge his vibe, then say something like “Hey, it had be cool to keep talking, mind if I get your number?” No pressure, all power.
No
No if a girl asked me for her number it would make my day!
I wouldn’t. If he’s interested in you, you’ll know about it. If he knows about you and hasn’t shown interest, and you chase him, he might be flattered. You might even date for a while. But one day he will see someone who makes him want to do all the chasing and he will leave you standing.
I think you should ask for his no. If you are really wiling to know him and if you are thinking that what he will think after you asking him for his no…. Remember taking initiative is always considered as a positive and bold sign it shows how involve you are …
I usually go with “if I gave you my number, would you text me?” Kinda puts the ball in his court and if he says no for whatever reason (like if he has a gf) you can just kinda play it off like “aw, damn.” As for the safety thing, I think you’re watching too much true crime, you gotta live? Obviously if he’s giving creepy vibes stay away but I don’t think you’d be into him then? Also remember that asking someone out doesn’t show you’re desperate and nobody’s gonna be telling the whole high school because we’re adults now. It shows you’re confident in yourself. Ask like you’ll be totally ok if he says no, because you will be.
Men don’t care if a woman is desperate. Men don’t want to look desperate part because of a man’s appeal is that he can stand alone and he has options. Women want a man that other women would want, so a man that no other woman wants is a red flag.
A man doesn’t take into consideration how many other men would want that woman or how many options she has. Women always have options
If he was conservative, and he likes you, he will eventually ask for your number.
I think it would be fine to ask for his number. But since you see him in real life why don’t you instead ask if he’d like to get a drink some day after work, or a coffee, and for this purpose give him your number and if he calls it right then to put it in his phone and his number in yours – you’re off to the races!
This is how it used to be done and there was no option but to be daring and risk it. You’d meet in a public place the first several times and slowly get to know more about him and his background.
Do pursue it if you find him attractive, it is rare, to be genuinely attracted to someone. So take the risk, be forward – and it’s hardly desperate. You aren’t throwing yourself at him, you are letting him know you’d like to get to know him. He’ll be flattered. These days I think a lot of men wait for the woman to initiate going out. Good luck!
I asked my now husband out for a drink. He always talks about how glad he is that I did!
There is no reward without risk.
If you are interested in him, tell him and ask.
you realize what you’re asking is literally how it’s worked for forever right? like you just ask them for it, then they say yes or no, you’re over here trippin and ask in a Reddit, it’s so built up in your head for nothing lmao, just ask for his number