Hiii everybody, happy 4th of July. I haven’t posted in a while and I’ve also been off Reddit, I don’t really browse like that on here.
Anyways, I wanted to give you guys a little update because I’ve found out a lot of information about the divorce with Sky and Cam.
But firstly I do want to go over some other things. So if you’ve read my other posts then you’d know about me calling sky’s school and reporting her. Well basically she still attends that school which I’m guessing they must’ve given her a warning or maybe literally didn’t have a conversation with her at all which is insane.
But since the situation I explained with my baby daddy on my latest update I haven’t talked with him. I wanted to try and communicate through his mom which she’s been also trying to communicate with him but he’s gone doing whatever that nobody knows. He hasn’t seen Mia, hasn’t texted me, hasn’t come over or anything. I won’t like I was very worried at first but I decided that he’s a grown man and if he wants to act like a child then so be it because Mia is just fine with me and definitely doesn’t need his weirdo ass around her.
Cam has a long term friend, Matt (36M), they’ve been friends since college so he’s definitely been around a lot. My guess is that maybe cam and him got into a really bad argument or something while cam is M.I.A and it must’ve been really bad because Matt ended up texting me and snitching on cam completely. So, now I have more info about the whole affair.
Firstly, she was 16 when the affair started and it went on for 2 years and I just found out about it was she was 18. Cam was very controlling in the relationship with Sky and emotionally abusive. Whenever she would go out to parties, college activities, or outings with her friends then he would complain and complain and press her and accuse her of trying to get with other men.
He offered paying for her college tuition because when she started the college year she was 17, he did it so she can stay quiet about the whole situation.
She kept on telling him she wanted “the college experience” and that “she didn’t want to be locked down” and all that but he got mad about that and their relationship got even more toxic at that point.
Her parents aren’t together and at the time she was a teenager so her dad was super protective and didn’t want her talking to boys and would often check her phone which Sky told cam about this and it bothered him and made him not like her father. I didn’t get much info about her mother but Matt told me that ultimately as soon as she went to college he convinced her to cut off her parents.
He ended up basically separating her from her parents (Matt didn’t exactly tell me what he did but just told me about the separation).
Her dad ending up dying and she inherited money that could cover her college tuition which pissed off cam and he kept trying to convince her to let him keep paying but he refused because he knew that when she did it, she’d feel more freedom and most likely end up leaving him based on what she would tell him about “the college experience”. Matt told me during the affair after this happened that it was very on and off and she was mostly coming to him for sex.
Now onto after the divorce when they were together. I guess it got super toxic at that point and she was super close to leaving. She ended up pregnant with cam’s baby which she didn’t want and was very upset about. She found text messages between Cam telling Matt about “baby trapping” her, he explained how he messed with her birth control pills and that’s what lead to their breakup and his little “depression”. She ended up getting an abortion and blocking him on everything and he was on my couch venting about this but leaving out why they broke up.
Obviously, I was disgusted as hell about this whole situation. I was disgusted that he was messing around with a literal child when we have a daughter of our own and no I’m no longer allowing him around her, even if he comes back around he will NOT be allowed around Mia. His mother has been trying to reason but the whole thing is just disgusting and makes me see cam in a different light.
I’m also super confused on why Sky stayed with him, I really do believe she enjoyed the trill of getting spoiled and being a mistress because everything about her just gave me bad vibes and I really didn’t like her. When I dm’ed her after finding out about the affair she was just super rude so I personally think her and cam were made for each other.
Also last update I talked about me going on dating apps. I’ve been going on dates with this new guy and so far so good.
This was a lot to write so if there are any errors in here I sincerely apologize. I also always appreciate all the advice you guys have been giving me ❤️
Comments
I’m not reading this because imo – if you’re divorced, why should you care? Move on.
Jesus. I don’t even know what to say. That’s not just gross, it’s criminal. Cam needs serious help, and you’re 1000% right to keep him away from Mia
You’re right to be disgusted. The way Cam manipulated her, isolated her, and then pulled that “baby trap” mess is disturbing. It’s scary how many people enable behavior like that. You’re doing the right thing keeping him away from Mia. Some bridges need to stay burned.
Jesus you’re right to be disgusted.
I’d be reporting him to the authorities with whatever info you have – it might help your case down the line if he tries going for custody rights to your daughter.
OP, thank goodness for Matt! He revealed felonies that would put Cam away for decades. Use this wisely (POLICE) and you are free.
Your ex has serious problems and Mia is not going to benefit from his current brand of crazy, so I am glad he’s out of the picture for now.
I know this has all been a hurtful and overwhelming experience for you, but please stop investing your time and energy into their sad, tawdry and massively unhealthy affair. You know enough to see it wasn’t all Cam nor all Sky at fault. More unsavory detail is out there, but it adds nothing to your life or the life of your daughter. Tell Matt and your former MIL that the tea is cold and you won’t drink it any longer.
So he’s a predator and she was 16 when she was groomed, I hope you can understand that her brain chemistry is literally messed up and her shitty actions are connected to her being abused and groomed by your ex. I hope you view her with grace as your own daughter grows up and you can see how unprepared girls/kids are when adult men try and abuse them. She was in an abusive relationship with a predator that started when she was a teen.
I’m sure his actions aren’t just isolated to her and I hope you are in therapy to help you heal from your relationship.
Isn’t “baby daddy “ a racist term?
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Cam is a real piece of work who should be behind bars.
A child stayed with him because your ex is a groomer and a predator
Sky stayed with Cam because he groomed her into staying and dealing with the abuse. That’s what groomers do they isolate their victims and get them to do things like cut off their parents. if you have not done anything legally to back up the things that you were saying, I really want to encourage you to do that while he is out of the picture.
So he’s not just an abusive child, he’s a controlling predator too.
Be glad the trash is taking itself out. Time to start protecting yourself and your little girl legally. I would take all the evidence you have to a lawyer and see what they can do for you.
You should contact the police if she was under the age of consent when the affair started/abortion happened. If she had a medical or surgical abortion in the usa it would be recorded within her medical records. This man needs to be in jail, and have 0 unsupervsied access to minors. Sky is a c**t, but she was also a child who was groomed and forcibly impregnanted by that man. Thats enough to send a stable adult with a solid suppprt system into delusion.
Wow, you definitely are right to keep Mia from Cam he is sick in the head.
If you don’t report Cam you are setting up some poor girl to be his future victim. He is a predator who knows how to separate his lies and comes off harmless. He groomed a 16 year old child while being married to you and making everyone Arjun think he was a great guy. A child doesn’t stand a chance spotting this behavior if you a grown woman and his wife didn’t see it. He has shown he thrives on this behavior and you would be partially responsible for not reporting his crimes. If this were my family member I’d report them to spare another innocent child.
I’m sorry, but Cam groomed and manipulated a young girl. I know we want to give Sky responsibility because she was nasty and rude to OP, but she’s a victim. Just like OP is a victim. Please protect your daughter from her sperm donor. He’s a predator.
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Can I add that if Cam is paying for Sky’s tuition, is he saving for Mia’s tuition or expenses too? He needs to be at the very least, putting something aside for his daughter, right?
You’re doing brilliantly btw.
Keep doing what you’re doing and at this point, unless it would help you in restricting access for Cam to Mia, then I really don’t think you learning anything new about what Sky and Cam got up to is going to be of any use and you now need to start restricting your conversations with Cam to discussing Mia and her needs/wants/requirements.
Best of luck to you now and in the future!
As nasty as Sky was to you, she’s a victim of Cam’s. He’s the villain in the story.
Report him! He shouldn’t be free to possibly do this to another minor. And I would never be comfortable having him around a daughter.
When are you going to post a final update about how you moved on or are moving on and no longer wasting time on that person like a normal 32 year old would do
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